Episodes

Today's episode features TWO special guests, CCF Associate Director Leena Al Arian and Legal Director Kathy Manley. Leena has lived through the arrest and detention of a family member and can speak to the psychological effects on families of laws that target and entrap Muslims in the United States since 9/11. Ms. Manley describes the legal realities uniquely faced by Muslims in the United States, forcing us to pay attention to the laws in our country and working to support those affected by them...

FACE is helping us spiritually and physically cleanse our worship spaces of the crimes of hidden marriages, physical, sexual, and financial abuse that sometimes occurs by leadership. Although our minority Muslim community plays ostrich, MWM is not about that game. We want our masajid to recruit the right people to guide our families, and stop protecting leadership at the expense of those affected by abuse--the ones abused, which could include our children and families. Brush the sand off your ba...

This episode is NOT meant to be heard by children unless our mom audience feels they're ready for it. If you're a survivor of any sexual trauma, as a child or as an adult, you may not be ready for it either, so gauge your ability to revisit the past. We are here for you either way. If you need resources to deal with PTSD due to a history of abuse, we have links for you below, and we are always just a DM/PM or email away. This episode IS meant to prepare us to hear the hard truths about child se...

While holidays may look different for everyone, the spirit of the season is gratitude and family. Zaiba and Uzma discuss their "Thanksgiving" histories and how they became enlightened by motherhood, adulthood, and "getting woke" to all the hidden truths they didn't learn as American kids. How do we come to grips with our dark past to push a better way forward? Pull up a chair to find out. Don't forget to SHARE, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, AND REVIEW this episode! Links: 1) To learn a more just view of Ame...

Zaiba & Uzma, as big fans of FYI, want all moms to know about the amazing resources FYI makes available on teen device use, suicide, being a black Muslim teen, how to talk to our kids, and SO MUCH MORE. You don't need to have kids to benefit either! Share what you learn today and earn hasanah (reward) for it. All of our links should be SUPER EASY to memorize! And don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, AND SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode of Mommying While Muslim. Links: 1) The Family & Youth Insti...

When are we being paranoid and when are we being stereotypical ourselves? Muslim-American moms have to be extra careful to be friendly enough, but also safety savvy in a way other moms don’t. The identity of “being stuck” or “ABCD” vs. the firmly planted identities of native-born Muslim-American children will be addressed as well as offensive vs. intentional curiosity. Let’s talk about discrimination, hijab, Muslim identity, and how we plan to shape the paths our kids will tread in the future. ...

On retreat this week with a special and recurring guest, Rubina Cohen, Zaiba and Uzma review the last 6 months of podcasting: what they’ve learned, what else is coming, and how they plan to improve to suit their Muslim American mom sisters. Links 1) The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD 2) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 3) Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com 4) FB: Mommying While Muslim 5) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast Did you know you can send us a text? Feedback, questions...

Zaiba and her husband take time to sit down and talk about the importance of being on the same page while raising children. How they set goals for themselves, their children and learn their secret to raising kids that are not attached to their phones. Did you know you can send us a text? Feedback, questions, or recommendations welcomed! Support the show 1. Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 2. Email: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.com 3. FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim group ...

This week, Uzma's pre adolescent son, Usman, provides points for Muslim American moms to be successful and operate better on their day to day. See if you think what he says is just for Muslim American moms or not, and maybe you'll find a pleasant surprise. There are plenty of revelations for some here, at least for those who have been raised with some "back home" style parenting, but most of this young man's sage advice is now common knowledge, and we hope to break cycles of negative parenting w...

Come unpack all the guilt Muslim moms feel and what we can do about it. We try to prove that everything we feel guilty about is made up, and remind ourselves about the Thought Model as well as, oh yeah, Allah's promise to us! Explore the limited resources we have to learn more about Muslim mom guilt from the professionals (why aren't more people studying this?!?!?), but mostly feel better about the choices we have to make on a daily basis for our families. Links: 1) Definitions and clinical inf...

Zaiba and Uzma explore the mom bully and how she is definitely one of the toxic people in our lives. They discuss how to identify bullying behavior some adults demonstrate, review instances of being bullied themselves, and how to avoid becoming one. The mom field is supposed to elevate all of us, not push anyone down! How can we work so hard to raise awesome humans and not strive to be the same ourselves?!?!? This is one you want to listen to until the end because there are a lot of pearls in it...

After a singular incident, Zaiba and Uzma talk about what it feels like to be invisible despite showing up every day in a million big and small ways for our kids. They recount what it feels like to be "the one" as well as "the none" in the family. Maternal identity, being seen, being appreciated and the opposite of all those show up on today's episode. Review some more thought models and come feel better about our common pitfalls and how we get out of those negative spirals through prayer and re...

Tara Ijai has been the Muslim poster child of combating Islamaphobia and all hate since the Women's March. Her journey to make the world a more loving place has been original and necessary, affecting how she lives as a Muslim American and how she raises her kids in this environment. Early on she made the front page of USA Today on 2/27/17 right under POTUS' picture! Her latest projects in El Paso are inspiring, as is this conversation about how to be true to oneself. Check out her website and ge...

Links: 1) Check out the MIST website to find the region closest to you to get started/join a team at your school: www.getmistified.com 2) Email for more info on MIST: info@getmistified.com 3) Find out more about MWM and read our blog on "Voices": www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 4) Check us out on FB: Mommying While Muslim 5) Also on IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast 6) Email us questions or ideas you have for the show: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com 7) Watch Netflix "Resurrection" to see how a famous i...

How are we all doing the same thing, how are we different? We will talk about lunch prep, to snack or not to snack, "over" scheduling, bulletproof backpacks, and protractors, school dinner nights, and what back to school brings to our lives (and sometimes takes from it!). Join us to commiserate or to feel better about how you do things at home. Links: 1) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 2) Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com 3) FB: Mommying While Muslim-check out Zaiba's beautiful lunch prep f...

In this episode of Mommying While Muslim, Zaiba goes on location to her parent’s house. That’s where she sits down with her mother and mother-in-law to ask them provoking questions about mothering, Islam, and America. Zaiba hears for the first time exactly why her mom converted from Christianity to Islam and why her mother-in-law’s first experience in the United States was so disappointing. Links: Website: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com FB: Mommying While Musl...

Susan Yasen Tirhi, PhD joins Zaiba and Uzma to discuss the multiple stressors facing our families today and the coping skills they may need to help build resiliency. We really encourage everyone to go through the links below as they're terrific resources in helping us understand how to better our community. This is a great listen for allies who want to support their Muslim friends, neighbors, and families. Links: 1) Check out Susan's study abstract: https://academiccommons.columbia.edu/doi/10.7...

The 56th annual ISNA Convention is upon us---that's right, over FIFTY years!--providing crucial family programming as well as opportunities for individual development of faith, business, and personal growth. This is THE PLACE to go every Labor Day weekend, especially for those of us wanting to instill the value of Muslim American identity in our kids. They need to feel like they belong, as do we, and where better than at the single largest convention of Muslims on the continent? Don't forget to...

Ishaq Pathan of Islamic Network Group joins Uzma in discussing alarming statistics of Muslim students bullied for their religion in America. Find out about Islamaphobia networks and unique opportunities and programs ING as developed to combat them. Links: ING Know Your Neighbor Curriculum https://ing.org/kyn-curriculum-educators/#rights CAIR Islamophobia and bullying study http://www.islamophobia.org/reports/200-civil-rights-report-2017-islamophobia-in-educational-institutions.html Student Rig...

For all moms who care about our kids' learning, this is what you've been waiting for. Also, if you don't care about how our kids learn, please contact us because we've always wanted to meet a unicorn. You're in for a treat to hear what Saira Siddiqui, M.Ed of Confessions of a Muslim Mom breaks down about traditional schooling, and the answer to educating our children to be "confident, compassionate, critically thinking changemakers." Totally stole that off her new course website (check it out be...

Do moms really need to be on the front lines of protecting free speech? Are moms responsible for organizing protests and being patriots? No, we aren't talking about backtalk today. It's all about our civil liberties and one wonder mom's fight against Texas legislation that threatens them. We will discuss our roles and responsibilities in protecting our freedoms so that our kids and country benefit. Links: 1) Background on Bahia's case (short summary) https://www.npr.org/2018/12/26/680129742/t...

All our kids are at different stages, as are we on our individual parenting journeys. Let's help each other with our experiences so we're not daunted by what sometimes our cultures or histories have made unnecessarily taboo for us. Let's talk about sex, baby! We want to make sure we don't perpetuate the cultural biases against normal development, within the framework of the Islamic household and its training. Join us as we tease through "appropriate" sexual education, and visit some of the resou...

Zaiba sits down with Asma Uddin. She is the author of When Islam is Not a Religion. Find out how her father inspired her to fight for religious freedom, not only for Muslims but for people of all religions. Plus, how she’s inspiring her kids to be proud Americans and Muslims. Asma T. Uddin website: https://www.asmauddin.com/ Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Check "Voices" for our blog FB: Mommying While Muslim IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast Did you know...

Are you using the summer to get all “the things done?” Potty training, no matter when you do it, can be challenging, physically and emotionally for us. Sit back and get in your giggles this episode as we take a walk down memory lane and try to ease some of those pressures for you. Links: 1) https://www.parenting.com/toddler/potty-training/potty-training-methods/ 2) https://www.parenting.com/toddler/potty-training/how-3-day-potty-training-method-works/ 3) https://www.amazon.com/Potty-Time-Watch...