Holiday Tip #5: I Have To VS. I Want To
I created the Holiday Tips series for ambitious high achieving women trying to juggle everything this holiday season -- closing out the fiscal year at work, coordinating holiday events, hosting, cooking, cleaning, communicating, shopping, wrapping. The mental load is extra heavy this time of year, and I'm hopeful these holiday tips will help make things a little lighter for you.
Connect with me on Instagram @execcoachleanna or LinkedIn to tune into the full series and join us for the Seasonal Support Sessions.
Hey everyone. Coach Leanna, the executive coach for moms here with another holiday tip, and this one is one that can be used year round. It's probably one of my favorite shifts, but we're gonna talk about it in relation to the holidays today. And that is the idea of I have to, versus I want to. When we are doing all this work, and I think a lot of times whenever we have a really full to-do list, we tell ourselves I have to do this. And when we say that, it elicits a feeling of like, ugh. And dread and just like we're not excited about it. Right? And so when we do it, it's like we're like trudging through the mud. So it takes more energy from us and the actual doing it. And it takes more energy leading up to it because it's like we're like dreading it and we're just like thinking about it
and mulling it over , and just feeling like that very energy sucking feeling of dread. [00:01:00] And when we shift to I want to, or I'm going to, or I'm so excited to, then we have a very different energy about it.
So getting really clear with ourselves about everything that we are doing this holiday season
is something that we either want to do or make it just neutral, like I'm going to do it. But whenever we have that dread, that is just gonna suck our energy so much and it's not gonna leave time and energy for all of the other things we wanna be doing this season that we're really, really genuinely so excited to do.
So check what language you're using about that. So, so important. And the more and more you're saying, I have to just notice how heavy that feels compared to changing that script to I want to, or I'm going to. Follow me at @execcoachleanna for more tips.
