Honesty: When the Truth Hurts — Learn Polish Podcast #539

0:00 Welcome to Learn Polish Podcast, episode number 539. Pięć się, czy się dzieje wiesz? You can find all our episodes on learnpolishpodcast.com or on YouTube and Rumble and Spotify Audio and Video. You can get lessons from Ania in Polish or in Spanish and you'll find her details in the show notes but in the audio and the video you find everything about me scan the QR code or go to roycolon.com where you find my six shows. And if you're looking to start a podcast I have a school group as well, and also I have another group on brain fitness, and you'll find the links in the show notes. And if you're looking for virtual assistants, go to BA.world. Cześć, Tania.

0:40 Hej. Standardowo najpierw zadam Ci pytanie, jak się masz, co u Ciebie po weekendzie, bo się słyszymy pięć raz po weekendzie, więc opowiadaj, jak miną Ci weekend. Nieźle, grałem dużo ping-ponga z moim synem. Mhm. I just do something else? I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you too. I'm trying to relax a bit more, but I'm so happy about you. I'm so happy about you and I'm very happy about you. I'm very happy, I'm always happy, I'm sorry, I'm so happy. Today we are talking about you. tak? Jak to jest? No, bo mówi się, no, często, często ludzie mówią jesteś szczery i dziękuję Ci za to, albo właśnie wręcz przeciw, nie kłamiesz i So it's your honest and you don't lay.

1:35 Yes, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no definition of szczery. What is it? Your words... It's a word, yes. Your words, when you say something, you will do something. When you are honest. You don't have to think about it. For people who are lying, you always have to think about it.

2:21 One minute you say something, the next one is a little different. I don't know. So, honesty is just a truth for you, right? Okay. Tell me in the case, can you be very honest? Very. We can be not-shyry. Because I've heard, I've heard, white lie. Like for example, when your daughter says, if it's nice, she says, not very much, because she won't be happy.

3:06 Aha, so in Polish it would be a small clown, or, I remember, I think it was a sweet clown, or a small clown, something like that. Yes. So, theoretically, it's a lie, but it really doesn't have two significant reasons. It's not a very big lie. Okay, so lie is a lie, but it's a lie, but it's a lie. It's always to say the truth, even if it's an awkward, an awkward, or an awkward. It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie.

3:47 I think that you all are a little bit crazy, right? That everyone is a little bit crazy, but everyone is a little bit crazy, but everyone is a little bit crazy. Whether it's a sweet lie or a horrible lie, it's a difference. Sweet is not a problem, but when it's bad, it's a bad thing. Okay, well, tell me now, Roy, how to compare? Kłamstwo? No, no, it's not that, that's true, so, like, actually, of a brutality, which is a grenier between the truth and the brutalness, no, because someone can be sherry, but still.

4:32 And someone can be sherry and brutal, like, so if you say that he says the truth, he says the truth in a brutal way, without empathy, like, this person does not think about how she feels, or another person. So what is the limit between. Empathy and brutality? Can you be honest, or brutal? Or not? Yes, yes, it's not good. When a person doesn't feel good, it's not good, right? Sometimes it may be a little bit, but when you see who talks, it hurts or you are not and be happy later.

5:14 It's brutal. It's brutal. It's better to do it. It's easy to say the truth, but not so brutal. Tell me, Roy, do you think that true friendship exists. Without this honesty? So, do you know, but not to be honest with you. So, not to lie, not to lie, not to lie. Do you have a friend? No, my friend always says, like he is. He says, like he is. So you think that friendship is important, right?

5:56 Yes. Okay, well, tell me how you react when someone, maybe it's someone you're close to, or you're close to, you're talking about something difficult, so true and true. So it's difficult for you to accept it, because it's brutal, right? But it's true. And you can't say that it's true, because it's true, but it's a little brutal. So how do you react? You are not a bad person. No, no, no. You are a bad person. You are a bad person. But you are a good person.

6:43 Who can say what you are. It is very expensive to have such friends. Okay. Tell me, in this case, let's talk about this friendship. Tell me, do you have such a situation, that you lost your friend through honestness? That is, did you have been so honest with you, that your friendship just finished? Do you have such a situation or not? Yes. It was a person who helped me in business, and I organized it. I look for a client, and we have a provision for every client.

7:24 And I work for a year, and he gave me just a little bit of money, and he's a lot of money. So, first, I think that he said all about Honest, tak, szczerze, a potem, kiedy patrz, ja, moja głowa działa lepiej i myślę, że, a, on mówi to, on mówi to, a teraz wiem, on kłamiesz dużo. No, intuicja się nie myli. No dobrze. Powiedz mi w takim razie, czyli nasza konkluzja jest następująca, że szczerość to nie zawsze klucz do sukcesu, because it can also be the key to finish the relationship.

8:09 So, I think that you sleep better, when you're in the middle of the relationship. In Polish it is said that which eyes don't see, that heart is not a bad. So, if eyes don't see, then you think that heart is not a bad. So, in Polish it is said that which eyes don't see, that heart is not a bad. But it's better to know what to do with it than to live in a lie. OK. OK. Let's say we're gonna have to say a level of friendship, because we're talking about friendship. Now we're talking about friendship, because it's also true. In the world in the middle of the times, but we're talking about friendship.

8:53 So, what can we have to say, and what can we have to say? Is there a topic, which can we have to say? Or better not say, or better not say it to say, and what can we have to say? What is it? What is it? What is it? What is it? So, sweet lies and such big lies. What is it, in the relationship between partners? It's a small lie, which is a little lie, which is, I don't know. I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, what is it? What is it? That's a big lie, that's not a lie. I'll give you a example of the lie for you. Lepiej, like, even if you want to be a little bit, but when you want to be a little bit, you don't feel exactly the same when you want to be a little bit. Mhm.

9:50 No dobra, ale te małe kłamstwa i duże kłamstwa. Podaj przykłady małych kłamstw dla ciebie w relacji. To znaczy, co jest taką rzeczą, którą można powiedzieć, chociaż to nieprawda, a co jest rzeczą, której już nie można? Czyli jakieś takie granice między kłamstwami. Co jest akceptowalne, a co jest nieakceptowalne? Jakie kłamstwo musimy zaakceptować, a jakie nie? on what subject you can say? How much can it be, right? Yes. I don't know, Mr. Like a small. Exactly, a small. So what? I don't know. It's like...

10:34 Where you were, for example. No, no, no, no. What is it? Where you were? What do you say? Where you were? Maybe you meet a friend and your girl doesn't like this person, who is better saying, no, I don't know, maybe you're a little friend or a little friend, I don't know. So, okay. What kind of clowns? What in this case? For example, when a person says I was with a friend and he wasn't. He was with a boy, or he was on I don't know, look at Tinder or something.

11:20 It's a good thing. It's a good thing. Good thing. No, no, no, dobra, no, dobra, czyli są małe kłamstwa i duże kłamstwa, no właśnie, a teraz takie pytanie, czy zaufanie i szczerość to to samo? I love you, I love you. We are all the same. We are all the same. We are all the same. And we are all the same. We are all the same. We are all the same. For example.

12:01 Someone may give information about your account. And we will never get your money. But nobody knows, if everything is so close to you. It's a little bit, but close to you. Close to you, but close to you. I understand. I agree with that. Okay. Okay. Tell me, how do you see yourself? If you are alone in yourself? No, bo możemy być szczerzy wobec innych ludzi, tak? O tym rozmawiamy, nie wiem, w przyjaźni, w partnerstwie też, tak? Z partnerem naszym.

12:47 W rodzinie też przecież jest szczerość i zaufanie. Nieważne, czy to siostra, czy brat, czy rodzice. To też jest szczerość i zaufanie. A teraz przejdźmy do takiego tematu. Do szczerości wobec samego siebie. Czyli jak patrzysz w lustro i widzisz siebie, What does it mean to be honest and same with yourself? I don't know if you understand yourself. How can you be honest and yourself? Because you can't be honest and yourself. I mean, you can't be honest with yourself. But how do you understand yourself? And if you are honest with yourself? Yes, okay. How do you understand? Being honest against yourself. How do you look at yourself? It's like when something is not good, you know it's not good.

13:37 And you can say, why it's not good, because it's my window. It's not good, it's not good, it's not good. Yeah, it's not good. It's not good. So, I don't know. So, it's the skill of self-criticism. Right? And tell me, do you think you can self-critic yourself? You yourself are so critical. Not only, but I'm great. But I'm not bad for me. I'm positive, but I'm not the best. That's realistic.

14:21 Yes, you are realist. It is important to see your minuses. We know that we have pluses. But unfortunately everyone has minuses. Even I. No? What? What is it? I also have minuses. Everyone has minuses. But no, even I am not good. Even I am not good. I am not good. So, I really appreciate it, that I was very happy to hear your opinion on this topic. Okay, how would you do that at the end? The person who is going to be a sincere person, that means, who is going to say a truth from different reasons, it may be in a relationship, in a relationship, in a family, that she wants to be a sincere, but she will be a sincere person.

15:11 She just wants to be a sincere person, because she wants to be a sincere person, other person, that the person doesn't believe that what kind of thing. What would you like to be like a person who is afraid to say the truth? Sometimes I don't say what is the truth, because you say it's a good thing, because it's a family, it's a cousin. But for me, my life always says what is the truth. No, no, no.

15:54 Osoba wymienić and wie i jesteś szczęśliwy, bo było szczeroście and normalne ludzie mówili, ale wszystko z porządku. No tak. Nawet jeśli ktoś nie uwierzy, to też. To już jest problem tej osoby, co nie wierzy. Najważniejsze, że my jesteśmy szczerzy with each other and with each other. No dobra, Roy. Dziękuję Ci bardzo za ten krótki, psychologiczny podcast. Naprawdę. Psychologia to mój ulubiony temat. A powiedz mi, bo ja to nie wiem gdzie. Gdzie jest sekcja komentarzy? Czy ktoś to skomentował? Nie, chyba. Tak. Ludzie może na komentarz na Spotify, YouTube, Rumble, YouTube i czytamy i Facebook też będzie czytamy co pisz.

16:41 Dobrze. Ja w takim razie chętnie zobaczyć te komentarze. Będę sprawdzać, będę sprawdzać Dobra, to co, dziękuję bardzo I do usłyszenia.