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Know Why You Want Friends to More Wisely Make Them

How many good friends do you have? When's the last time you made a new one? Want more? Just about all of the tips on making friends focus on how to do it, but it turns out that Rachel, Ross, Phoebe et al. were onto a smarter first step in the TV phenomenon Friends. Jordan Friedman takes us to Cypress to talk with Melenaos Apostoulou, one of the only people in the world who has researched why we want friends. Then, Jordan presents some friend-making strategies connected to the reasons we want them.

Episode Highlights

  • Current stats on the state of our friendships
  • Why friends are evolutionarily critical
  • The main reasons we want friends
  • Warning signs that you may need friends, new and old
  • Friend-making strategies built around the reasons we want them


Guest Menelaos Apostolou

Professor Menelaos Apostolou is a faculty member at the University of Nicosia, Cyprus. He was born in Athens, Greece, and he completed his post-graduate and graduate studies in the United Kingdom. He has published several peer-reviewed papers, books and chapters in books in the area of evolutionary psychology.

Menelaos Apostolou's Website

Contact Menelaos Apostolou

Why People Make Friends (research by M. Apostolou et al.)

Additional Research

Loneliness in America

Benefits of Friendship

Episode Goodies and Resources

The Chill Factory Podcast Website

Quick Calm Video Workshop

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The Chill Factory App

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About Jordan Friedman, Host of The Chill Factory Podcast

Jordan is known as The Stress Coach, a career path that likely started when one of the world’s largest brain tumors was discovered in his head at age 10. The resulting, nonstop stress continued through college until he reluctantly enrolled in a stress management class that led to much less stress, a degree in public health, a job as Columbia University’s health education director and now a career as a global stress management speaker, trainer and author. For 25 years, Jordan's been privileged to help and learn from 9/11 survivors, teachers, CEOs, police officers, incarcerated adults, students and lots of other stressed people who want to be more successful, get better grades, sleep easier and be healthier.

In 2004, Jordan founded The Stress Coach to provide innovative workshops, multimedia webinars, chill apps, online courses and more stress-relief opportunities. The Chill Factory podcast is Jordan's latest effort to bring stress relief and better health to the world.