The Truth About Abundance: Why You’re Still Living on Crumbs

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Karen, Yes, do you remember that time when I looked

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at our bank account and thought, uh, Universe, I thought

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we agreed in abundance. Apparently I have been manifesting tuponds.

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Okay, an abundance.

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Of couconos or like five percent of all the all

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of the above, all the above, see okay. Our guest

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went from childhood where money was, let's say, scarce, to

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building this powerhouse mission that helps women stop living on

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emotional and financial crumps and actually step into the life

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that they're here to, living like the real one, not

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to be grateful for the bare minimum and smile one

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that we are told about. Right, She's basically the love

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child of a mindset coach, a business strategist, and that

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one friend who will lovingly call you on your bullshit

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while handing you a latte and a hug. And I

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know what you're thinking, Karen. Yes, she did say we

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all need to stop apologizing for wanting more thinking, but

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I know you were about to. I'm going to be

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putting out that T shirt anyway, but we're busting those

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pesky money myths that has kept us always wishing for

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more Because we were about to step out of the

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crumbs and into the whole damn bakery. Welcome to the

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Skeptic Benevolicians. My name is Will and I'm garous, and

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unlike moulderin Scully.

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Both want to believe.

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So we've embarked in a journey of discovery.

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We've talked to people deeply entrenched in the spiritual and

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metaphysical world.

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We've thrown ourselves into weird and wonderful experiences. I even

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joined a coven of witches and wait, you joined a

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coven yep, all the interests of finding something, anything that

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will prove that there's something beyond this physical.

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Three dimensional world we all live in.

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This is the skeptic metapositions. Hey there, it's Will. The

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main reason we do this show is to help others

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in their spiritual awakening, and nothing makes us happier than

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to hear or read messages from those that are resonating

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with the messages we're sharing on the show. So if

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you have a moment, we love for you to leave

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us a review on Apple Podcasts or any other podcasting

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platform that supports them. Karen and I love hearing from

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those that are moved to message us. It truly does

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fuel our passion. You are the reason we do this show,

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and knowing what you like and don't like, well, that's

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going to help us craft the very best show we

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can so that we can help raise the vibration of

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the planet together. Okay, I've kept you from the interview

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long enough, so let's get to it. Thanks for listening. Hey,

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thereon will welcome to another soul expanding, belief busting. Oh

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so that's why my life has been like that episode

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of the Skeptic Metaphysitions. This show that reminds you that

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the universe didn't put you here to play small, even

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if your bank account occasionally tries to say otherwise. Today's

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guest is a firecracker, and not the you light once

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and forget it. No, No, this one lights you up.

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See.

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She grew up with money being let's call it a

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creative improvisational art form, then went on to work in

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a high powered corporate space, and somewhere along the way realized, wait,

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women are running households, raising families, holding emotional space for

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literally everyone, and we're still apologizing for wanting abundance. Absolutely not.

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So she build a mission, not a business, a mission

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to help women stop living on crumbs, step into their power,

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value their gifts, and actually get paid for the magic

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that they put into the world. She's equal parts hype woman, strategists,

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spiritual cheerleader, and the person who will lovingly look you

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in the eyes and say you deserve more and you

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know it. Please welcome Sarah Walton to the show. Sarah,

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how are you doing today?

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I'm awesome. Well, you guys, thank you so much for

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having me on. I'm thrilled to be here.

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We are beyond excited to have you. I did a

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very deep dive on your stuff, and to say that

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I'm excited, it's to say it lightly. However, question I

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got to ask is apparently I'm lacking some of the

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plumbing that is necessary for the conversation because you're all

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about women, right, So is this only exclusive to women,

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this conversation that we're about to have.

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It is not exclusive to women.

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I do find that women have been programmed in a

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very different way from when when it comes to money, right,

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and our worthiness and you know this idea that we're

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even supposed to handle it like for so many hundreds

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of years, women were handed from fathers to husbands, right,

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and we were a financial burden. We never touched the money,

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and it's only been fifty years that we've been able

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to have our own credit cards and our own mortgages

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without a man's signature. So there is still some residual

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gunk if you're well women that men don't have to carry.

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So while the conversation can absolutely work with both, there

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is some specialty to working with women specifically about this.

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Okay, I'm glad to hear that because I was, like

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I said, diving into your website and there's a lot

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of stuff in there that's really good that I really need.

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So I was really hoping that you'd say what you said.

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So though, yes, I completely understand the reasoning for the

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conversation being in that direction, but I'm glad to know

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that it's for me too.

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I mean, that's why I kept my last name. That is, Yes,

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women were property.

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I'm not speak on I care and speak on. Yeah,

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it's true, it's just a little different, that's all. What

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the main principles do apply. Well, great question, All right.

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All right, well then let's let's get the conversation started

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with the grocery store. You mentioned that there was a

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moment in the grocery store that changed everything for you.

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Can you take us back to that moment in what

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shifted inside you?

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I can. It's a tiny bit of a story. If

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that's okay, absolutely.

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We've got that hour and a half.

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No, just you knows and glasses then no, I'm just kidding.

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It's not that long. But when I was about four

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or five years old, I was watching The Nutcracker with

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my mom. PBS was having their fundraisers for those of

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you that don't remember PBS right that used to have

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fundraisers where you could call in and donate money so

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that these great programs could stay.

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On the air.

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And I was watching The Nutcracker and I remember turning

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to my mom. I was like, I don't know what

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this is, but I want to do that, and just

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looking at this dance as this beautiful art form, and

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that stuck with me all throughout my teenage years and

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well into my twenties. But for the purposes of this story,

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it took me to high school where I really wanted

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to become part of the dance team, and this was

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something that was such a big deal where I was raised.

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I was a raised in a little town called Sandy Utah,

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just outside of Salt Lake City, and it was a

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big deal to make the high school dance team, like

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this was like the thing to do, And so it

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came time for me to try out. We couldn't really

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afford for me to take dance classes. This was not

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something that we could do. So I learned how to

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dance by watching MTV. So Janet Jackson and Paula Abduel

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were my idols. They taught me how to dance. They

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just what and so I really was not trained and

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classically by any sense of that word.

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But I tried out.

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I worked my rear randof I remember practicing in the basement,

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my knees hurt, I had bruises, I knew how to

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throw chairs and you know, do all of the amazing

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Rhythm Nation moves. And I made the team. And I

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was so stick and excited. And I was in this

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really tight knit community where everybody sort of knew what

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was happening for other people. So people were bringing over

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single roses. It was this huge thing. Sarah made the

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dance team, Oh my god. And then I got the

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letter that talks about how much this is going to cost,

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and you know, I don't know, if you guys have

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ever had one of those experiences where you're like up

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out of your body and you sort of watch yourself

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go through something, it's like, oh, that's happening right now.

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It's like that. You know, my hands got sweaty, my

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stomach fell through the floor. And I remember looking at

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this letter. You know, it had the jacket. It was

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the nineties, so it was like a unit tard right,

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the shoes, the competition, fees, all the thing, and there

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was just no way. There was no way we could

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have this because at this time we were so poor.

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When I say poor, people are like, oh no, we

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were so poor that there were times literally the only

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things in the pantry was like a half a loaf

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of bread my mother had made from scratch and a

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jar of honey the end, like that was it. So

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when I say this was like not affordable, I meant this,

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this really wasn't affordable. And it was this stream since

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I'd had since i'd seen the Nutcracker, So I know

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you're surprised, but I was very frisky, and I decided

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to get a job, the job at the mall. And

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for those of you that are so young, you don't

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know what a mall is. I love you, but you're

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TH's okay. So I went and I got a job

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at the mall, and I was ready one of those

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little kiosks, those little like carts where you sell chrach

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keys nobody needed. But it was like, you know, the

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late eighties, early ninety so it was cool. People were

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buying stuff they didn't need all the time anyway, So

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I sold these choch keys. I did this thing, and

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I got my first paycheck, and I was so excited

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because it was enough for the down payment on my

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dance costumes. And so at the time, I did have

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a bank account, and people used to be in customer

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service back then, like it was actually a thing. So

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you could go to the grocery store and wait in

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the customer service line and cash checks.

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Yep.

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So my mom takes me to the grocery store. It's

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just me and my younger half brother, and we're walking

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into the grocery store to cash this check and my

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mom turns to me and says, Sarah, the groceries, Sorry,

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the strawberries are on sale. Can we get some? So

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I'm thinking of the strawberries, and I'm thinking of my

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dance costumes. And I'm like, eh, yes, we can do that.

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So I go get my check cashed. She goes to

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get the strawberries with my younger brother. And now that

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I have the like the cash in hand, I go

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to find them in line at the grocery store, like

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at one of the aisles, and they're not there.

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I look at the.

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Express aisle and I keep going back and forth, and

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finally I see them in line with a cart full

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of groceries. And this is a cart full of groceries.

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I know my mother cannot afford. There's no way she

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can afford this cart. And I'm looking at it. I

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see my younger half brother sitting in the cart and

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his little leg swinging rodever, and I see his favorite

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breakfast cereal milk, cold cuts for his lunches, right bread,

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the strawberries, And I'm standing there, you guys, and I

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have a choice. Right with this money that I have,

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I can either take care of my family or I

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can get something for myself I've wanted for as long

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as I can remember. But I cannot do both. And

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in that moment, I made a decision that I would

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never be able to take care of both my family

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and myself at the same time. And I lived that out.

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I have sixty five cousins. I am the first woman

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in my family to have a college degree.

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Right.

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I moved to Europe after I graduated college. I moved

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to New York City. I got this high powered job.

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I'm quote unquote killing it.

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Right.

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Everything looks great. I now have two children. I'm making

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all this money, and I am miserable. And I remember

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sitting in my corporate job, at this great corner office.

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Right.

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My team is out there, I can see them. I

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have a fighter tree in my office. Right, I feel

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very cool. I have Jimmy shoes shoes like like I accept.

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I'm like nauseous all the time. And I never seen

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my children. And there was one day my daughter called me.

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I think she was eighteen months too, right, just barely

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can talk. But it was miss you, mommy. Oh I die. Right.

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So I'm sitting there. I hang up the phone, and

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I'm hearing the clock in my office take away the

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seconds of my life. And it's just that these I

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can't get that second back, and I can't get that

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second back, and I can't get that second back, and

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all of a sudden In that moment, I remembered the

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sixteen year old girl in the grocery store who decided

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she could never take care of her family and herself

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at the same time. And that sixteen year old girl

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was still running my life. And I'm sitting there in

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this office realizing I'm making all this money for my

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family and I am so unhappy. And that was the

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moment I decided to figure this out in a different way,

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and I decided I was always the only woman in

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the room as a senior executive. It was me and

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the head of HR right, the only women. We're doing

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financial protections, which is fourth grade math, right, Now, here's proprietary.

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Why am I constantly the only woman? What is happening here?

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And why am I afraid to actually take care of

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myself and my family instead of or And that was

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the day I stopped letting that grocery store moment run

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my life. And what sort of made that really poignant

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is I did end up quitting my job that day,

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and I remembered buying the groceries for my family that day,

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which is what I chose to do. And another mom

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in the community found out what had happened. She'd heard

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about what had happened. It still makes me cry to

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this day. But she paid for my dance costumes.

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And in twenty eighteen, twenty nineteen, sorry, right before COVID hit,

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I decided to host a conference in Salt Lake City,

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and so all the people that live with me on

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the East Coast now came out to Salt Lake City.

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I'd known. Two worlds kind of collided at this conference.

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And the woman who bought my costumes came to the conference,

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and I got to bring her up on the stage

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and thank her publicly or how much she had changed

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my life. And it was so moving. And there are

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people who know this is my quote unquote grocery store story, right,

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they know this story. But it was so beautiful to

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be able to bring her up and thank her and

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let everybody in the audience know. I wouldn't be there

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had she not done that, had she not been a

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woman who had access to money who changed someone else's life.

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And it was really beautiful because she actually passed away

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in twenty twenty, and so I was so grateful I

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got to have that moment with her and really bring

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this story to light for people to say, this really

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is what women do when they have money, and we

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never know the ripple effects of what that will end

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up being. Right.

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I heard that story and another podcast, and that is

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the sole reason why I've reached out to you to

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come on the show, because that is a remarkable story

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and it's a story that so many people in different

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situations but can resonate with that it's an important one

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to get out. So thank you very much for taking

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the time and telling us that story, because it definitely

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moved me the very first time. It moved me the

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second time.

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So wow, Yeah, that's just wonderful.

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So how do you let that go, that that decision

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that you made, because so many of us, like Will said,

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have been in kind of similar situations and you can say, oh, yeah,

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I can see how this affected me, But how do

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you get past that?

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Yeah? I think I think recognizing it is a lot

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of the game, was it? Yeah, so many people have

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said ninety percent of success is showing up, right, but

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showing up in that moment and really recognizing that it

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happened and then deciding do you want to continue to

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let a teenager run your life or not? And that

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sounds really simplistic, but you know, do look at world

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leaders at the moment. We look not the moment forever,

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world leaders forever. We look at people out there. We

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can see a bunch of four and five year olds running, yes,

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you know, like, oh, a four year old got stuck,

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and like you're like, oh, I see what's happening.

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Here, d right, and now that's doing a tantrum and

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taking us along with it, you know, right.

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I just take your pick, you can make it fit.

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But it's really interesting to sort of recognize as human beings,

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we get stuck at moments and we let that child,

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whoever that child is, take over and they start running

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the show. And I think when we see that and

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we recognize this, every single one of us, none of

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us is special. No one gets out of childhood without

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this happening. And I think when we can sort of

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step into that shared humanity piece, it's not so scary

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to talk about it. It's and the more we all

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talk about it, the more other people recognize it, and

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just that recognition alone can really start to heal it.

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And I think what's so important about that fact is

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we want to grow. It is a human need to grow.

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When we are not growing, we are not contributing, we

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don't do well, We start to ruminate, we start to

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get anxious, we start to get depressed. And so I

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think we do have this natural propensity towards healing. And

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so once you can see the moment alone, that alone

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is so powerful. It starts to make habits that you

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are quote unquote just this way right, habits that have

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just been this way forever, all of a sudden they

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become quite malleable, and it's really efficient to see them

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and quickly go, oh, oh, was that the sixteen year

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old in the grocery store or is that the thirty

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six year old woman? Hang on right, and you start

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to just in the moment, start to unfold that. And

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that really is what I did. I mean, quitting my

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job that day was a big piece of that. It

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was incredibly scary. I don't mean to say that flippantly.

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It was terrifying, but it was so I just knew

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it was necessary. It was like I've made this in

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either or. And the more that I now teach abundance

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and talk about abundance constantly as a concept, is people

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who are truly abundant in this world are never either

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or they are always both.

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Right.

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You can have this or this both automatic answer both right,

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And it's not out of selfishness. It's out of I'm

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not going to live inside of limitations. Let me figure

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this out, let me see what's actually possible, and that's

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when the new opportunities arise. You can only find what

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we're looking for, so if we're looking for you, or

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that's what you'll find if you're looking for both.

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Which then leads us right into the perfect segue to

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the money myths. Right on your site. You've got a

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great video that you get when you sign up for

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your Freedom Calculator, which we'll talk about, which I love

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and I mentioned before we started recording fell in love

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with it. It's so much so that I changed everything about

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the interview to circle around these three. You have three

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money myths that you talk about, So can you walk

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us through those? Because it goes hand in hand with

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the whole abundance thing.

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Yes, it absolutely does, and I want to I always,

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you know, in this day and age where everybody on

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the internet knows everything, I always love to give credit

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where credit is due. So these three myths I learned

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about first in a book called The Soul of Money,

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which I highly recommend by the author's Linn Twist and

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just an exquisite book. But these three myths I sort

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of took from that book and have expanded and looked at.

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But myth number one is that there's not enough. And

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this one is just so hideous. I hate this one

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so much, but there's not enough, and what I love

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to talk about I have a very funny YouTube video

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about that too that I do about kids who are

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taught to play musical chairs and you take the way chair.

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We're literally teaching scarcity to our children. But anyway, okay,

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that's another story for another time. But yeah, So the

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myth that there's not enough and what I love to

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talk about here is just go to I'd like you

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to look at a garbage can in an amusement park.

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It's disgusting. There's so much food in there. There's so

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much food in there, and yet people are starving, right,

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But we live in this myth of there's not enough.

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So there's not enough. We have plenty of water, and

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we can drop bombs within inches of where they're supposed

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to go, but we can't drop food water in medicine.

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What are you talking about? What? Right? So this idea

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there's not enough, there's more than enough. Right, we live

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into the myth that there's not enough when we start

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to hoard, which is completely against our nature.

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Right.

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I mean, I'm sure you've seen this conversation sort of

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come up lately as extreme wealth has started to become

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more of our consciousness. But this idea that could you

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imagine a squirrel cowarding all the acorns and all of

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their family dies, That's like not a thing in nature, Like,

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that's not how that would go, ever, and it would

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be very weird, and we would actually study that animal

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and be like, what is wrong with the.

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Right, Like it's so weird.

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But it is because we were born into this myth

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that there's not enough. The second myth is more as better,

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And this one is brutal because it will not let

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you relax. So you've made ten million, well ten million

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and one is better, and so you can't ever be satisfied.

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You can't ever just experience life because there's this constant

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more as better, more as better, more as better. And

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we know this myth isn't true logically, we know it,

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Like I always joke about people who are like, I

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want a really big house, and then they get the house,

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they're like, who the hell's cleaning this thing? You know,

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like every mom I just went ah every day too.

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Now I have to fix the gutter. I gotta do

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this every weekend. Is now like damn this house, right,

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this more is better thing. It can get It can

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get old real quick, right, Like, we can really start

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to see that that's probably not true, but it is

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so part of the air that we breathe from the

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second that we're born, that it's it. It crowds into

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the mind in a way that we're not even aware of.

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And so the more I can talk about with this

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with people, I do, because it starts to again the recognition.

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You can start to see it in different ways, and

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people start putting step back. We have the minimalist movement

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that's happening. People are starting to like, I only buy

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buy clothes from thread up, which is a great app

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I highly recommend it. Right, I always get secondhand closed

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because there's enough clothes, right, I don't need any Like

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this is crazy. This idea that we constantly need more

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is ruining our ability to enjoy our lives and that's

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that's really dangerous. And then the third myth is, well,

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that's just the way it is, right.

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That's my favorite one.

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Because that one keeps the other two locked in, right,

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because it's like, oh, well, if that's just the way

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it is, I'm just going to go over and eat

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a pizza, Like what am I going to do? Right,

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And it allows us to sort of shrug things off

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or to just you know, say things like, well, you

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know what, kids are going to starve. That is just

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the way it is. What what more is better? When

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other people don't have any what are you talking about?

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Like I said, this would be the squirrel that we

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would study, like what is wrong with you? And so

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if we can work through that last myth that is

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so insidious and so lets us off the hook from

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expanding ourselves, from asking questions, for looking at where both

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is possible. It is so dangerous to stay in that

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place that's shrugging. Uh, that's you know, that's just the

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way it is. And that's what allows us to have

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tomorrow look exactly like today, and three weeks from now

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look exactly like today, right, and then we stop looking

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at the actions of today that can absolutely alter what

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tomorrow looks like, what the next day looks like, what

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the next three weeks look like, and we stay in

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this pattern of no, this is just who I am,

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this is just the way this is. It's like now

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all of that is made up, and as soon as

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we can start to live in the magic of that,

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things really start getting good.

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Right, So I can see how I've been kept in

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Crumb City. Right, those three are very much in my lane.

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It's always been the way. It's always I need to

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I need to have more, I need to have more.

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I've been an upwardly mobile man my entire career because

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I've I've got I've got to go, what's the next step?

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What's the next step?

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I got to then?

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And it is just the way it is, right, So

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all three of those are amazing the difference what I

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what I do. And we've done the show now for

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four years going on five years, and we've thank you

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and we've done We've had these conversations a lot with

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different people, and it's a really easy thing to say,

485
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stop thinking these things or stop doing what you're doing.

486
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It's a lot harder to actually do it because there's

487
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this law of attraction thing, right, that says, if you

488
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wish for it hard enough, and you can't wish for it,

489
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you have to know it's coming, but you can't have

490
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any doubt because if you have a doubt, it immediately

491
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cancels everything out. So you're constantly like, oh, so you're

492
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trying to write, So how does someone juggle all these

493
00:23:40.960 --> 00:23:43.599
tenets that are being thrown at us in terms of

494
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building abundance while still staying inside the crumbs?

495
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Yeah? I met, May I have another? You like, lets

496
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take it as little as I can. Yeah, So I

497
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do have like a couple of that exercises. If you

498
00:24:00.759 --> 00:24:02.200
guys want to do them, it's cool. What I love

499
00:24:02.200 --> 00:24:04.839
about this is they're totally free, completely accessible. You can

500
00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:06.960
have them whenever you want, and they absolutely change the

501
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chemistry of your brain if you want to do them.

502
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I mean, you were just saying, yes, man, may have another?

503
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All right, So these are just these are tiny, tiny things,

504
00:24:14.920 --> 00:24:17.480
but they really are life changing. And the first one

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I like to do, especially when you're nervous, they say,

506
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you're looking at the promotion, You're looking at the ladder,

507
00:24:21.400 --> 00:24:23.519
you're looking at what's next, You're looking at your bank account.

508
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You're freaking out whatever's happening right in this moment is

509
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to put both your feet on the floor and wiggle

510
00:24:29.359 --> 00:24:33.319
your toes. Swear to God, it just pulls you back

511
00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:35.720
out of the mayhem of your own mind and go,51200:24:35.799 --> 00:24:38.960



wait a second, I'm here and I'm fine, And that51300:24:39.079 --> 00:24:41.200



sounds crazy, but I have done this when I'm you know,51400:24:41.279 --> 00:24:45.279



doing massive presentations, when we're doing venture capital pitching. I've51500:24:45.279 --> 00:24:47.279



done it before, getting on big stages. I've done it51600:24:47.319 --> 00:24:49.319



when you know, you get the surprise bill out and51700:24:49.319 --> 00:24:51.319



you're like, where what the I didn't have that in51800:24:51.359 --> 00:24:53.000



the line? You know what I mean, all these things51900:24:53.039 --> 00:24:54.799



that can happen is just pull yourself back in your52000:24:54.799 --> 00:24:56.880



body for sec just will your toes. And what I52100:24:56.880 --> 00:24:59.480



love is nobody knows you're doing it. So even if52200:24:59.559 --> 00:25:01.519



you know you're a tough conversation with a spouse or52300:25:01.559 --> 00:25:03.240



someone you love and you're talking about money and you're52400:25:03.279 --> 00:25:05.680



starting to like do the thing where you're like the52500:25:05.720 --> 00:25:10.359



Tasmanian Devil's in your head and just wiggle your toes,52600:25:10.960 --> 00:25:13.359



all of a sudden you can't do both. You can't52700:25:13.359 --> 00:25:15.920



both wiggle your toes and let the Tasmanian devil take over.52800:25:16.039 --> 00:25:17.640



So it just gives you a hot second to go,52900:25:17.720 --> 00:25:22.000



hold on, we're a really smart person. Let me just53000:25:22.039 --> 00:25:24.680



see what's happening here. And that pause alone can make53100:25:24.720 --> 00:25:27.759



a big difference. So there's one. The other thing I53200:25:27.799 --> 00:25:30.599



love to help people do is to flip your perspective53300:25:30.640 --> 00:25:33.640



on things. And the easiest, fastest way to do this53400:25:33.799 --> 00:25:37.759



is to start to notice the space around objects instead53500:25:37.759 --> 00:25:41.359



of the objects themselves. So, for example, like in front53600:25:41.359 --> 00:25:43.079



of me right now, I can see my camera and53700:25:43.119 --> 00:25:45.200



it's on a tripod, so I would be looking at53800:25:45.200 --> 00:25:47.279



the space in between the tripod. I'd be looking at53900:25:47.319 --> 00:25:49.559



the space around my camera. For those of you that54000:25:49.599 --> 00:25:51.960



are watching, you could see there's a chair behind me,54100:25:52.440 --> 00:25:54.440



there's a tree, but you wouldn't be noticing those. You'd54200:25:54.440 --> 00:25:56.880



be noticing the outline around my head. Say, all of54300:25:56.920 --> 00:25:59.519



the space that's there. And once we start to do that,54400:25:59.519 --> 00:26:01.640



what you're doing as you're training your brain to start54500:26:01.680 --> 00:26:05.160



to notice how much space there is. And that is54600:26:05.200 --> 00:26:09.759



a flip from looking at what is finite scarcity? Right54700:26:09.799 --> 00:26:12.480



what is finite is the camera begins and ends, the54800:26:12.519 --> 00:26:14.680



tree behind me begins and ends. No, but the space54900:26:14.759 --> 00:26:17.960



does not begin an end. For those of you, if55000:26:17.960 --> 00:26:19.640



you're driving, please keep your eyes on the road, but55100:26:20.000 --> 00:26:22.440



you look off right. I do notice all of the55200:26:22.440 --> 00:26:25.079



sky versus the trees, or all of the skies versus55300:26:25.079 --> 00:26:27.240



the mountains or whatever's around it. You actually notice the sky.55400:26:27.319 --> 00:26:30.680



There is so much, and that starts to teach you55500:26:30.720 --> 00:26:33.799



to look at there's enough right there. You've started to55600:26:33.799 --> 00:26:36.519



see that the tow wiggling is like, this is just55700:26:36.599 --> 00:26:38.079



the way it is. I'm going to freak out. Nope,55800:26:38.119 --> 00:26:39.759



all of a sudden that changes. It's not just the55900:26:39.759 --> 00:26:42.119



way it is right for there's not enough. You start56000:26:42.119 --> 00:26:45.160



to look there, and then for more is better. I56100:26:45.240 --> 00:26:47.200



like to use sunlight. And for those of you if56200:26:47.240 --> 00:26:48.960



you're listening to this or watching this at night, look56300:26:48.960 --> 00:26:53.240



at moonlight or the light outside. But just notice how56400:26:53.279 --> 00:26:57.279



many surfaces the sun touches every day. You don't even56500:26:57.680 --> 00:26:59.119



take it even we just take it for granted, we56600:26:59.240 --> 00:27:01.680



just walk right by it. But if you actually look56700:27:01.720 --> 00:27:05.160



at every single place that the sun touches, right, you56800:27:05.200 --> 00:27:08.319



can see how necessary shadow is. It's not always that56900:27:08.400 --> 00:27:12.160



more is better, but that where it is, it can flourish,57000:27:12.680 --> 00:27:15.880



and anything can flourish, life can flourish wherever the sunline57100:27:16.000 --> 00:27:18.519



hits same with the moonlight at night and that piece57200:27:18.559 --> 00:27:22.400



that that creates. But there's also shadow always and this57300:27:22.519 --> 00:27:24.759



idea that more of everything is better no, because and57400:27:24.799 --> 00:27:27.359



there's no contrast and you can't actually enjoy what is.57500:27:27.839 --> 00:27:29.799



So those are kind of my three. They're totally free.57600:27:29.920 --> 00:27:32.240



You have complete access to them whenever you want, and57700:27:32.319 --> 00:27:34.279



nobody has to know what you're doing, just sort of57800:27:34.480 --> 00:27:36.920



your perspective, right, I know secrets.57900:27:36.640 --> 00:27:38.839



Right, and I may or may not have been wiggling58000:27:38.880 --> 00:27:41.160



my toes this entire time. You never know, you know58100:27:41.240 --> 00:27:41.839



about shoes that.58200:27:44.039 --> 00:27:47.599



You know, you don't know what I'm doing. Yeah, it's58300:27:47.680 --> 00:27:50.480



really effective. It really does work. You start to rewire58400:27:50.480 --> 00:27:52.400



your brain to notice things you haven't seen before, and58500:27:52.400 --> 00:27:54.960



that is the key. That really literally is the key.58600:27:55.480 --> 00:27:58.559



Right, So then how do you take that and apply58700:27:58.640 --> 00:28:02.000



that to your financial house?58800:28:03.160 --> 00:28:04.960



We need to take a quick pause, but would be58900:28:05.039 --> 00:28:09.039



right back right after these messages and now back to59000:28:09.079 --> 00:28:09.480



the show.59100:28:11.079 --> 00:28:12.680



So then how do you take that and apply that59200:28:12.960 --> 00:28:15.960



to your financial house?59300:28:16.960 --> 00:28:19.960



I love this, Okay, So let's go back to this59400:28:20.160 --> 00:28:24.079



idea of a surprise bill for example, right that comes59500:28:24.079 --> 00:28:26.279



in and you're like son of a gun. Right, it59600:28:26.359 --> 00:28:27.880



might be like Sarah Walton, I'm not going to look59700:28:27.880 --> 00:28:29.480



at sunshine. I have a bill to pay, and I'll59800:28:29.519 --> 00:28:31.400



be like, I get that. I totally got that, like59900:28:31.559 --> 00:28:35.920



stupid lady on a podcast I heard once, I feel you. Yeah,60000:28:36.079 --> 00:28:37.960



And so what you want to do is notice that60100:28:38.000 --> 00:28:41.079



the bill itself is there, right, It's real, it's there,60200:28:41.559 --> 00:28:43.119



and then you take a second and just look up60300:28:44.440 --> 00:28:47.559



and not just that difference from like focusing on it, panicking,60400:28:47.640 --> 00:28:49.160



trying to look it up online, trying to get your60500:28:49.680 --> 00:28:51.599



like that thing that we get into is you.60600:28:51.559 --> 00:28:52.039



Just noticed that.60700:28:52.079 --> 00:28:54.240



You go, Okay, this came in. This was a surprise.60800:28:54.319 --> 00:28:58.640



I wasn't expecting it. We just take a sec and60900:28:58.680 --> 00:29:02.400



you start to notice like, okay, I don't know. Let's61000:29:02.400 --> 00:29:04.720



say it was a three hundred and fifty dollars bill whatever, right,61100:29:04.720 --> 00:29:06.359



it comes in and you know you're like, okay, so61200:29:06.359 --> 00:29:08.279



there's a three hundred and fifty dollars swing here. I61300:29:08.319 --> 00:29:13.480



wasn't expecting. Where can that come from? What could I do?61400:29:14.079 --> 00:29:16.799



What have I forgotten about? And you just start to61500:29:16.839 --> 00:29:18.799



notice things and all of a sudden you're like, oh61600:29:18.839 --> 00:29:22.759



my god, I forgot to invoice that client. Oh that's right,61700:29:22.880 --> 00:29:25.920



I have paid PTO at my work. Oh, you know what,61800:29:26.079 --> 00:29:28.119



that's absolutely right. So and so called me and asked61900:29:28.160 --> 00:29:30.000



me about something and I didn't call them back, and62000:29:30.000 --> 00:29:32.000



that might be a job. I don't know. There's so62100:29:32.039 --> 00:29:34.359



many things other I've had other people say things. This62200:29:34.400 --> 00:29:37.400



is one of my favorites. Somebody was around ten thousand62300:29:37.400 --> 00:29:39.440



dollars and she was like, what the flip? And I62400:29:39.480 --> 00:29:40.839



was like, just sit with it for a hot second.62500:29:40.920 --> 00:29:42.920



Let's see what happens. But just be open to the62600:29:42.960 --> 00:29:45.240



fact that you've forgotten where ten thousand dollars is. And62700:29:45.279 --> 00:29:48.160



I know that sounds very woo woo and crazy, I know,62800:29:48.640 --> 00:29:51.559



but she actually did. She'd had stocks sitting somewhere she62900:29:51.599 --> 00:29:54.119



completely forgot about from her previous job, and of course63000:29:54.160 --> 00:29:56.680



it was like eleven thousand, three hundred dollars or something, right.63100:29:56.680 --> 00:30:00.000



And what happens is it's not that this is magical63200:30:00.119 --> 00:30:03.559



thinking and stuff magically falls at your head. No, But63300:30:03.680 --> 00:30:07.000



what happens is you retrain your brain to look for it,63400:30:07.680 --> 00:30:11.839



and that little tiny shift in looking for it gives63500:30:11.839 --> 00:30:14.559



it room to show up. And when I first started63600:30:14.559 --> 00:30:16.920



talking about this, people are like, no, that's not how63700:30:16.960 --> 00:30:19.119



many works. It totally is how many works, is how63800:30:19.160 --> 00:30:22.200



anything in our lives works. And one of the examples63900:30:22.240 --> 00:30:23.960



I like to give is say you know, you're looking64000:30:24.000 --> 00:30:26.799



for a new car whatever, and you decide to buy64100:30:26.799 --> 00:30:29.960



a white Toyota. You're thinking about it, You're like, yeah,64200:30:29.960 --> 00:30:31.720



I think it's the white Toyota. You go outside, what64300:30:31.759 --> 00:30:32.640



do you see.64400:30:34.200 --> 00:30:34.640



Everywhere?64500:30:36.480 --> 00:30:38.440



It's like this used to be a lot more funny64600:30:38.440 --> 00:30:39.960



when we didn't have Ciri. But I'd be like, what64700:30:40.720 --> 00:30:43.440



the dealership just knows what you want? Right now? I'm like, oh,64800:30:45.279 --> 00:30:48.440



you're like the extras. She's looking at that like, that's64900:30:48.440 --> 00:30:51.960



not what happens at all. It's called your reticular activating system.65000:30:52.079 --> 00:30:54.160



It's in your brain and you tell it what to65100:30:54.200 --> 00:30:56.960



focus on and it will find it. And I had65200:30:56.960 --> 00:30:58.400



one client who was like, I'm doing that with lime65300:30:58.440 --> 00:31:00.599



green cars. She cracks me up. Has to be defiant, right,65400:31:00.599 --> 00:31:01.960



I was like, great, do it with lime green cars.65500:31:01.960 --> 00:31:03.519



She's like, every time I go out, there's at least three.65600:31:03.599 --> 00:31:05.759



I'm like, really, I've never seen one. And of course65700:31:05.799 --> 00:31:09.000



now I see that. You know, It's like, that's really65800:31:09.000 --> 00:31:11.079



how it works. And those of you that have teenagers,65900:31:11.079 --> 00:31:13.160



I want you to think about this. You will not66000:31:14.559 --> 00:31:16.519



allow yourself to lie about this.66100:31:16.680 --> 00:31:16.799



Right.66200:31:16.839 --> 00:31:18.799



This is where it gets tricky for people like you know,66300:31:18.799 --> 00:31:20.480



I'm like, a million dollars does not fall on your head.66400:31:20.519 --> 00:31:23.799



That's not how this works. What you say you can66500:31:23.839 --> 00:31:28.119



see you will make real. And anyone who has a teenager,66600:31:28.720 --> 00:31:31.079



I'm going to give you a scenario. You're like, oh, schmuckers,66700:31:31.079 --> 00:31:33.400



She's right, this does work. So it's like my favorite, like,66800:31:33.400 --> 00:31:36.240



you're at dinner, right, You're sitting down and someone's like, oh,66900:31:36.240 --> 00:31:38.039



I forgot the salt. You're like, great, could you go67000:31:38.079 --> 00:31:39.559



grab it. It's in the kitchen and the cupboard to67100:31:39.559 --> 00:31:42.200



the left of the stove. Right. So the kid goes67200:31:42.240 --> 00:31:45.720



in this not in here, Yes it is. It's one67300:31:45.759 --> 00:31:49.720



the second not here. The kid is not lying. The67400:31:49.799 --> 00:31:52.119



kid has decided it's not there. The kid, but they67500:31:52.200 --> 00:31:54.839



literally cannot see it. The kids see it, it's just67600:31:54.839 --> 00:31:56.079



not there. And you walk it in. It's right in67700:31:56.119 --> 00:31:58.359



front of there. They're like, it wasn't that. I swear right,67800:31:58.559 --> 00:32:02.119



they're not lying. That's how powerful that belief system releases.67900:32:02.119 --> 00:32:03.400



It has happened to all of us in the grocery68000:32:03.400 --> 00:32:05.240



store too, right, I can't find it. I can't find it.68100:32:05.279 --> 00:32:06.519



I can't find it, you asked the person.68200:32:06.519 --> 00:32:07.440



They're like, it's right.68300:32:08.440 --> 00:32:12.079



It's because we won't lie. We will not allow ourselves68400:32:12.119 --> 00:32:14.039



to lie. So when we say I can't make money,68500:32:14.319 --> 00:32:16.279



when we say I can't find it, when we say68600:32:16.319 --> 00:32:18.400



this is too hard, when we say it's scary, it's68700:32:18.480 --> 00:32:20.880



not for me, it's really easy for that lady to68800:32:20.920 --> 00:32:25.640



say because she has it, that you will make true.68900:32:25.920 --> 00:32:28.119



And it's not like be careful of what you say,69000:32:28.119 --> 00:32:30.440



Oh my god, it's not to live like that. It's69100:32:30.480 --> 00:32:33.640



to say, well, what happened missed? Where is there an69200:32:33.680 --> 00:32:35.880



opportunity I'm going to play the game. I want to69300:32:35.920 --> 00:32:38.000



only see black lexus. That's what I want to see69400:32:38.000 --> 00:32:41.880



outside what what happens? Start playing the game. And so69500:32:41.960 --> 00:32:44.720



if it's like, oh I really do want to take69600:32:44.759 --> 00:32:49.440



care of this surprise bill, where would that come from?69700:32:49.759 --> 00:32:52.279



And that question alone will have you start to think69800:32:52.319 --> 00:32:55.519



about things that weren't there. You know, I have an69900:32:55.519 --> 00:32:58.519



old Instagram post. So when I have a new boyfriend70000:32:58.519 --> 00:32:59.839



and he was going through my old Instagram and he70100:33:00.079 --> 00:33:02.759



on this picture, I was like, oh wow, that's nice.70200:33:02.960 --> 00:33:05.480



I was my prom right. I'm like, thanks baby, thanks70300:33:05.480 --> 00:33:07.480



for finding out. But it was my prom photo, right,70400:33:08.160 --> 00:33:10.279



and there was a dress I really wanted and I'm70500:33:10.319 --> 00:33:11.960



wearing it in the photo, but it was like, how70600:33:12.000 --> 00:33:15.079



could I get that? And I learned how to do,70700:33:15.680 --> 00:33:17.720



you know, nails, and I did all my friends nails70800:33:17.720 --> 00:33:19.200



for prom and That's how I got the dress. It70900:33:19.200 --> 00:33:21.440



wasn't because I'm like, I'm so studious and hard working.71000:33:21.799 --> 00:33:26.920



I asked the question, how could I do that? If71100:33:26.960 --> 00:33:29.039



I wanted that, what would I do? How could I71200:33:29.079 --> 00:33:31.519



do it? Where would it be? And just those opening71300:33:31.599 --> 00:33:34.119



questions start to change things. So when you go into71400:33:34.279 --> 00:33:37.640



your bank account and you're not happy with what you see,71500:33:38.160 --> 00:33:40.960



it's not whoe is me? See I knew that, stupid71600:33:41.000 --> 00:33:43.400



lady and the picture was crazy. I can't make it.71700:33:43.799 --> 00:33:46.599



Whatever you're doing that, you just sit back and go, well, okay,71800:33:46.640 --> 00:33:48.839



So it's it's I don't know, let's make something up.71900:33:48.880 --> 00:33:51.079



Say you want to have a ten thousand dollars emergency fund,72000:33:51.119 --> 00:33:52.559



right A lot of people are going through that right now,72100:33:52.599 --> 00:33:54.440



you have five hundred dollars a year, and you're like, oh,72200:33:54.680 --> 00:33:56.920



they were going to have it, and it's like okay,72300:33:56.960 --> 00:33:59.839



but if it did, how would that happen? How would72400:33:59.880 --> 00:34:02.880



that happen and you actually allow the ideas to come in.72500:34:03.960 --> 00:34:07.559



Because here's what people don't understand, this woo woo world.72600:34:07.559 --> 00:34:09.760



I know, coaches, I put myself in this category. I72700:34:09.800 --> 00:34:11.400



know there's a lot of entrepreneur porn out there.72800:34:11.440 --> 00:34:11.719



People.72900:34:11.760 --> 00:34:15.239



I'm apologizing for that. I'm so sorry. Money is not magical.73000:34:15.239 --> 00:34:16.400



It can feel that way at times.73100:34:16.440 --> 00:34:16.800



It is not.73200:34:17.599 --> 00:34:21.760



It's really quite clear what happens to have the five73300:34:21.840 --> 00:34:24.280



hundred dollars be there and the result that that is73400:34:24.320 --> 00:34:28.960



in that moment, right, is that we have an invisible73500:34:28.960 --> 00:34:33.159



world that's running the show. We have our beliefs which73600:34:33.159 --> 00:34:36.440



we can't see. And if your beliefs yet, and then73700:34:36.480 --> 00:34:40.639



those beliefs give you a certain thought. Right, those thoughts73800:34:40.639 --> 00:34:44.239



and beliefs are invisible, but over here we have results73900:34:44.280 --> 00:34:48.960



that's visible. We can see results. So what is the74000:34:49.039 --> 00:34:52.760



bridge between this invisible world of belief and thoughts and74100:34:53.159 --> 00:34:55.719



the visible world of results. There's only one thing in74200:34:55.760 --> 00:34:59.239



between those two worlds, and that's action. Right. Action is74300:34:59.280 --> 00:35:02.920



the bridge between the invisible to the visible. So when74400:35:02.920 --> 00:35:05.719



I look at someone's bank account and I see that result,74500:35:06.960 --> 00:35:11.440



I go, great, what's the belief that caused that result? Oh?74600:35:11.800 --> 00:35:13.599



Because I know it's there, and you can do that74700:35:13.639 --> 00:35:16.119



with anything in your life. Your current health is a result,74800:35:16.800 --> 00:35:19.800



your current relationship is a result, your relationship with your74900:35:19.880 --> 00:35:22.679



children is a result. The way that people treat you75000:35:22.719 --> 00:35:25.360



at work is a result. Your current salary is a result.75100:35:25.880 --> 00:35:28.440



What is the belief that caused that result? If you75200:35:28.480 --> 00:35:31.519



could know that belief, that is so powerful, Because again75300:35:31.559 --> 00:35:34.199



we've got recognition, so you can say, Okay, the belief75400:35:34.239 --> 00:35:37.639



is it's too hard to make money. You can immediately75500:35:37.639 --> 00:35:39.280



go into that moment and go But what if it75600:35:39.320 --> 00:35:42.840



wasn't hard. Now you've got the opening that we were75700:35:42.920 --> 00:35:45.920



just talking about. But it's based off of what you've75800:35:45.920 --> 00:35:49.239



planted that you didn't even know you planted, And we75900:35:49.360 --> 00:35:51.199



know what your beliefs are based on the results that76000:35:51.199 --> 00:35:51.840



you're producing.76100:35:52.639 --> 00:35:59.519



So what about those of them out there who believe76200:36:00.599 --> 00:36:04.519



I can get results, but they're not getting them because76300:36:04.519 --> 00:36:07.320



for some reason what they believe they believe isn't really76400:36:07.320 --> 00:36:11.599



what they believe. Right, cract, how do you a identify76500:36:11.639 --> 00:36:13.559



that my belief system is wonky?76600:36:14.159 --> 00:36:15.119



Be fixing?76700:36:16.000 --> 00:36:18.800



Yeah, well you know the beliefs, and you know the76800:36:18.840 --> 00:36:21.960



belief system is wonky because of the results. Yes, you76900:36:22.039 --> 00:36:25.800



can't ever ever, I just we just went through. You77000:36:25.840 --> 00:36:29.000



cannot disassociate a belief from a results. It's not possible. Now,77100:36:29.039 --> 00:36:31.360



can life happen and throw stuff at us? Oh my god? Sure?77200:36:31.480 --> 00:36:33.840



But again and again, how you respond to that is77300:36:33.880 --> 00:36:35.599



going to be different based on your beliefs, and you're77400:36:35.599 --> 00:36:37.599



gonna have a different result even when life is crazy.77500:36:38.320 --> 00:36:41.559



So we know if the results are wonky, if they77600:36:41.599 --> 00:36:43.599



are not what was intended, we know there's a belief77700:36:43.639 --> 00:36:45.920



at work. There's just no way around that. You can't77800:36:46.079 --> 00:36:48.920



you just you can't make that up. That is just77900:36:49.039 --> 00:36:51.320



what happens. And we know that because those beliefs give78000:36:51.400 --> 00:36:54.440



rights to actions that are causing these results. You wouldn't78100:36:54.440 --> 00:36:56.000



be acting in this way if there wasn't a belief78200:36:56.079 --> 00:36:59.239



driving your action. So in looking at that, if somebody78300:36:59.320 --> 00:37:02.159



thinks they're they're doing that, but then their results say otherwise,78400:37:02.199 --> 00:37:05.280



this is when I lovingly hand them a cup of78500:37:05.280 --> 00:37:08.320



coffee and say let's talk, right, because what's happening is78600:37:08.320 --> 00:37:10.239



there's a belief they're not they're not aware of yet78700:37:10.239 --> 00:37:12.639



that is running the show, just like I wasn't aware78800:37:12.639 --> 00:37:15.159



of sixteen year old old was running my life right, right,78900:37:15.199 --> 00:37:18.559



there's something's happening, or the result would change. It's literally79000:37:18.599 --> 00:37:21.559



that simple. Doesn't mean it's easy, but it is literally79100:37:21.599 --> 00:37:23.679



that simple. And so we look at the result and say,79200:37:23.679 --> 00:37:26.840



what what kind of a belief system would cause this result?79300:37:27.239 --> 00:37:29.800



What would someone believe who has this result? And you79400:37:29.880 --> 00:37:31.719



take it sort of out of the personal and you79500:37:31.760 --> 00:37:35.039



just sort of guess. You start looking around, Well, I79600:37:35.039 --> 00:37:37.400



think they might believe that they have to buy two79700:37:37.480 --> 00:37:40.440



hundred dollars Jeanes to stay cool, and that's why the79800:37:40.440 --> 00:37:45.119



two hundred dollars isn't Uh. Maybe they would believe that79900:37:45.760 --> 00:37:48.079



they have to have new drapes in their living room80000:37:48.119 --> 00:37:51.320



before the emergency fund is funded. Oh that's interesting. Okay,80100:37:51.400 --> 00:37:53.400



maybe they'd have to they maybe they'd believe that. Maybe80200:37:53.440 --> 00:37:56.519



they'd believe that that's more important. That's interesting. Is that true?80300:37:57.239 --> 00:37:59.599



Is it more important? Because that's okay? But you want80400:37:59.639 --> 00:38:02.199



to know about it if it is, And if they80500:38:02.199 --> 00:38:04.480



do think that's more important. When they've said the emergency80600:38:04.480 --> 00:38:07.480



fund is the most important, what is that belief? And80700:38:07.559 --> 00:38:09.599



the belief might end up being I'm making this up80800:38:09.639 --> 00:38:11.119



right now, but it might end up being the way80900:38:11.159 --> 00:38:12.920



I look is more important than the way I feel81000:38:13.920 --> 00:38:20.760



oh oh oh, all of a sudden, it's like, ah,81100:38:20.800 --> 00:38:22.360



I do this a lot with women, and I joke81200:38:22.360 --> 00:38:24.960



around about the two hundred dollars jeans, right, but it's81300:38:25.000 --> 00:38:26.599



like the two hundred dollars jeans and they have underwear81400:38:26.639 --> 00:38:30.599



that's held together by safety pin that method, What is81500:38:30.639 --> 00:38:33.280



that message? What is going on there? What's for you81600:38:33.360 --> 00:38:35.000



doesn't matter, but what the rest of the world.81700:38:34.920 --> 00:38:36.239



Sees matters interesting?81800:38:36.880 --> 00:38:38.360



Right, and we just do that. And to do that81900:38:38.400 --> 00:38:41.199



without judgment, to do that without flogging, to do that82000:38:41.239 --> 00:38:44.519



without making yourself wrong is so powerful. And it's not82100:38:44.719 --> 00:38:46.920



easy to do because somewhere along the line, we were82200:38:46.960 --> 00:38:48.440



all taught if you just beat the hell out of82300:38:48.480 --> 00:38:53.239



yourself verbally, then you won't be lazy. It's like, no, no,82400:38:53.320 --> 00:38:55.880



that just makes everything worse. It's like no, no, no. You82500:38:56.000 --> 00:38:57.719



love up on the kid who thinks it's okay to82600:38:57.760 --> 00:39:00.000



have safety pins and they're underwear while everybody else thinks82700:39:00.000 --> 00:39:03.000



they're wealthy. That's the kid you love up on, and82800:39:03.079 --> 00:39:05.519



that's the belief. You start to say, Okay, well, if82900:39:05.519 --> 00:39:07.360



that is the belief, what is it like to live83000:39:07.440 --> 00:39:10.360



like that? It's hell. It's hell because every time I83100:39:10.360 --> 00:39:13.079



open up my bank account. I feel like crab. Interesting.83200:39:13.119 --> 00:39:14.800



But if the neighbors come over and happen to see83300:39:14.800 --> 00:39:18.639



the new curtains, you feel good for ten seconds. Interesting?83400:39:20.000 --> 00:39:21.400



What do you want to do about that? And we83500:39:21.440 --> 00:39:23.440



do that without doudgment. We do that with so much83600:39:23.480 --> 00:39:25.719



love and so much empathy and so much understanding because83700:39:25.719 --> 00:39:27.239



it could be any one of us. I mean, I've83800:39:27.280 --> 00:39:29.039



done it, you've done it, We've all done it. Like83900:39:29.599 --> 00:39:31.440



no one's on a box here going well I do.84000:39:32.239 --> 00:39:33.840



And if they're doing that, I'm going to want to84100:39:33.880 --> 00:39:38.239



talk to them something he does that work? Right? Like,84200:39:38.559 --> 00:39:40.719



we're all in this together. And you know I love84300:39:40.760 --> 00:39:43.559



to tell people all the time, like, no work gets84400:39:43.639 --> 00:39:46.079



to lift you up outside of your humanity. Right, I'm84500:39:46.119 --> 00:39:47.559



a coach who talks about money and I'm going to84600:39:47.599 --> 00:39:49.960



get surprise bills. Nothing is going to lift me up84700:39:50.000 --> 00:39:51.960



out of my own humanity either. And I think when84800:39:52.000 --> 00:39:53.360



we start to get that with each other and we84900:39:53.440 --> 00:39:56.079



understand we're all in this the beliefs are causing my85000:39:56.119 --> 00:39:58.320



results world, Well, how can I ask a different question?85100:39:58.400 --> 00:40:00.320



How can I start looking at this differently? We're in85200:40:00.360 --> 00:40:02.960



that together, and I think we're in that environment where85300:40:02.960 --> 00:40:05.760



there is no judgment. It gets really almost fun to85400:40:05.800 --> 00:40:09.360



figure these things out because you're unlocking yourself from different prisms.85500:40:11.920 --> 00:40:17.440



So yes to all of it. But for those of85600:40:17.519 --> 00:40:21.840



us who are who are trying to change the way85700:40:21.880 --> 00:40:24.599



that we do things in terms of the three D85800:40:24.760 --> 00:40:27.800



versus the five D, that kind of thing, how do85900:40:27.840 --> 00:40:32.920



you align abundance and these types of concepts with a86000:40:33.039 --> 00:40:34.280



soul aligned purpose?86100:40:36.159 --> 00:40:40.840



Yeah, well, such a loaded question and so beautiful, and86200:40:40.880 --> 00:40:43.280



thank you for asking it. But one of the things86300:40:43.599 --> 00:40:49.159



I say often is, I don't think universe, God, highest up,86400:40:49.199 --> 00:40:54.360



whatever your belief system is. I don't think that God86500:40:54.400 --> 00:40:56.400



put you here with these beautiful gifts that you've been86600:40:56.440 --> 00:40:58.360



given so you could give those gifts away for free86700:40:58.360 --> 00:41:03.280



and hate your day job. I don't what this is86800:41:03.280 --> 00:41:05.960



all a complete man made construct that we spend time86900:41:06.000 --> 00:41:08.199



away from our families, away from the people we love,87000:41:09.159 --> 00:41:11.719



so that we can pay bills for stuff we don't want.87100:41:12.199 --> 00:41:15.679



I don't think that that's actually the plan. If you87200:41:15.679 --> 00:41:17.559



actually take a moment and think about it, we're you know,87300:41:17.559 --> 00:41:19.079



if you're a parent, or if you have nieces and87400:41:19.119 --> 00:41:21.079



nephews or children that you love in your life, would87500:41:21.079 --> 00:41:25.239



you ever say to them go be miserable, like, no,87600:41:25.639 --> 00:41:29.639



that's that's not a thing, right, So it really is understanding.87700:41:29.719 --> 00:41:31.559



And this well to your question is where I really87800:41:31.639 --> 00:41:34.280



do work with women because women have been taught to87900:41:34.280 --> 00:41:36.800



give away their gifts for free, like society depends on88000:41:36.920 --> 00:41:39.519



that in so many ways that we don't get paid88100:41:39.559 --> 00:41:41.800



for what we do. So there is a lot of88200:41:41.840 --> 00:41:46.000



work inside of a soul led purpose, right, understanding that88300:41:46.000 --> 00:41:47.880



that soul led purpose was given to you so you88400:41:47.920 --> 00:41:51.599



could make a living. It's not an extra it's not88500:41:51.760 --> 00:41:53.800



this you know, crazy thing on the side. It's why88600:41:53.840 --> 00:41:56.719



you're here. And there's no way the universe or God88700:41:56.800 --> 00:42:00.000



would give you that gift and not provide for you88800:42:00.480 --> 00:42:03.320



to provide the gift. And what I like to say88900:42:03.400 --> 00:42:05.280



is almost how that happens is none of our business.89000:42:05.360 --> 00:42:06.920



I always say, I wake up every day and I89100:42:06.960 --> 00:42:09.199



keep my agreement with the universe. Some people say their89200:42:09.199 --> 00:42:11.760



agreement with God. And that is my ability to speak89300:42:11.800 --> 00:42:13.840



and to go out and talk about these concepts. That's89400:42:13.840 --> 00:42:15.440



my thing. That's what I'm here to do. So I89500:42:15.519 --> 00:42:18.360



just keep that agreement and I keep it constantly. There89600:42:18.360 --> 00:42:19.880



are times I don't feel like it, but I keep89700:42:19.960 --> 00:42:22.320



that agreement. And I go up and I keep that agreement,89800:42:22.320 --> 00:42:25.320



and I keep my agreement that way, and then everything89900:42:25.320 --> 00:42:28.880



else gets handled. Do I have to have a business, Yeah?90000:42:29.000 --> 00:42:31.000



Do I have to have offers? Sure? Do I need90100:42:31.039 --> 00:42:33.000



to understand what I'm charging for? Oh my gosh, yes,90200:42:33.039 --> 00:42:36.039



of course. Again this is not magical thinking. But now90300:42:36.079 --> 00:42:38.119



that that is set up, my job is to use90400:42:38.119 --> 00:42:40.480



my gifts every day to the best of my ability,90500:42:40.519 --> 00:42:45.199



and to know that somebody gets sent this podcast episode,90600:42:45.199 --> 00:42:47.320



for example, by a friend they haven't talked to in90700:42:47.360 --> 00:42:49.519



five years one day that they saw in the grocery store, right, Like,90800:42:49.559 --> 00:42:51.639



that part's none of my business. Like that part is90900:42:51.800 --> 00:42:55.079



taken care from something much smarter than me. But if91000:42:55.119 --> 00:42:57.159



I don't show up and keep my agreement, that part's91100:42:57.199 --> 00:43:00.239



not possible. And so when we look at abundance, we91200:43:00.320 --> 00:43:03.519



can all have the abundance of self to show up91300:43:03.559 --> 00:43:05.840



and keep our agreement with the universe and anybody listening,91400:43:05.880 --> 00:43:08.480



you know which one I'm talking about. It's your ability91500:43:08.519 --> 00:43:10.800



to make people laugh, it's your ability to have empathy.91600:43:10.840 --> 00:43:13.400



And maybe you're an incredible parent and you've always had91700:43:13.400 --> 00:43:14.840



this thing of like, oh, I'd love to teach other91800:43:14.880 --> 00:43:17.000



parents how to do that maybe you're great at driving91900:43:17.079 --> 00:43:19.079



and you're like, I want to teach these kids. Nobody's teaching.92000:43:19.119 --> 00:43:20.840



They're all taken uber how to drive. I don't know.92100:43:21.079 --> 00:43:24.119



We all have our right that we're here to do.92200:43:25.360 --> 00:43:27.760



And this part takes a little bit of faith. It92300:43:27.800 --> 00:43:30.599



also takes action, and it takes examining your beliefs that92400:43:30.679 --> 00:43:33.960



dictate your actions. But this idea that you would not92500:43:34.079 --> 00:43:36.119



have been given this gift if there wasn't a way92600:43:36.199 --> 00:43:39.079



for you to sustain your life doing it. And I92700:43:39.119 --> 00:43:42.039



think once that truth sort of clicks, it clicks for people.92800:43:42.079 --> 00:43:45.599



It's beautiful to watch. You watch a moment where someone goes, oh,92900:43:45.639 --> 00:43:47.719



I get that now, and then they go out and93000:43:47.719 --> 00:43:49.599



they do their thing. Yeah.93100:43:49.679 --> 00:43:51.880



So what if you don't know what your gift is?93200:43:52.719 --> 00:43:54.760



You know, you get so caught up in life and93300:43:54.800 --> 00:43:57.880



work and whatever, and no you're just yeah, I got93400:43:57.880 --> 00:43:58.519



nothing special?93500:43:59.679 --> 00:43:59.800



Right?93600:44:00.440 --> 00:44:02.800



No? I mean, my my favorite question to ask there93700:44:02.880 --> 00:44:05.079



is what a people come to you for? Like, if93800:44:05.079 --> 00:44:07.159



I were to ask you right now, you know, what93900:44:07.559 --> 00:44:10.119



do people ask you to do? Or what would what94000:44:10.159 --> 00:44:11.920



are your friends come to you for? Most people have94100:44:11.960 --> 00:44:15.079



an answer or an inkling. And if somebody is thinking no,94200:44:15.199 --> 00:44:18.280



that doesn't really happen. You know, one of my first94300:44:18.320 --> 00:44:20.119



clients when I first started my business, I love to94400:44:20.159 --> 00:44:22.400



share her story. Her name is Tasha Blasi and she94500:44:23.480 --> 00:44:26.079



now helps people with IVF. She has one hundred percent94600:44:26.079 --> 00:44:29.760



success rate in getting people pregnant and wow, isn't that gorgeous. Yeah.94700:44:29.840 --> 00:44:32.559



She came to me. She was a senior executive at94800:44:32.559 --> 00:44:34.400



a country music station and she's like, get me out94900:44:34.440 --> 00:44:35.840



of this job or I'm going to stick a pork95000:44:35.840 --> 00:44:37.360



in my eye. I was like, okay, great, what are95100:44:37.360 --> 00:44:40.159



we doing? And she said I want to organize wealthy95200:44:40.199 --> 00:44:42.800



women's closets and I was like, really, really do you?95300:44:43.199 --> 00:44:45.320



So that's those are the conversations you want to have95400:44:45.360 --> 00:44:47.239



all day And she was like, oh god no. I95500:44:47.280 --> 00:44:50.320



was like, yeah, it's not so funny. When we start95600:44:50.320 --> 00:44:52.679



with the money, we're like all backwards. I was like,95700:44:52.719 --> 00:44:54.320



I don't. I don't think that's what you're here to do,95800:44:54.400 --> 00:44:56.079



but you know, if it is, we'll figure it out.95900:44:56.719 --> 00:44:58.519



And I said what do people come to you for?96000:44:58.760 --> 00:45:01.760



And she said, oh, my gosh, my IVF journey And96100:45:01.800 --> 00:45:02.679



I was like what IVF?96200:45:02.760 --> 00:45:03.239



I didn't know.96300:45:03.320 --> 00:45:05.199



I was like, what IVF journey? And what had happened96400:45:05.239 --> 00:45:07.119



is it took her two rounds to have her oldest96500:45:07.599 --> 00:45:11.079



and then eight rounds to have her second, And so96600:45:11.119 --> 00:45:15.800



she had this unique, beautiful experience of primary infertility and96700:45:15.840 --> 00:45:18.960



then secondary infertility. And I was like, talk to me96800:45:19.000 --> 00:45:21.079



about this and the guilt she felt for like still96900:45:21.119 --> 00:45:22.960



going on. She already had a kid and like all97000:45:23.159 --> 00:45:25.519



the things that she went through. And then she's like, oh, yeah,97100:45:25.519 --> 00:45:27.840



and I was a biology teacher. I was like what97200:45:28.519 --> 00:45:31.159



She's like, Yeah, I totally forgot I was a biology teacher.97300:45:31.199 --> 00:45:32.880



I'm like, oh my god, you got to be kidding me.97400:45:33.159 --> 00:45:36.199



And she's gorgeous and she's funny, and I was like, yeah,97500:45:36.239 --> 00:45:38.800



we're putting this together. And what people would call her97600:45:38.840 --> 00:45:41.880



for was how to not make the shots hurt? And97700:45:42.079 --> 00:45:44.679



how can I get through, you know, the day of97800:45:44.719 --> 00:45:47.280



implantation until the day I take my pregnancy test. How97900:45:47.280 --> 00:45:48.880



can I get through that without being stressed out and98000:45:48.880 --> 00:45:52.280



freaked out? And so she started teaching that. They're now98100:45:52.320 --> 00:45:54.039



like over three hundred and fifty babies in the world98200:45:54.079 --> 00:45:56.119



now because she taught people how to do that. That's98300:45:56.119 --> 00:45:58.760



her thing. That's what she started to do. Right, It's like,98400:45:58.880 --> 00:46:00.719



I don't know what your thing is. But if I98500:46:00.719 --> 00:46:03.800



can ask you that question and you start getting into98600:46:03.840 --> 00:46:06.800



what actually like rolls your socks up and down, it's like,98700:46:07.000 --> 00:46:09.239



wait a second, and it could be something very different.98800:46:09.280 --> 00:46:10.760



I didn't know she knew about IVF.98900:46:10.840 --> 00:46:11.079



Yeah.99000:46:11.119 --> 00:46:14.800



Well, and the thing, you know, I think the question99100:46:14.960 --> 00:46:18.519



from Karen coming from Karen is is a really good99200:46:18.519 --> 00:46:22.320



one because a lot of people don't They don't know99300:46:22.400 --> 00:46:24.760



how to ask that question and be able to answer it.99400:46:24.840 --> 00:46:27.719



Like I could answer it for Karen immediately, but she's99500:46:27.760 --> 00:46:30.920



still trying to figure out what her calling is. But99600:46:31.000 --> 00:46:33.480



you just went in on a website to ask people99700:46:33.639 --> 00:46:35.360



how much would people pay for something like this?99800:46:35.800 --> 00:46:36.880



Oh no, that's not calling.99900:46:37.360 --> 00:46:40.280



That's professionally, but you're amazing at it, and people come100000:46:40.320 --> 00:46:41.360



to you all the time about it.100100:46:41.599 --> 00:46:42.280



No, not really.100200:46:42.440 --> 00:46:44.800



Well, she made she made the cake for our daughter100300:46:44.920 --> 00:46:48.519



for a daughter's birthday, and it was unbelievable. It was gorgeous,100400:46:49.199 --> 00:46:51.719



and she couldn't easily make tons of money doing this100500:46:51.840 --> 00:46:56.280



kind of thing. But anyway, whereas for me, people come100600:46:56.320 --> 00:47:01.239



to me because they like to drink with me that100700:47:01.880 --> 00:47:08.559



tech stuff. Well, yes, anyway, So you're one of those100800:47:08.639 --> 00:47:11.920



people that I could just sit and listen to.100900:47:13.400 --> 00:47:15.880



Literally really asked the questions, listen for.101000:47:16.039 --> 00:47:20.679



Days, for days, and so unfortunately we are running out101100:47:20.679 --> 00:47:24.239



of time, very rattly, but I've got Usually we like101200:47:24.320 --> 00:47:27.239



to ask people some curveball questions just to kind of101300:47:27.320 --> 00:47:30.159



throw things in different directions and hoping that you are101400:47:30.239 --> 00:47:31.079



open to something like that.101500:47:31.559 --> 00:47:33.880



I love that. Let's go okay, all right?101600:47:34.280 --> 00:47:39.559



Uh, if you could send one push notification to every101700:47:39.679 --> 00:47:42.760



phone on the planet, just one sentence, what would it say.101800:47:44.400 --> 00:47:54.199



Oh, that's an easy one, just one mmm.101900:47:59.440 --> 00:48:02.840



Probably something along the lines of you really are already102000:48:02.920 --> 00:48:05.159



ready and yes they will.102100:48:05.039 --> 00:48:05.599



Pay you for it.102200:48:07.320 --> 00:48:07.760



I love that.102300:48:09.079 --> 00:48:10.920



I need to figure out what I'm ready for and102400:48:11.440 --> 00:48:12.800



I'm paying for it.102500:48:12.840 --> 00:48:13.039



Okay.102600:48:13.519 --> 00:48:16.719



The second question, what is the sassiest, most loving piece102700:48:16.760 --> 00:48:18.760



of advice you wish you could whisper into the ear102800:48:18.840 --> 00:48:19.440



of every.102900:48:19.320 --> 00:48:20.000



Person on earth?103000:48:21.559 --> 00:48:22.719



Kind of got same lines.103100:48:26.119 --> 00:48:34.599



The sassiest go kick some assets. I think that's what103200:48:34.639 --> 00:48:36.519



I would say, Like, stop it, you can make as103300:48:36.599 --> 00:48:37.840



much as you want, get out of here.103400:48:38.079 --> 00:48:38.119



Go.103500:48:38.880 --> 00:48:39.119



Yeah.103600:48:39.440 --> 00:48:41.679



It's funny because in the same video that we talked103700:48:41.719 --> 00:48:44.800



about earlier, you mentioned about how how many millions of103800:48:44.840 --> 00:48:46.679



people there are in the United States and you think103900:48:46.760 --> 00:48:48.719



you need them all to do run your business, but104000:48:48.760 --> 00:48:51.840



you really only need like five or we know, you know,104100:48:51.960 --> 00:48:55.360



five thousand of them whatever, So there are plenty of104200:48:55.400 --> 00:48:56.320



people for your business.104300:48:56.400 --> 00:48:57.199



It's not like you know.104400:48:57.280 --> 00:49:00.519



So okay, last one really quickly. If money was a104500:49:00.639 --> 00:49:04.000



character in a movie, who would it be and what104600:49:04.079 --> 00:49:06.000



would their dramatic monologue sound like?104700:49:07.039 --> 00:49:08.880



Oh my god, this is so interesting. You said that104800:49:08.920 --> 00:49:11.519



because I actually just did an exercise in the Abundant's104900:49:11.519 --> 00:49:13.519



Academy where I said, I want you to picture money105000:49:13.559 --> 00:49:15.199



and who it is as a character. So I totally105100:49:15.280 --> 00:49:19.679



have the answer for isn't that wild? I've the universe105200:49:19.719 --> 00:49:23.480



does stuff alignment? Yes? Wow? So did you ever see105300:49:23.519 --> 00:49:24.320



Big Hero six?105400:49:24.519 --> 00:49:25.400



Yes? Love that movie.105500:49:25.480 --> 00:49:28.079



There's a big white, fluffy dude right who holds you105600:49:28.119 --> 00:49:31.159



and hug that's my money. Money would be as the105700:49:31.199 --> 00:49:36.000



big and he hugs you. Yes, thank you, and there's105800:49:36.079 --> 00:49:37.960



money flying all around. When I saw this, and the105900:49:38.079 --> 00:49:42.000



monologue is see I was always here. Oh that's it. God.106000:49:42.840 --> 00:49:46.800



Wow, I swear you are one of my favorite guests106100:49:46.840 --> 00:49:50.039



of all the time. This is amazing, Sarah. I know106200:49:50.159 --> 00:49:51.920



you do a lot of things on your website. You106300:49:51.960 --> 00:49:54.400



give a lot of things away for free for folks106400:49:54.480 --> 00:49:56.199



that want to go and visit your site, but then106500:49:56.199 --> 00:49:58.880



you also help a lot of people, So tell us106600:49:58.920 --> 00:50:01.039



about what you do, why should someone go to your106700:50:01.119 --> 00:50:03.119



site and what is it so we can put it106800:50:03.119 --> 00:50:04.199



in our show notes for it, buddy.106900:50:04.559 --> 00:50:06.800



Yeah, yeah, So it's just my name Sarah with an ah,107000:50:06.920 --> 00:50:09.719



Sarah Walton like the Family on TV Sarah Walton dot com.107100:50:10.400 --> 00:50:12.480



I think one of my favorite things on the website107200:50:12.639 --> 00:50:15.119



is the Freedom Calculator, which you mentioned well, and this107300:50:15.440 --> 00:50:17.840



is just it's just a pdf you can download. It's107400:50:17.840 --> 00:50:19.400



got a lot of marketing advice on it, but the107500:50:19.480 --> 00:50:21.480



most important piece is at the very beginning is your107600:50:21.519 --> 00:50:24.039



own calculator for you to understand how much money you107700:50:24.079 --> 00:50:26.400



would need to make in order to feel free. And107800:50:26.519 --> 00:50:28.719



the reason I give that away is I want people107900:50:28.760 --> 00:50:30.920



to know their number based on their lifestyle so they108000:50:30.960 --> 00:50:33.119



can start going towards it. Remember we set awareness is108100:50:33.159 --> 00:50:35.800



so much so you can find out your specific number108200:50:36.280 --> 00:50:38.920



and start moving towards it. And I love that. But108300:50:39.000 --> 00:50:40.960



then you can also find my podcast, the Game on108400:50:41.039 --> 00:50:43.840



Girlfriend podcast and my YouTube channel there as well.108500:50:44.039 --> 00:50:46.320



Right, And one of the greatest things about the Freedom108600:50:46.400 --> 00:50:48.440



Calculators if you go and you ask for it, you108700:50:48.519 --> 00:50:50.840



will get that video that was talking about, So it'll108800:50:50.840 --> 00:50:52.159



be a win win all the way around.108900:50:52.480 --> 00:50:52.800



Sarah.109000:50:52.880 --> 00:50:55.880



Yeah, amazing, absolutely amazing having you on the show. I109100:50:56.239 --> 00:50:59.440



feel like this may not be the last time we talk,109200:50:59.719 --> 00:51:01.599



but I'm just putting out it right and I.109300:51:01.639 --> 00:51:02.719



Feel like I got a lot of work to do.109400:51:03.039 --> 00:51:08.159



Yeah, we'll make anything. It's all good, sister. I got109500:51:08.199 --> 00:51:08.559



your back.109600:51:08.880 --> 00:51:11.440



I got you all right, Sarah. Thank you so much109700:51:11.440 --> 00:51:13.280



for coming on the show. It's been an absolute pleasure.109800:51:13.360 --> 00:51:15.639



We look forward to sticking around, sticking and being in109900:51:15.719 --> 00:51:16.599



touch again soon.110000:51:17.480 --> 00:51:19.199



Thank you so much. You guys can joy.110100:51:19.280 --> 00:51:21.119



Yeah, we're going to stick something. Thank you for being110200:51:21.159 --> 00:51:23.559



on the show. Look forward to keeping in touch with110300:51:23.679 --> 00:51:25.239



you in the future.110400:51:26.159 --> 00:51:26.679



I love it.110500:51:26.840 --> 00:51:28.559



Thanks so much you guys. This has been a joy.110600:51:29.519 --> 00:51:30.920



Okay, Well that does it for this episode of the110700:51:30.960 --> 00:51:33.320



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