Claves para superar una relación tóxica

0:00 Or why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love you are and that is already the basis to go out, to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know, we' ve all had a toxic relationship at some point in life.

0:42 I understand by toxic relationship those bonds in which one or both people involve patterns of behavior that cause emotional, psychological or even physical harm, relationships that make us suffer. These are relationships from which we find it difficult to get out, these are relationships that mark our existence. It is possible that one of you is living in one of those relationships. That' s why I want to start by pointing out what are those patterns that cause emotional damage, what behaviors are those that characterize a toxic relationship. And so I quickly propose to you from literature five patterns of behavior. The first, manipulation, is to try to control the other person and try to control it through guilt, through fear or through pity. Another pattern is verbal abuse, insults, constant critical screams, and an attitude of contempt toward the person. The third could be excessive cellus that is about controlling the other person and being controlled through mistrust,

2:12 through possessiveness, is made to believe that it belongs to him and that then he has to be willing to all kinds of insecurity behavior of this person. There' s no shortage of isolates. These people, what they do is take the victim away from his or her social or family circle. He ' s cut off by friends, cut off family visits. The one who wants to make the victim doubt his own perception of reality is the one who tells him You' re crazy, You' re crazy. Red isn' t red, blue isn' t blue. And he does so with such a convict and with such a degree of argument that the other person even ends up doubting the way he perceives reality. The question I want to answer today is how to deal with a toxic relationship. What to deal with a bond of these that harms us, in the face of a bond of this that generates emotional instability, that mistreats us mentally and until it dominates us in physical and material terms. I propose six keys to dealing with a toxic relationship.

3:40 Obviously, the first is to accept and recognize toxicity. Yeah, if you realize you' re in the middle of patterns that hurt you, behavior patterns that hurt you, it' s gonna be really hard for you to do something. It must be understood that the behavior of that person is generating a harmful context, that is making me lose my peace, that is making me doubt my worth, that is leading me to a moment of emotional dependence that is not healthy. I know it' s not easy to admit it, but it' s essential to be able to take action. And you don ' t take action, but you accept that you' re in the middle of a toxic relationship. Sometimes it' s hard for us to accept that that person I' ve loved so much, that that person I' ve valued so much is toxic, but it is. The second thing is to prioritize your well- being. Remember, the most important thing is your well - being. That' s the most important thing that you know that bonding is not important, because if you' re not well physically, cynically, emotionally, psychologically, what that bond is all about, what that bond brings about, your emotional health, your mental health, is the most important thing.

5:13 So, don' t feel guilty about wanting to get out of a situation that hurts you. If you are prioritizing your well- being and you realize that you definitely have to get out of that relationship, then do it without letting yourself be manipulated, without feeling guilty. Third, work on your self- esteem, because normally these relationships happen because you have low self- esteem and because you have been caught up in a bond where they make you believe they protect you, where they make you believe they give you what no one else could give you in life if you work on your self- sating if you rebuild that emotional opinion and realize how valuable, how valuable you are.

6:08 I' m sure you' ll be more willing to say up here, I' m sure you' ll be more willing to say I' m not still in this relationship. A fourth aspect is to set limits, and those limits are born of your dignity. You can' t let them put your dignity at risk and you have to say it clearly, you have to manifest them with sincerity and firmness. I don' t tolerate this kind of behavior. I can' t stand you treating me like that? I can' t stand you making those trials against me. It' s that clear and safe. That person is going to react with some manipulation attempt and you will have to discover that manipulation and stand firm. A fifth aspect is to have an exit plan. If you decide to end the relationship, elaborate a detailed plan to ensure your safety, because many times these people are dangerous and can even try to harm you, and then you have to be firm and smart enough to establish an exit plan. I' ll give you one more element. It' s essential that you seek support, talk to friends, talk to family or even a therapist to help you live. This process

7:43 of freeing you from this toxic relationship generates a support system that allows you to feel strong and safe to make decisions. If you realize in the background these tips, these keys, these reflections, what help you is to generate the attitude of taking care of yourself. Give yourself time to take care of yourself. You' re the most important thing in your life. So, don ' t blame yourself. Don' t blame yourself. Believe in yourself, trust what you' re capable of. In patience. The processes are gradually taking place. They' re not as fast as you want, and don ' t forget that if necessary, you have to seek professional help. We have to get professional help. In some cases where you' ve already tried everything and haven' t been able to a therapist can provide you with tools, strategies to overcome a toxic relationship. There is a lot of literature about it and from the spiritual experience, you cannot let yourself be manipulated these days.

8:56 Someone who has these characteristics told me you are, but you are a believer. You' re a Christian. Yes, I' m a Christian, but I' m not a fool. I' m a Christian, but I know how much I' m worth. I am a man who seeks to be in contact with God, but I am clear that I cannot allow in my life. I' m clear what I have to put an end to. Ton Es, please work on these keys review them one by one, as I always propose. Look for literature that will help you grow in this and generate life strategies to get ahead. Don' t blame yourself for being in a toxic relationship. It' s common for us to pass.

9:39 It' s common for it to happen. What we can' t allow is for it to hold on in time. Thank you for being there and thank you for listening to this episode. If you want to share it with other friends, please do so. I wish you all the good things and thank you for being subscribed to my channel. You know.