Aprender a ser libre

0:00 Boux, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know when I' m invited to talk about leadership always made human, about an old book I have here in my library is called the James Hunter paradox. There he defines leadership as an ability and if it is an ability, it is the one that we can all develop. I love that vision of not seeing it as a capacity, because capabilities are or are not, but skills can be developed, and that would then give us all the possibility to be leaders, in principle, leaders of our own life project, in principle, leaders of our existence. And that would help us not to see

1:36 the leaders as an elite, as a group of super gifted that nature has rewarded and that we would all have to look at them. Hunter in his book argues that to achieve person leadership, leaders must go through a process of personal transformation. This involves developing qualities such as humility, empathy, service, love, and integrity. A person who has a leadership position and doesn' t have these qualities that I just pointed out is a boss, but he ' s not a leader. He is someone who gives orders and sure is obeyed, but he is not someone who by his influence, who by his authority, moves others to serve according to the common goal. I have to say that, while some people may establish natural predispositions towards these qualities, their development, their strengthening, requires effort, practice and learning. That is, you can live a process of personal transformation that will lead you to develop the skills of humility, empathy, service, love and integrity, so you can

3:07 truly be a leader. This author, who I like so much and here I have the book underlined with very personal notes, focuses on serving others. Yes, he believes that service is that, primarily service to others. If you don' t understand your leadership as a service, you' re going to get lost in the exercise of power and you have to be clear that power destroys, that power not only damages us inwardly because it fills us with anxiety, but that, besides that, it can end up destroying others, because we don' t know them and we don' t understand that they are the center of the whole role of leadership. So, if you want to be a good leader, that is, a server leader as you have to be, you have to work on what we call interpersonal skills, that is, you have to have effective communication, you have to speak clearly, concrete short, you have to know how to communicate the message so that it touches the hearts of others and drives them to give the best. But, look, you also have to develop active listening, that is, foster that

4:39 attitude that allows you to know what are the needs of those people who are part of your team and to whom you are serving as a leader. But good communication and active listening are not enough, but we have to learn conflict resolution techniques, where there is no room for any form of violence, where you can always be able to find the variables above that solve the encounter, the clash of interests. Ah But you know how to solve conflicts you also know how to take care of ties, take care of relationships, you won ' t despise anyone, because you know that we are all important in the team, because you know that we all have a role in the team.

5:32 Without interpersonal skills there is no leadership. Because leadership is always a service and that means being in front of people. I like this author, James Hometer, in this book The Paradox, because he emphasizes the importance of leaders having a deep knowledge of themselves. Yeah, that' s the base. I know myself, accept myself and love myself by then to be able to know what my powers are and what my limitations are, what are the most developed skills I have and what I have to be working on. But, eye, it is not enough that deep knowledge of oneself, but that one has to have a deep knowledge of those who are part of the team, of those who follow us, of those who are waiting for an indication, a word of ours to get ahead, that is, of those who are part of the organization in which I work, of the organization to which we are directing. This deep knowledge is first acquired through reading, through formation, through having leadership books. I am always attentive to how much article of leadership I meet, because it is fundamental for me, but also to the observation, to be attentive to the way those people who are part of my team conform,

7:06 as the way those who are there act and also clear to be able to reflect on what I live. I can' t live on automatic. I can' t let life be a do, do, do and do. We must not stop and reflect, finding the choices of life and obvious, deep knowledge is given through interaction, sharing with others, constantly dialogue with each other. I insist, these elements that Hunter poses are not a set of innate qualities, but are skills that can be developed and that can be learned. However, it is important to note that the author also emphasizes the importance of motivation and the desire to serve others. You may have these qualities, those skills developed, but if you are not motivated and do not want to serve others, you will surely be a boss, a bad leader.

8:13 An individual can have all the skills, but without desire it doesn' t work, because leadership demands commitment and commitment demands a lot of motivation. Today I wanted to share this leadership experience with you, because deep down, I want to invite you to be the first IT leader, First of IT, to have a deep knowledge of IT and know how to maneuver and manage your life project. But also if you have an obligation as a leader, either as a dad, either as a mom or in your work or in the group of friends, to understand that service is the main feature of leadership.

9:03 Without understanding, service will not be able to be a good leader. You know that for me, the leader by antonomasia would say the elders is Jesus of Nazareth. And if there' s anyone who taught me how to serve, it' s him. If there' s someone who taught me that pro- existence is the greatest skill of human beings, it' s him. That' s why I think that, to be a leader, you have to be a servant, a servant, you have to be clear that others need the best of each of us. Thank you for being there and thank you for sharing this simple reflection with me. I hope, write me apea Alberto José Arroba hotmail com and propose to me topics of these topics of well- being, of these topics of personal development, of these topics of spirituality that interest me so much and that move my personal search. Thanks for being there. You know.