¿Cómo enfrentar los malentendidos?

0:00 Why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You, and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know the question we ask ourselves is how we should face the conflicts that arise in our lives with the people around us. We know that we all live conflicted moments with those we love and those we do not love, with those who are part of our most intimate bond, and also have helped them with whom we are sharing some experiences in life. No one can say no. I don' t have conflicts with anyone. That would be a lie. That is why I believe that the appeal we make to life is not that there are no misunderstandings of interests with those around us, but that we know how to deal with them and that we know how to solve them. For effective conflict resolution, it is essential that we have attitudes that foster dialogue, understanding

1:34 and the search for joint solutions. Whoever they are, that is, from the nearest to the farthest. We need attitudes in our daily lives that generate dialogues, that are propensity for understanding and that we can find joint solutions. Today I would like to plan art four attitudes to deal with the conflicts you have or what we have with the people we share with. The first is to focus on the solution. Listen, many times we give too much thought to the problem, to the conflict, and what we do is delve into the wound, emphasize in the difficulty, generating emotions that will not lead us to a solution. Rather, focus on the solution, how you' re going to get ahead, how you' re going to untie that knot and, above all, have clear consequences for the benefits that that solution brings you in life. The second attitude is to keep an open mind. Hey, you don' t know all of them. Your truth is not absolute, you are not the owner of the truth. That must be made clear.

3:06 One has a determination, but opens his mind and opens his mind to be willing to listen to different perspectives, to consider different points of view to which one has understood that the important thing is to learn, that the important thing is to grow, the important thing is not to win or lose. Many times conflicts are not solved because we are focused on winning or losing, and what it does is get into the mud of meaningless argumentation, in the mud of discussion that takes us nowhere. No, please open your mind to any perspective, without losing your values, without losing your position, but trying to understand what others have. That comes together to trust the process, that is, we solve the problem step by step. Sometimes we get the anxiety for a solution. Sometimes we get the anxiety to solve the problem, and that only leads to blocking us. The only thing that leads to is to generate reckless, aggressive and even violent foolish attitudes that contribute nothing to the solution of the problem. We must communicate assertively and respectfully. If one point is to focus on the solution, if the second is definitely to keep an open mind,

4:40 the third is to have accurate and respectful communication, this means. This means that we need to express our needs, our feelings clearly, honestly, using respectful language, a language that does not show our intention to blame or attack the other person, but to solve the difficulty and to express the interests and what we have within the heart. To speak of a certain communication, of a respectful communication, implies listening attentively to what the other person has to say, without interrupting them, without demonstrating that we despise the position of the other person, but on the contrary, generating a genuine interest in understanding what he is saying, in understanding his point of view. Here, too, the emotions of the other person must be validated. What does that mean, what does it mean to recognize them, to accept them, even if one does not agree. Man, you felt humiliated, you felt humiliated. I didn' t mean to, but I recognize your valid emotion, your emotion I disagree. It' s not what I wanted to make true, but I accept it and I understand it. And a fourth element that is fundamental and that I point out many times in our daily pursuits, is empathy,

6:11 understanding. My grandmother defined it easily. My grandmother said we should put ourselves in the other' s place, try to understand the motivations, needs and perspectives that the other person has, recognizing the common points, looking for the interests that bring us together, not only what divides us, not only in what distances us, but trying to find what unites us and what allows us to get ahead. Here. It is essential to avoid those judgments, to avoid those destructive, aggressive assertions, because if you are criticizing, you are prosecuting, surely you are not going to attend to a bridge of solution.

6:55 That is why we must focus on the present. Many people, not just us in the problem, do not solve the conflict, because they pass the line and begin to collect everything that they have lived in the past, which must have been stepped on, because past step, it must have been solved. And this is not the time to say. It is that forty years ago, it is that ten years ago, it is that fifteen years ago, we do not need to be willing to focus on today, on the present. There you have four keys to reflect, to put them into practice. I repeat them to you, because I think they are fundamental. One must focus on the solution, two, we must keep the mind open, three we must communicate assertively and respectfully and four, we must be empathetic and seek to understand this I say at all levels, in all relationships, in the relationship of a couple, in the relationship with the family, in the employment relationship, in the relationship with friends, in all these relationships conflicts occur because we are unique and unrepeatable beings, because we are beings, we have different interests, and it is normal for those interests to be intertwined, that there is disagreement, or that they simply collide with situations and we have to face them always looking for a solution. I' m not afraid of difficulty.

8:26 I have believed that conflicts are inevitable, but they are necessary. The important thing is that after the conflict there is a solution and an improvement in the relationship, that the reality of our relationship is now clearer, more diaphanous, more functional, more definitive. We need this so we can get through, otherwise things don' t work out and we end up suffering and I end up suffering. I' m going to invite you to humbly review these attitudes and wonder if you' re having them because we' re good at serving clearings. No. It' s not that Cristian doesn' t, isn' t that Mary doesn' t, isn' t that Joan doesn ' t? No, no, no, no. You check yourself in a moment of silence. Review it because spiritual experience always leads us to interiority, always leads us to connect with ourselves. Hey, I know that you ' re valuable, that you' re valuable, and that you have a lot to contribute. Thank you for being there, thank you for talking to us, thank you for bringing these episodes to so many people who need it.

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