Lynne Thompson
thompsonlynne92@gmail.com

Sat, Aug 6, 2022 . 2:34 PM

29:51

Owner: Lynne Thompson
SUMMARY KEYWORDS
regret, people, workshop, works, talking, life, joy, thought, feel, love, deal, colors, acres, wonderful, find, world, point, painted, rabbit hole, michigan
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Hello, and welcome The Storied Human. I'm Lynne Thompson. And I'm really lucky today to have as my guest Annemarie, a really good friend that I met through the podcast class that I took. I think I've mentioned it before on our podcast. So we had been talking about regret, and decided it would make a great discussion. Now AnneMarie has a really interesting history. She has a lot of business background, she grew up in Germany as part of a family business, and learned how it worked from an early age. She had her own insurance agency at one point, she owned six spas, and she had 28 employees and she loved the experience. Now she runs health and wellness, as well as regular tours, specializing in Southern California. And she is trilingual, she speaks German, French and English. So she works with international clients, too. So we spoke earlier and realized we had similar thoughts about regret, and decided it would make a great discussion. Right on my wavelength Emery take it away. Well, thank you so much. I am so excited about our discussion here. And we met through podcasting, which is such a miracle, such a miracle, lifelong friends created by a common interest, and I love it. And when you mentioned regrets, of course, with a wonderful song, generally credit,
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I just loved it. And that tickles is so much my brain because we can sing about it, we can talk about it, we can tell ourselves not to have regrets. But all of that doesn't change that we live with regrets. And one of the horrible things about regret is you cannot have hope. And regrets, regrets wipe hold off, because it's such a hopeless state of mind that totally immobilizes us when we eat our way down that rabbit hole. And we live a situation that we have done, neglected to do, or later thought, wow, that would have been a great idea. And I think, of course, always about the poem, The Road Less Traveled. So why what would have happened to and all this waste of time. So when we go into this freeze, where we tell our own story. And it's not a goal, it is literally going backwards. It's a regression. And so I am fascinated by your workshop useful both because I the workshop, I feel is so valuable is so important, because I am thinking of what if solving how we deal with regrets. And once and for all find a formula that works for each of us. I am sure there is no standard formula, or stamp. If a was then the little sparrow in Paris, just singing, it would have taken all the way. But you can't you see every person has to find their way. And it has to be talked about it has to be supported. And I think that support is what helps. However, I am thinking what if dealing with the regret, and solving it is the key to well being? What if it is that simple. We all look for the billion dollar answer. What if it was that simple that we could let go of it. Deal with that union or like Susie may have to journal about it? Right? See, you may have to talk until the cows come home about it. Okay. And finally she gets tired of talking about it and says, You know what? I'm good. I'm sick and tired. Or something one of our fellow podcasters Margot said, when you're sick and tired of your own behavior, you actually can heal and let go.
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That's a really cool way to say it. Yeah, and I feel like it's another way that we focus on the past too much. And I know I do do that. I focus on
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The past
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and regret is part of that. Yes. And that is so important. And that, again, that going somewhere in our mind and acting like physically, like everything is fine. But we are not experiencing today. And I don't care how many Eckhart Tolle is we listen to our show, press or press or whatever, we have to help each other. And maybe that is the answer, and it intrigues me beyond measure. Because if we can take this energy, we put into this regretful situation, that we can not change forks. If we could change it, Lord, the world would have peace, everybody would have food, everything would be fine. It is just that we need to do something today, not tomorrow, we have to today be free from this draining experience. It's so true. I think it really hobbles people. You know, it's like a lot of extra baggage that you're pulling behind you. And I also think like I said to you before we started recording, I think it has a lot to do with forgiveness, forgiving yourself finding a way to forgive yourself. Because after all, we all make mistakes. And feeling bad about it forever doesn't help anybody. And we're all human. And I always ask like, what would you do if a friend did what you did? You would be kind to the friend, you would say we all make mistakes, you have to forgive yourself and move on. So we need to take our own best advice. Yes, yes. And that is a game where I feel your workshop is such a positive step forward. Because it is action. And action doesn't allow us to drool over the past or flail ourselves endlessly over what we have done. Haven't done should have done. You know, we are missing the boat. While we worry about the ship. We did not climb aboard. Oh my gosh, yes, that's such a good way to put it. You know, I did a little bit of reading before I did the workshop. And one of the things I read was really interesting. They said, it's not like regret has no use whatsoever. to regret something is to be a conscientious person who feels guilty when they don't do the right thing. So a little regret is great. You know, you realize you did something wrong, but then to hold on to it. That's just stupid, right? I know that I've held on to things way too long. And I just see what a waste of time it is.
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And to my oldest sister would say the Latin word Mia culpa.
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So sorry, forgive you. So that is that was her way of dealing with regret. May I call back? And when she said it, I thought, well, that's kind of chicken poop.
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I'll call upon you just kind of, you know, that really wasn't very nice of you. And she was whistling Dixie and going on. So that was her way of dealing with matters. And what if it was that simple? What if it was a key word to say to remind like that, yeah. Snap us back to reality direct? Yeah, I like that a lot. Yeah, yes. Yeah, maybe it is. Yeah. So I feel with your workshop. It is such a godsend to help people. Thank you. Well, I'm going to try to get it out sometime in August and have you know, have a little intro like you guys, anybody who wants to attend it for free. It'll be great. And I'll get some feedback for how you know how I feel it went. But it's really selfish. I was finding myself revisiting my regrets too much. And so like all workshops, I think it comes it comes down to trying to help yourself.
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Hopefully, as you're helping yourself, you're helping others.
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I love that. Because I just find we have to another thing is we have to have enthusiasm about this. So we are sitting here and I thought about that these last few days. Because I've asked people how do you feel about regret and everybody has a different view about it. It's very interesting. Yeah. And I feel we need to have a little enthusiasm about it and not look at that and go like, Well, no, I
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I have to look at my regrets and how boring and how terrible and I'm trying so hard. And why do I have to even think about it, we need to look at the freedom we need to look at the joy to once and for all put this to rest.
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Just imagine it's like growing wings, we can fly. We don't have to go ahead and feel bad anymore. We can have joy, because you cannot have a big fat regret and experience that deep inner joy. And I love the French dwad The Vive
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both hands and nap some joy. And there's no reason you have joy. There's no big money coming your way. There is no no no helicopter coming to give you a ride. You happen to enjoy to be alive. That joy, that big smile. And yeah, that you can't happen. You have regrets. And so I find we need to take ourselves lighter and laugh about this and tell each other that it's okay. So what you revisited your regrets today is almost like, you know, a program where we give each other a chip, that we made it a whole day without all the we made it a week, we made it a month, you know, it's going to be a 12 step program. And when we know how to do it, we can give it to other people. Yes, it's not overnight. That's a really good point. And I keep thinking it's like that quotation that they say, I guess Buddha said, when you're focused on the past, that's depression, you know, but it's also regret. And when you're focused on the future, that's anxiety and worry. So what you're talking about is the joy of being right here right now. Being present, and not not being caught up in the past, and not being too focused on the future. That's like a real challenge for a lot of us. I tend to live a lot in the past, I don't let it go very easily. I've been really working on it. I've been trying really hard because my tendency is to look backwards. And I don't want to be like that anymore. So that's part of why I started the workshop. That is fantastic. And to when we live with the regret, we are scared we have fear of making a decision. So we go through this again, a new so I've adapted something when people say, Well, aren't you afraid to make this decision? And I said, Well, you can't scare me, I raised three sons. I am still alive. I have changed locations like mad. I change professions. I haven't really ever changed the profession. I just add to it. Right? Ya know? And just somehow see how this, you know, like, Who is it Mary, Mary Oliver, the poet,
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this beautiful picture, where the little girl is surrounded by all kinds of blue greenish colors. And it says, What will you do with this crazy life of yours? I love that. That is just so phenomenal. And maybe it's those simple little sayings that will help us like if you were supposed to be in one place for the rest of your life. Instead of feet, you would have roots.
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We are supposed to
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supposed to go and grow. Yep. And grow as we go and say well, you know, kiss I lost forever, whatever will be will be here I am, you know, and how much stuff do we need? And how much joy can we spread. And that is where I find our journey of podcasting. Our getting together is so life enriching. And I'm so grateful that I met you. And we are walking this journey together. Same here. I cannot believe the quality of you and the other people that we meet with. It's feels like I've known you all forever. It feels like I can tell you whatever I want to say and it's received as if we've known each other forever. There's just this. We're all at this very similar journey. We're all at the same. You know, we have the same mindset. We're all dedicated to moving forward and I love that, you know, like you're making a really good point. We're not here to you know, I
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Have that petition about the boats. It said boats are, are safe in a harbor. But that's not what boats are made for. You know, you're not we're not made to sit around, we're made to move and to grow and to move through our life and move forward. Anything else is sort of stagnation, you know?
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Well, really good point. Indeed. And I was.
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Hello, this is Lynne Thompson here. We lost our internet for a little bit. And I wanted to make sure that when the conversation picks up again, that you know that Anne Marie is talking about houses she's seen in Michigan, that were designed by the famous architect, Frank Lloyd Wright. That's who we're talking about when she resumes thinks.
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seen different architectural homes by you know, built by right in Lansing, Michigan, Kalamazoo has a couple San Diego has a few they're all over how ever the uniqueness is that 1/3 of his work, he accomplished that take a third, okay. Between the age of 80 and 92. He accomplished 1/3 of his entire life successes. I love that. I always use the painter Grandma Moses as an example. She didn't even start painting, I think till she was in her late 70s. She painted these beautiful pictures for the next two decades. I think she died in her 90s. Well, actually, I read, I read a study that said, the most prolific group of people, we just don't think about seeing your people in the right way. Because by the time you have accomplished all those experiences, by the time you've garnered all that wisdom,
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you know, people in their 60s 70s and 80s are very productive. They really are. And if you think of the leaders of the world who are still in office, in their 70s and 80s. And you know, I don't know, I think we have to reevaluate that. Right? Like, that's a wonderful, I didn't know that about Frank Lloyd Wright. That's wonderful. Well, and that's the amazing part because as an architect is a very, very vital, a very active role you play and the creativity. I also did not know that he created two groups of colors. And I like I said, this has nothing to do with Korean regret, and yet all to do with regret. Because if he would have sat in a dark room, all the press being regretful he could not ever come. And we wouldn't have Yeah, we wouldn't have like a third of his work, right? No. And he even accomplished to create two sets of colors
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is almost more muted. Like for example, the red is a burgundy like a cause a Cherokee, it's a Westie red, and greens and purples and whatever. The other colors are vibrant. And I had no idea the lobby of my very first day spa, I hunted the world over to find that color by a certain company, and finally found it in a professional paint store. And believe it or not, it is his brilliant red, I think it's called lollipop. And that is the red, I painted my blobby and then put in a Italian taupe color, soft leather.
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corner piece couch in there. Lovely. So I didn't even know that until a couple of days ago, I saw his palette of colors. And I went like, whoa. So if he would have had a lot of regrets, he couldn't have done all of that. Yeah. And I think you're making such a good point. Regrets can gum up the works, it can freeze people, it can stop them, if they're too if they're too bad. And yet, also, there's another thing and I wasn't meaning to talk about this, but
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especially me growing up. You know, being a little older. Our, our mothers
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were not, you know, I had a lot of my mother didn't get her education until later. A lot of mothers were at home. You know, there were a lot of frustrated young mothers who had babies really soon. And so there was a lot of bitterness. You know, by the time they got older, they were really bitter. And who could blame them? I mean, you know, they followed the rules, but they didn't use their talents. Some of them did. Some of them always find a way to break out. My mother did she she became a counselor and she went back to school and it was really hard and that's like amazing to me. But a lot of mothers I noticed older people got bitter.
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For being sold, maybe a bill of goods about how to live, you know, and not not being taught how to, like you're saying not being taught how to be vital how to how to be joyful, how to move forward. So there's bitterness and regret. I think they kind of go together sometimes. Yes, and it's heartbreaking. And they felt also a sadness. And then we didn't have choices. They saw they had no choices, right? Oh, that's so crucial. Yes, only the bravest and craziest of the women actually live different lives. Most women, you know, in the 50s and 60s, they lived the way they were supposed to. Well, and that is the most unusual people like yesterday was was was the pilot that was last Amelia Earhart's birthday yesterday, and when you look at her life, and look at her struggles, and how she still tried to be a wife, to a husband to she really was mismatched with by the sounds of that. So when you look at that, or I am thinking of the creator of the Steiff bear, and that is one of my favorites. You posted that on Facebook, I love Yes, because her story is so unique. Not only was Did she have polio, and she couldn't walk and she had all the trouble in the world too. So but her little brother talked her into putting the button in the Bears Ears so that's is the type bear has a button in the ear cannot see him or, and he went to New York to the toy market, though the World Fair. And he sold all these bears. And do you know another brother of hers came to Michigan and had a factory in Chelsea, Michigan, and I say fair, and unfortunately they closed five years ago, they shut the factory down. But they were wanting with Germany together. So imagine this woman in this in a time where nobody had even a wheelchair. She created this. And I took my grand daughters to the sky factory in Germany. It's like a Willy Wonka factory. It is I love it, because it is beautiful. So and it will set these great examples that give us inspiration. I mean, she sounds so inspiring. I'm kind of obsessed with Beatrix Potter, the the author of the Peter Rabbit books, the more I learned about her the more I fell in love with her. Now she came from a privileged family, they did have money, but what she did with her life, like she didn't, she did something really different. Like she didn't get married right away. And she did these illustrations, she was obsessed with nature. She did these beautiful illustrations. And she ended up and nobody thought it would become anything. And she ended up selling a book. And everyone went crazy for it. And she just what I really love is she ended up with the money she made from the books. She bought a huge bunch of acres, like 1000s of acres in the Lake District, so that she could protect it forever. And I just thought, what a lovely life. You know, she was creative. She shared this wonderful. It's very similar. You know, the, the bears are wonderful. I've seen them. They're, they're very special. And I think to share something for children that everyone loves. And then in her later life to save the land. I mean that those acres are still under protection. Nobody can build on them. And it's absolutely beautiful. They've preserved our farm. I just think some people in spite of how you know the time that they're born into are very inspiring and we can take a lot of inspiration from them. And that's it to find passion and what you are talking about is passion. In doing what you want to do is passion in giving forward is passion to preserve for mankind. And it is amazing. Someone today thank me for showing her kids session Park in Pacific Beach, San Diego. A lot of the local people don't know it exists. And that session came to San Diego 1907 where there were no trees and she's the mother of the trees of Balboa Park and
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counterpart she requested the 65 acres overlooking the ocean which is Kate session Park and it is
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is phenomenal. And these were all local people yesterday that experienced that because me little foreigner found that out and walked in with my dog.
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And I love it. It's safe. It's beautiful. It overlooks the ocean. And people go like, how can this exist in the city? Well, she kept it, and it's a preserver it was her gift. Yeah, yes. Oh, what a gift. I, I'm very intrigued that you followed your passion that you always knew to do that. Because we're not necessarily taught that. We're taught to be saved and follow the, you know, the regular path for women. But you seem to have always got gotten excited about stuff, and followed that.
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Why do you think that is? Well, I always swim against the stream. I like the challenge. Uh huh. I don't settle.
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I don't know why I truly don't. I also do fall into the rabbit hole of regrets. Why didn't I just stay at that house? And why did was lie and look how wonderful it all was? Why did I go and stick my neck back out there. There is something that drives me that I'm not done, explore. I'm not done, you know, building my next, or whatever it is. And I think, looking at that with thought, as we started with regret, I would like to almost say as a conclusion, we need to have more than solving how to deal with our regret, we need to find a way to make it bigger than us that we learn from it. And we can give something to the rest of the world by us having found a way to deal with this. And by giving it away, because that is such a powerful message that it is in giving that you will see. And it's in loving that you are loved. And to me, that is the answer. Because I think you're so right. They say when you feel low, when you feel sad, the best thing you can do is volunteer your time or do something for someone else. That is so transformative. Yes, yes. And so the entire regret. I believe we can teach others as we learn as we do this workshop. And as we all of us together can enjoy and do things that are bigger than us. This is not about us, little old me how can I be happy? If I do something, and I reach out no change other people's lives? I mean, that's just phenomenal. I'm hearing something really incredible. I'm hearing like,
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let's not just deal with our regrets. Let's learn from them, and share something wonderful that we learned then then they're really they're not a waste, then they're not a waste at all. Yeah, you've really made me look at it a little differently. I like that. I'm so glad we had this time. I could talk to you all night.
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I know, I know. So, you know, everybody listening, you have to come and participate on the workshop because we need your feedback. We need your opinion. We need to know what are your brilliant ideas, how we can make this a better, happier, joyful life.
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It's wonderful. Thank you so much. I'll include it in the show notes. And I'll also include where you can find and Marie. So we can you know, you can contact her get check out her social media, or her website. And until then, I'll see you guys on the next episode of the story of human and I'll let you know the date for the regret workshop as soon as we we decide. Thanks again. Annemarie, it was so good talking to you. Thank You
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Sat, Aug 6, 2022 . 2:34 PM

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Owner: Lynne Thompson
SUMMARY KEYWORDS
regret, people, workshop, works, talking, life, joy, thought, feel, love, deal, colors, acres, wonderful, find, world, point, painted, rabbit hole, michigan
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Hello, and welcome The Storied Human. I'm Lynne Thompson. And I'm really lucky today to have as my guest Annemarie, a really good friend that I met through the podcast class that I took. I think I've mentioned it before on our podcast. So we had been talking about regret, and decided it would make a great discussion. Now AnneMarie has a really interesting history. She has a lot of business background, she grew up in Germany as part of a family business, and learned how it worked from an early age. She had her own insurance agency at one point, she owned six spas, and she had 28 employees and she loved the experience. Now she runs health and wellness, as well as regular tours, specializing in Southern California. And she is trilingual, she speaks German, French and English. So she works with international clients, too. So we spoke earlier and realized we had similar thoughts about regret, and decided it would make a great discussion. Right on my wavelength Emery take it away. Well, thank you so much. I am so excited about our discussion here. And we met through podcasting, which is such a miracle, such a miracle, lifelong friends created by a common interest, and I love it. And when you mentioned regrets, of course, with a wonderful song, generally credit,
1:48
I just loved it. And that tickles is so much my brain because we can sing about it, we can talk about it, we can tell ourselves not to have regrets. But all of that doesn't change that we live with regrets. And one of the horrible things about regret is you cannot have hope. And regrets, regrets wipe hold off, because it's such a hopeless state of mind that totally immobilizes us when we eat our way down that rabbit hole. And we live a situation that we have done, neglected to do, or later thought, wow, that would have been a great idea. And I think, of course, always about the poem, The Road Less Traveled. So why what would have happened to and all this waste of time. So when we go into this freeze, where we tell our own story. And it's not a goal, it is literally going backwards. It's a regression. And so I am fascinated by your workshop useful both because I the workshop, I feel is so valuable is so important, because I am thinking of what if solving how we deal with regrets. And once and for all find a formula that works for each of us. I am sure there is no standard formula, or stamp. If a was then the little sparrow in Paris, just singing, it would have taken all the way. But you can't you see every person has to find their way. And it has to be talked about it has to be supported. And I think that support is what helps. However, I am thinking what if dealing with the regret, and solving it is the key to well being? What if it is that simple. We all look for the billion dollar answer. What if it was that simple that we could let go of it. Deal with that union or like Susie may have to journal about it? Right? See, you may have to talk until the cows come home about it. Okay. And finally she gets tired of talking about it and says, You know what? I'm good. I'm sick and tired. Or something one of our fellow podcasters Margot said, when you're sick and tired of your own behavior, you actually can heal and let go.
4:51
That's a really cool way to say it. Yeah, and I feel like it's another way that we focus on the past too much. And I know I do do that. I focus on
5:00
The past
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and regret is part of that. Yes. And that is so important. And that, again, that going somewhere in our mind and acting like physically, like everything is fine. But we are not experiencing today. And I don't care how many Eckhart Tolle is we listen to our show, press or press or whatever, we have to help each other. And maybe that is the answer, and it intrigues me beyond measure. Because if we can take this energy, we put into this regretful situation, that we can not change forks. If we could change it, Lord, the world would have peace, everybody would have food, everything would be fine. It is just that we need to do something today, not tomorrow, we have to today be free from this draining experience. It's so true. I think it really hobbles people. You know, it's like a lot of extra baggage that you're pulling behind you. And I also think like I said to you before we started recording, I think it has a lot to do with forgiveness, forgiving yourself finding a way to forgive yourself. Because after all, we all make mistakes. And feeling bad about it forever doesn't help anybody. And we're all human. And I always ask like, what would you do if a friend did what you did? You would be kind to the friend, you would say we all make mistakes, you have to forgive yourself and move on. So we need to take our own best advice. Yes, yes. And that is a game where I feel your workshop is such a positive step forward. Because it is action. And action doesn't allow us to drool over the past or flail ourselves endlessly over what we have done. Haven't done should have done. You know, we are missing the boat. While we worry about the ship. We did not climb aboard. Oh my gosh, yes, that's such a good way to put it. You know, I did a little bit of reading before I did the workshop. And one of the things I read was really interesting. They said, it's not like regret has no use whatsoever. to regret something is to be a conscientious person who feels guilty when they don't do the right thing. So a little regret is great. You know, you realize you did something wrong, but then to hold on to it. That's just stupid, right? I know that I've held on to things way too long. And I just see what a waste of time it is.
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And to my oldest sister would say the Latin word Mia culpa.
8:01
So sorry, forgive you. So that is that was her way of dealing with regret. May I call back? And when she said it, I thought, well, that's kind of chicken poop.
8:18
I'll call upon you just kind of, you know, that really wasn't very nice of you. And she was whistling Dixie and going on. So that was her way of dealing with matters. And what if it was that simple? What if it was a key word to say to remind like that, yeah. Snap us back to reality direct? Yeah, I like that a lot. Yeah, yes. Yeah, maybe it is. Yeah. So I feel with your workshop. It is such a godsend to help people. Thank you. Well, I'm going to try to get it out sometime in August and have you know, have a little intro like you guys, anybody who wants to attend it for free. It'll be great. And I'll get some feedback for how you know how I feel it went. But it's really selfish. I was finding myself revisiting my regrets too much. And so like all workshops, I think it comes it comes down to trying to help yourself.
9:23
Hopefully, as you're helping yourself, you're helping others.
9:28
I love that. Because I just find we have to another thing is we have to have enthusiasm about this. So we are sitting here and I thought about that these last few days. Because I've asked people how do you feel about regret and everybody has a different view about it. It's very interesting. Yeah. And I feel we need to have a little enthusiasm about it and not look at that and go like, Well, no, I
10:00
I have to look at my regrets and how boring and how terrible and I'm trying so hard. And why do I have to even think about it, we need to look at the freedom we need to look at the joy to once and for all put this to rest.
10:18
Just imagine it's like growing wings, we can fly. We don't have to go ahead and feel bad anymore. We can have joy, because you cannot have a big fat regret and experience that deep inner joy. And I love the French dwad The Vive
10:41
both hands and nap some joy. And there's no reason you have joy. There's no big money coming your way. There is no no no helicopter coming to give you a ride. You happen to enjoy to be alive. That joy, that big smile. And yeah, that you can't happen. You have regrets. And so I find we need to take ourselves lighter and laugh about this and tell each other that it's okay. So what you revisited your regrets today is almost like, you know, a program where we give each other a chip, that we made it a whole day without all the we made it a week, we made it a month, you know, it's going to be a 12 step program. And when we know how to do it, we can give it to other people. Yes, it's not overnight. That's a really good point. And I keep thinking it's like that quotation that they say, I guess Buddha said, when you're focused on the past, that's depression, you know, but it's also regret. And when you're focused on the future, that's anxiety and worry. So what you're talking about is the joy of being right here right now. Being present, and not not being caught up in the past, and not being too focused on the future. That's like a real challenge for a lot of us. I tend to live a lot in the past, I don't let it go very easily. I've been really working on it. I've been trying really hard because my tendency is to look backwards. And I don't want to be like that anymore. So that's part of why I started the workshop. That is fantastic. And to when we live with the regret, we are scared we have fear of making a decision. So we go through this again, a new so I've adapted something when people say, Well, aren't you afraid to make this decision? And I said, Well, you can't scare me, I raised three sons. I am still alive. I have changed locations like mad. I change professions. I haven't really ever changed the profession. I just add to it. Right? Ya know? And just somehow see how this, you know, like, Who is it Mary, Mary Oliver, the poet,
13:19
this beautiful picture, where the little girl is surrounded by all kinds of blue greenish colors. And it says, What will you do with this crazy life of yours? I love that. That is just so phenomenal. And maybe it's those simple little sayings that will help us like if you were supposed to be in one place for the rest of your life. Instead of feet, you would have roots.
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We are supposed to
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supposed to go and grow. Yep. And grow as we go and say well, you know, kiss I lost forever, whatever will be will be here I am, you know, and how much stuff do we need? And how much joy can we spread. And that is where I find our journey of podcasting. Our getting together is so life enriching. And I'm so grateful that I met you. And we are walking this journey together. Same here. I cannot believe the quality of you and the other people that we meet with. It's feels like I've known you all forever. It feels like I can tell you whatever I want to say and it's received as if we've known each other forever. There's just this. We're all at this very similar journey. We're all at the same. You know, we have the same mindset. We're all dedicated to moving forward and I love that, you know, like you're making a really good point. We're not here to you know, I
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Have that petition about the boats. It said boats are, are safe in a harbor. But that's not what boats are made for. You know, you're not we're not made to sit around, we're made to move and to grow and to move through our life and move forward. Anything else is sort of stagnation, you know?
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Well, really good point. Indeed. And I was.
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Hello, this is Lynne Thompson here. We lost our internet for a little bit. And I wanted to make sure that when the conversation picks up again, that you know that Anne Marie is talking about houses she's seen in Michigan, that were designed by the famous architect, Frank Lloyd Wright. That's who we're talking about when she resumes thinks.
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seen different architectural homes by you know, built by right in Lansing, Michigan, Kalamazoo has a couple San Diego has a few they're all over how ever the uniqueness is that 1/3 of his work, he accomplished that take a third, okay. Between the age of 80 and 92. He accomplished 1/3 of his entire life successes. I love that. I always use the painter Grandma Moses as an example. She didn't even start painting, I think till she was in her late 70s. She painted these beautiful pictures for the next two decades. I think she died in her 90s. Well, actually, I read, I read a study that said, the most prolific group of people, we just don't think about seeing your people in the right way. Because by the time you have accomplished all those experiences, by the time you've garnered all that wisdom,
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you know, people in their 60s 70s and 80s are very productive. They really are. And if you think of the leaders of the world who are still in office, in their 70s and 80s. And you know, I don't know, I think we have to reevaluate that. Right? Like, that's a wonderful, I didn't know that about Frank Lloyd Wright. That's wonderful. Well, and that's the amazing part because as an architect is a very, very vital, a very active role you play and the creativity. I also did not know that he created two groups of colors. And I like I said, this has nothing to do with Korean regret, and yet all to do with regret. Because if he would have sat in a dark room, all the press being regretful he could not ever come. And we wouldn't have Yeah, we wouldn't have like a third of his work, right? No. And he even accomplished to create two sets of colors
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is almost more muted. Like for example, the red is a burgundy like a cause a Cherokee, it's a Westie red, and greens and purples and whatever. The other colors are vibrant. And I had no idea the lobby of my very first day spa, I hunted the world over to find that color by a certain company, and finally found it in a professional paint store. And believe it or not, it is his brilliant red, I think it's called lollipop. And that is the red, I painted my blobby and then put in a Italian taupe color, soft leather.
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corner piece couch in there. Lovely. So I didn't even know that until a couple of days ago, I saw his palette of colors. And I went like, whoa. So if he would have had a lot of regrets, he couldn't have done all of that. Yeah. And I think you're making such a good point. Regrets can gum up the works, it can freeze people, it can stop them, if they're too if they're too bad. And yet, also, there's another thing and I wasn't meaning to talk about this, but
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especially me growing up. You know, being a little older. Our, our mothers
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were not, you know, I had a lot of my mother didn't get her education until later. A lot of mothers were at home. You know, there were a lot of frustrated young mothers who had babies really soon. And so there was a lot of bitterness. You know, by the time they got older, they were really bitter. And who could blame them? I mean, you know, they followed the rules, but they didn't use their talents. Some of them did. Some of them always find a way to break out. My mother did she she became a counselor and she went back to school and it was really hard and that's like amazing to me. But a lot of mothers I noticed older people got bitter.
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For being sold, maybe a bill of goods about how to live, you know, and not not being taught how to, like you're saying not being taught how to be vital how to how to be joyful, how to move forward. So there's bitterness and regret. I think they kind of go together sometimes. Yes, and it's heartbreaking. And they felt also a sadness. And then we didn't have choices. They saw they had no choices, right? Oh, that's so crucial. Yes, only the bravest and craziest of the women actually live different lives. Most women, you know, in the 50s and 60s, they lived the way they were supposed to. Well, and that is the most unusual people like yesterday was was was the pilot that was last Amelia Earhart's birthday yesterday, and when you look at her life, and look at her struggles, and how she still tried to be a wife, to a husband to she really was mismatched with by the sounds of that. So when you look at that, or I am thinking of the creator of the Steiff bear, and that is one of my favorites. You posted that on Facebook, I love Yes, because her story is so unique. Not only was Did she have polio, and she couldn't walk and she had all the trouble in the world too. So but her little brother talked her into putting the button in the Bears Ears so that's is the type bear has a button in the ear cannot see him or, and he went to New York to the toy market, though the World Fair. And he sold all these bears. And do you know another brother of hers came to Michigan and had a factory in Chelsea, Michigan, and I say fair, and unfortunately they closed five years ago, they shut the factory down. But they were wanting with Germany together. So imagine this woman in this in a time where nobody had even a wheelchair. She created this. And I took my grand daughters to the sky factory in Germany. It's like a Willy Wonka factory. It is I love it, because it is beautiful. So and it will set these great examples that give us inspiration. I mean, she sounds so inspiring. I'm kind of obsessed with Beatrix Potter, the the author of the Peter Rabbit books, the more I learned about her the more I fell in love with her. Now she came from a privileged family, they did have money, but what she did with her life, like she didn't, she did something really different. Like she didn't get married right away. And she did these illustrations, she was obsessed with nature. She did these beautiful illustrations. And she ended up and nobody thought it would become anything. And she ended up selling a book. And everyone went crazy for it. And she just what I really love is she ended up with the money she made from the books. She bought a huge bunch of acres, like 1000s of acres in the Lake District, so that she could protect it forever. And I just thought, what a lovely life. You know, she was creative. She shared this wonderful. It's very similar. You know, the, the bears are wonderful. I've seen them. They're, they're very special. And I think to share something for children that everyone loves. And then in her later life to save the land. I mean that those acres are still under protection. Nobody can build on them. And it's absolutely beautiful. They've preserved our farm. I just think some people in spite of how you know the time that they're born into are very inspiring and we can take a lot of inspiration from them. And that's it to find passion and what you are talking about is passion. In doing what you want to do is passion in giving forward is passion to preserve for mankind. And it is amazing. Someone today thank me for showing her kids session Park in Pacific Beach, San Diego. A lot of the local people don't know it exists. And that session came to San Diego 1907 where there were no trees and she's the mother of the trees of Balboa Park and
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counterpart she requested the 65 acres overlooking the ocean which is Kate session Park and it is
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is phenomenal. And these were all local people yesterday that experienced that because me little foreigner found that out and walked in with my dog.
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And I love it. It's safe. It's beautiful. It overlooks the ocean. And people go like, how can this exist in the city? Well, she kept it, and it's a preserver it was her gift. Yeah, yes. Oh, what a gift. I, I'm very intrigued that you followed your passion that you always knew to do that. Because we're not necessarily taught that. We're taught to be saved and follow the, you know, the regular path for women. But you seem to have always got gotten excited about stuff, and followed that.
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Why do you think that is? Well, I always swim against the stream. I like the challenge. Uh huh. I don't settle.
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I don't know why I truly don't. I also do fall into the rabbit hole of regrets. Why didn't I just stay at that house? And why did was lie and look how wonderful it all was? Why did I go and stick my neck back out there. There is something that drives me that I'm not done, explore. I'm not done, you know, building my next, or whatever it is. And I think, looking at that with thought, as we started with regret, I would like to almost say as a conclusion, we need to have more than solving how to deal with our regret, we need to find a way to make it bigger than us that we learn from it. And we can give something to the rest of the world by us having found a way to deal with this. And by giving it away, because that is such a powerful message that it is in giving that you will see. And it's in loving that you are loved. And to me, that is the answer. Because I think you're so right. They say when you feel low, when you feel sad, the best thing you can do is volunteer your time or do something for someone else. That is so transformative. Yes, yes. And so the entire regret. I believe we can teach others as we learn as we do this workshop. And as we all of us together can enjoy and do things that are bigger than us. This is not about us, little old me how can I be happy? If I do something, and I reach out no change other people's lives? I mean, that's just phenomenal. I'm hearing something really incredible. I'm hearing like,
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let's not just deal with our regrets. Let's learn from them, and share something wonderful that we learned then then they're really they're not a waste, then they're not a waste at all. Yeah, you've really made me look at it a little differently. I like that. I'm so glad we had this time. I could talk to you all night.
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I know, I know. So, you know, everybody listening, you have to come and participate on the workshop because we need your feedback. We need your opinion. We need to know what are your brilliant ideas, how we can make this a better, happier, joyful life.
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It's wonderful. Thank you so much. I'll include it in the show notes. And I'll also include where you can find and Marie. So we can you know, you can contact her get check out her social media, or her website. And until then, I'll see you guys on the next episode of the story of human and I'll let you know the date for the regret workshop as soon as we we decide. Thanks again. Annemarie, it was so good talking to you. Thank You
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