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Hi everyone, and welcome to the music of Life.
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I'm your host. Karen Portnoy, before I get into this episode, please comment, ask questions, share some of your experiences, and don't forget to subscribe.
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Hi everyone. You know, it's interesting now that this is episode 55 there are some people from my ex world who are now starting to come forward and send me private messages just offering their support and all of that, which is pretty interesting. And I guess the irony is that I got two messages from my ex husband's friends who reached out to me privately, and that was kind of shocking. I mean, it was pleasantly welcomed, but I don't know the tide feels like it's starting to turn a little so maybe people are starting to hear what I'm posting and read what I'm posting, and starting to see that I am who I say I am, and not the lies that my ex has been spreading about me. So one of his friends reached out and said, he sounds like a monster.
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I'm just so sad for you. I'm so sorry for your post. It sounds like lots of struggles for you.
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I'm so so sorry. So that was one person, and then another of his friends sent me this in the wee hours of the morning, I guess early this morning, she wrote, sounds like you are okay. I'm really sorry you had to go through an abusive marriage.
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Thank you for bringing this never talked about subject to the light. May you and your daughter be blessed forever.
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Take good care. And then my friend who just reached out to me, actually yesterday, she said, I love your videos, sad because of the reasons, but excellent. And then she went in to talk about something going on with her. And then she ended with, he will absolutely have his day. Keep being you. Love you. You.
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So, you know, I'm grateful that I don't, but I find it interesting that people are starting to come around and and just acknowledge what I've been through. Again, I don't know the full story of what he sold everyone about me and the lies and everything, but I see, I see what's happening. I see what people are, you know, looking at and responding to and all of that. So, you know, my eyes are open. You know, I don't expect any of my ex friends to reach out. I mean, if they do, that's fine, but I'm not expecting it.
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And, you know, I think that maybe they're, maybe they're feeling a little bit like their tails are between their legs, like maybe they got it wrong by listening to him. But you know, like I've said in some of these divorce groups, when people ask, you know, why do people believe the lies about you. And I keep saying because it's easier for those people to side with the x, because it's easier, they're not going to go out on a limb and fight for you and put their own reputation or whatever on the line. So of course, they're going to align with the, you know, the monster, quote, unquote, because it's easier, but okay, now they get to watch me rise in the process. And they get to get, you know, nosebleed seats, and, you know, and and see what I'm up to. Because things are happening, things are unfolding. And now I'll be able to share some of this stuff in the next week or two.
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Oh, I had a funny story to share. So something happened during the divorce, when my ex husband was court ordered to continue paying the my car lease, and he was like livid that he still had to pay for it.
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So one day, we were standing out in the hall in court, it was my ex and his lawyer and me and my lawyer and my ex decided that he was going to try and negotiate down how much he paid me per month for my car lease. So he said, in front of both lawyers, he goes, I'll give you $300 a month for your lease. Like matter of factly. You know, my attorney looked at him square in the face, and she goes, $300 Yes, I can't even go to lunch on$300 and she spun around on her Fendi shoe and she walked away.
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It was classic, if I could bottle the look on his face when she said that, Oh, my God, it was priceless. His eyes bugged out like what? But it was very clear that that was not an acceptable offer, nor were we open to negotiate any offer at that point. So he had to pay what he always paid.
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And the funny thing is, so, you know, the plan was that I was going to buy my car off the lease at the end of the lease, and as it got closer to that date, once again, he tried to sabotage me by like jerking me around. He wasn't making this an easy transaction for me at all, and because I was moving out of the house, which was the only way the divorce was going to end, and he had to pay me my half of the house before I was going to move out. I was planning on buying the car outright, and because he was giving me a hard time and playing games and jerking me around and all this stuff, and I was starting to get anxious and stressed and all of that. So at some point, I thought to myself, You know what? Fuck this shit.
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I'm not no, I'm taking my power back. So I researched different car dealerships, and I priced out my car that I wanted, and I went and I negotiated for myself and I wasn't going to pay more than what I was going to pay to buy it off the lease. So I played hardball, and I got the price that I wanted for a little bit of a newer car with lower mileage, and I got all the features I wanted, and and I was happy. So I bought my car outright at the dealership, and the next day, it was ready for me to drive off the lot, and so I drove my new car home, and the old car was sitting there, and he's now trying to bully me into I have to bring that car back to the old dealership. And I was like, What are you kidding me?
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The car is under your name. It's your problem now. And I drove off in my new car, and I left the old car there. So, you know, I guess you take wins when you can get them, but it was all about taking my power back. And it was all about, you know, enough is enough. So I thought I'd share that, because it was kind of a win for me, and I just want to end off talking about, you know, the power of having positive people around you, how important that is, because, God, one negative person in the bunch can just spoil everything, and I just won't surround myself with negative people anymore. I just won't. So I'm very intentional with the people in my world and my circle who I let into my energy. I mean, it makes or breaks everything. Just think about it. You know, like, who in your world is dragging you down with their negativity because, I assure you, it's affecting you.
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Keep it positive. That's all I have to say about that. Anyway, I'm gonna wrap it up. Thanks for listening. I'll catch you next week.
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