Major Monumental Moments from Season 2

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You are listening to the Balancing Act podcast. Here's your hosts,

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Jamie Wanko and Joe Vitale.

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Hey, guess what? We're officially recording. Ooh, la la.

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That is what I like to hear. Very French. Very, I mean, gosh,

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very French. Here it's been.

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Balancing Act podcast.

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I am Jamie Wanko. I am here with mr joseph Vitale

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well hello you know what rhymes with vitali finale

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oh my goodness look at you

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we're like a regular we're like eminem we're in the cypher okay um look this

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is our season two finale ladies and gentlemen insert round of applause here

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um here we are yeah here we are and so many amazing things have happened which

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we're looking forward to talking about today But yeah, here we are.

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We did it. We did a thing. We're doing a thing. We did a thing.

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This is the thing. This is the thing. Yeah.

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So how are you? This is actually debuting, right?

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This episode will be broadcasting right at the end of our school year.

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So which again, if you've been following along, we get out June 57th,

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or at least again, that's what it feels like.

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Yeah, it's exceptionally late this year for us. I know that,

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you know, lots of other states get out or run the schedule more of like August to May.

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And here in New Jersey, it's pretty typical for the school year to start after Labor Day.

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And, you know, somewhere in the, you know, 16, 17, 18, the teens,

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if you will, we are going until June 25th, which is a very easy marker for me

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to remember because it is my oldest child's birthday. Yay.

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So the 25th. And and so it's an easy marker for me to remember because my oldest

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child is born on the 25th of June.

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And in his almost 17 years of being here with us, we have once had a later end of school year.

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He was about five years old and we got out on the 27th, which was bananas and,

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you know, in its own right.

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Cause I just remember like celebrating his birthday and then he was actually

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like staying with my sister and I was, you know, it's like, is this year ever over?

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But yeah, the 25th is pretty late for us. Yeah.

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Yes. Yes. Earliest ever was June 10th. That was the year of COVID.

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That was the year of COVID. And that was amazing.

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June 10th was amazing. Yeah, it was pretty amazing. But no, it's not unique

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to us in New Jersey, but just to speak about it, like we have,

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our calendar is built in snow days in the district in which we work.

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And if they don't use those snow days, they tack them on to Memorial Day weekend.

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And our schools are also used for primaries for New Jersey elections in June.

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So we had off like, what was it? September, September. Oh, it tells you where my brain's at.

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We had off for extra days on Memorial Day weekend. And we had off a day before the New Jersey primary.

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So we had like a long weekend, came back and worked three days.

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Another long weekend, came back and worked three days.

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Now we're in school. And then we have off for Juneteenth. And then we come back

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and we work four more days. And it's like, why are we still doing this?

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And I'm sure there is a reason.

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Before it was like project graduation or when graduation is or whatever.

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But I don't understand why we don't figure out a way to make sure that we take

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these days and take them off at the end of the year. Yeah, I think that that's

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something that needs to be brought up.

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And I think in education and a lot of other systems to use our, you know, Dr.

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Santorelli, right, the idea often becomes like, well, this is how we do it instead

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of like, maybe we shouldn't anymore. You know, I, you know, gently suggest maybe we shouldn't anymore.

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And and for a while, you know, the last few years, there's been this really

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prideful pitch that we do not have a day off in September or October. Right.

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It's like we're going straight through and we're going straight through and

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we're going straight through until November because of the consistency for the kids.

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And it is fantastic. And it is 100 percent, you know, the consistency that you

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need. And at the end of the year, it is too many in and out.

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It's just so difficult.

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Today, it was fighting.

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I just couldn't, you know, and I don't blame the kids. You know, you got a trip.

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Then you're off for five days. Then you have a trip.

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Then you're in class for one day. Then you have another trip.

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Then you have another four-day weekend.

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And then, you know, the teachers are like, hi, we have to. And the kids are

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looking like, have to what?

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You know, it's. And that's unique to you with the eighth grade.

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Now they've added like a little quasi field day thing, which is happening. Yeah.

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You know, so there's that. And it's just, it's a lot of things.

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So I'd be curious. Even the Chromebook collection, I think, triggers some it's over sort of feeling.

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And then, of course, we have five half days.

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At the end of the school year. And, um, I was actually telling some of my students,

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we were talking about it because they said, I don't think we have a half day.

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You know, I don't think Wednesday is a half day. I said, no,

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I promise you, I take my end of the school year.

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Dates very seriously. And I, and I said, and I promise you that Wednesday is

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a half day. I said, we have always had five half days.

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I said, in one year we had six and I could not remember why we had six,

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but we did. That stuck out to me.

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And, um, and I also, uh, was remembering very tragically, we had lost a student,

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a seventh grade girl, um, was killed, uh, in 2006, 05, 06.

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I feel like it was the first year that I was Wonko.

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Um, so I'm pretty sure it was like June of 2006, um, 2007, somewhere in that range for sure.

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Um, and she was killed, um, kids, uh, on a half day of school had left.

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They were like running across the train tracks and she got killed by a train,

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and in front of like her whole group of friends.

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And boy, was that awful, awful, awful.

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And for a while after that, a lot of us thought, you know, maybe we won't have

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half days anymore or something like that. But, you know, that wasn't the case.

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That's not, you know, they do definitely.

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Then that was, my gosh, I mean, we're approaching like almost 20 years from

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that time period, you know.

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But, yeah, so like that, it's been like that since I was a student in the district a million years ago.

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Got it. It's pretty common in places to have that.

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Thank goodness for the half days. But with our schedule now,

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with the one hour periods, the half days can get they can get real busy.

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Yeah. So, I mean, that's neither here nor there because we are also at a point

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where it's like, you know what?

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Our listeners are listening to this and it's like, damn it, we're done.

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Let's let's close up shop here.

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So, yeah, I think there's a lot of adults. that feel that way.

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I mean, my own children who are in high school are also like,

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okay, finals and then let's shut it down.

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Um, and rightfully so, because it's been, you know, junior year is a very important one.

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It's been a lot of work and I'm looking forward to them being able to have an opportunity to, to, uh,

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you know, relax a little bit, uh, for themselves in the summertime before they

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pick up their senior year and then all the things happen.

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So, um, so yeah, here we are. And, uh, we've had some major monumental moments

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this season. And I thought today it would be fun for each of us to go over and rank.

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I mean, we can't do like a David Letterman top 10 list cause we'd be here for

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a while, but like the top three answers on the board as to our top three moments

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for each of us, uh, during season two.

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So that's what we are going to be discussing today and

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then maybe if you're listening you didn't check out those episodes

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uh you will go back and you

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can check out those episodes um over the summer

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and take a look i think we you know we are the

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perfect poolside beach listen

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exactly we are yeah you you

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know you don't want to totally stay out of the game teachers and parents you

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know you want to relax but also go back and revisit some

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of our episodes from season one and season two correct and

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be able to you know catch up and then be

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ready to join us in september for our season

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three because we are coming back with a bang yeah

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we are uh so and we'll announce this again at the end too but um yeah we will

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be dropping season three in september we already have like that's right we already

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have a slate of guests ready um and people that we're setting up recordings

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with and uh you know uh spoiler alert we may even be on some other shows Which,

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I mean, you know, things are happening. Whoa.

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It's all happening. Joe's next tattoo is going to be like Penny Lane.

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It's all happening. It's all happening. Yes, my next tattoo.

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Jamie's first tattoo is going to be that. Are we getting one this summer?

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Is that what's happening?

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I mean, probably not. Probably not. I'll let you write it on my leg in Sharpie. How's that?

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Oh, love it. All right. So why don't you do your, ladies first, your first tattoo.

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Top moment from this season? Why don't you do one? My top moment?

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Yeah. Or, you know, one of the top three. All right. It's hard to be like one,

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two, three. So like the top three moments in no particular order. Right.

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Or in a particular order, however you want to do it. No, I don't have a particular order.

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I don't have a, okay. So I'm going to start with middle school maniacs and Courtney Varner.

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Courtney Varner is hysterical and she was a great person to speak to.

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She has some really, really funny ideas and approach to her days in the classroom

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and someone who's been teaching for, I think, if I can remember, she said about 16 years.

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So, you know, definitely a veteran teacher at this point. And I absolutely loved

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and will hold her quote as I have taken it very, very seriously.

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Ha ha ha, pun intended. But she had pointed out, you know, if you are not having

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fun with the kids, you really need to reevaluate what you're doing,

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you know, on a daily basis. And it is 100% true.

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They are children. So find ways to enjoy them, enjoy your time with them and

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get them to have some levity and some light and some joy as well.

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And I think that that is so ultra important.

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So I, you know, that would be one of my top moments for sure.

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And if you are not following, uh, Courtney Varner, um, you absolutely should

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be because she is, uh, she's a great follow and she posts so many wonderful,

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funny memes, uh, that are, that speak basically to my heart.

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And she's also been a great friend of the show in like reposting stuff.

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And, um, you know, just every once in a while reaching out and we send her a

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message to say, Hey, this is really funny. And then we chat a little bit.

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It's just, you know, it's great to kind of create relationships like this,

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which I guess is a nice little by-product of what we're doing.

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Um, so She's like, hi, underscore, it's underscore Me, underscore,

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kiss it Underscore We will make sure that we post it in the In the episode description

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in case you Want to give these people a follow,

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We've had some wonderful guests on this season And from all different walks Of, uh, of, of,

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the teaching backgrounds, teaching landscape and, and educational stuff.

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And as well as psychiatrists, psychologists, researchers, branching out, baby.

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Um, listen, I, I got it.

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I'm, I, it's probably at the top of my list, but I have to mention that my favorite

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thing that happened this year was by far,

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uh, my little birthday to surprise when we recorded, uh, What Grinds My Gears,

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which was a fantastic episode.

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And I've listened to actually a few times. It's one of the few I've listened to again.

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And there's some times where we just are laughing at ourselves so maniacally

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and uncontrollably about the ridiculousness of that episode.

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And my favorite moment, of course, was these people and they're in the hallway

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and you walk past them and they don't say hello. I don't like it. I don't like it.

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I don't like it. I still don't like it. although now i feel like we do have

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a few we do have a few people who listen yeah that we work with and now i'm

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like hyper like hi hi hi hi you know i don't want to be caught out you call

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it the hello hey hi police the hello hey hi hey hi police i actually saw the um the lieutenant.

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Of the hey hi hello police um last week at a retirement party and i said to

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him you know i told him about the episode and you know and he was like thank

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you he's been retired for like a good, I guess, four or five years now.

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And he was like, thank you very much for continuing my vision.

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And it was like, salute to you, sir. Hey, hi, hello.

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But yeah, both of those, you know, both of those episodes that we just spoke

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about, the Courtney's and the Grind My Gears episode, you can find on all your podcasting platforms.

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Oh, and you want to know something? Because I'm going to say Grind My Gears.

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Oh, okay. I'm just grinding my...

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Real quick.

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For reals. so i go to this retirement party are you going off the rails here

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what's going on okay yes sir all right my platform am i allowed you i mean okay

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you know our platform but i'm with you i'm with you in spirit that's what i

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mean like am i allowed to in this moment okay of course you are.

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So i went to the retirement party and i

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totally and completely agree that like not everybody can be

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everybody's cup of tea and you know all

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the things but there were a couple of people that i

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worked with for a long time that would never

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say like would never say hello because they

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don't need to okay because they

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don't like it and they didn't and

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i also didn't like i felt like you know what if you don't want to say hello

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and i i'm not going to say hello either but i've been thinking about it non-stop

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since last week really how do you feel about that what do you think any thoughts Thank you.

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I don't really have any thoughts. I just, I know you as a person and I could

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see you taking a stance and saying, okay, I'm going to dig my heels in and I'm

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not going to, and I'm not going to do this.

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But then again, I could also see being like, you know what? I'm going to be

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the bigger person and I'm going to like go over and I'm going to say, hello.

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Hi, how are you? What's going on? How are you? You know, I could also see you,

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um, doing that as well. So I don't know. Go over.

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I mean, one walked like Ray and Jess.

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Nope. Okay. And the other one, it was like, I, hi, turn, just turn,

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turn, turn the head, turn the head. Yeah. Turn the head.

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Yeah. No, I don't, I mean, I don't, I don't disagree with your sentiment.

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I'm not saying glow anymore. Right. Like this is what happens.

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You know, I'm now a member of this club. It's called the, we do not care club.

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Ooh. It's for women. Um, a woman started it on Instagram. I love her.

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Um, I, we will also tag her because she's amazing. And she started a club and

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it's called the We Do Not Care Club. And we do not care.

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It's women that are perimenopausal and menopausal women are in the club.

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So sorry, Joe, you're not allowed in.

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Oh, man. I know. Sorry. But I'm not sorry because we don't care.

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That's the premise of the club.

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And she's like, to my teenage daughter who gives me an attitude,

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I just want you to know we do not care.

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She's fantastic. And now people, she wears like a napkin. And people have now

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started like their own chapter.

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So I would like to officially start the New Jersey chapter of the We Do Not

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Care Club. Thank you. Wow. That's a big deal.

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That's right. Can I be like, I need to be something for this.

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I could be like, no, I can't be anything. I mean, you could be a supporter.

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I'm not perimenopausal. It's true. I love it.

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I mean, what if your spouse is? I mean, you know.

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Well, she doesn't care about you because we don't care.

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These are all good things. It's amazing. But I have to say, like you said,

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oh, yeah, I know you as a person. But it makes me think, like, I feel I do not care.

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You also get to a point where. Something that would have bothered me 10 years ago.

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I'm like, oh, I clearly am a member of the We Do Not Care Club because we do not care.

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Yeah. And it's funny you say that. There's a comedian who I love,

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Bill Burr, who does not listen to our show. Oh, yeah, Bill Burr.

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Yeah, and he's great. And he talks about, like, as you get older,

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you just get to this point where you're like, eh, really, I shouldn't say that.

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Ah, screw it. Just say it. And that's like your internal monologue where,

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like, you get to a point where people are like, oh, well, they're...

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You know, 75 or they're 60 or they're, you know, 187.2 or however old they are.

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And like, it's just, yeah, that's just how they are. That's just what they say.

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Like I recently went to a little family thing and it was great.

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It was wonderful. But I have two aunts and they're both in their,

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in their middle eighties.

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And like, they just say things that people that lived the life that they live,

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just that's what they say.

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And. But at what age do you think they started their chapter of the We Do Not

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Care Club? Did I bet you it was longer than you think?

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I don't know. But at the same time, they have opinions and they do not care

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who hears them or they do not care if people agree with them or not.

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So, like, safe spaces do not exist for an 85-year-old.

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And there's nothing wrong with it. They're card-carrying members of the We Do Not Care Club.

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I swear, I think for women, it's, like, happening during peritimenopause. Yeah.

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That's how I feel. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

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So, like, you get to a point where it's like, why do you want to deal with the BS anymore? Right?

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You get to a point where it's like, you know what? It does grind my gears. Yeah.

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Harkening back to that episode. But at the same time, you get to a point where

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it's like, meh, you know.

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Right. Like, it's like, oh, you don't want to say hi because,

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like, that's not something that you value.

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Then, okay. Me neither. Well, I recently had a conversation about something

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at work and made a comment about, like, yeah, well, this is what's going to

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happen next year. And somebody was like, well, that's not, I said,

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no, you're not understanding what I'm saying.

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That's what's going to happen. Yeah. Because I have, I have tried once.

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I've tried twice. I've tried three times. Thrice?

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Thrice. And it has not worked. I've done it kindly. I've done it sternly.

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I've done it. Hey, let me just CC this email.

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Like, and things have not gone in a direction.

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So I'm just going to, I'm just going to not in a, in a jerky way.

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And I can be a jerk about it, but I'm just going to, this is how I'm going to

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handle it. And the reason why I'm going to handle it that way is because that's

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what I need in that moment, in that space. Right.

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So you doing that is what you need in that moment, in that space.

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It's exactly what you need.

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So you can't say like, oh, you shouldn't do that. You should.

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It was like, well, no, because that's what I needed in that moment. Right.

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Yes. It's like, I know this is not the same analogy.

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It's like if you're dieting and you're trying to be good, but then like, you know what?

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I really want to have French fries. So you have French fries and you go off the rails

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a little bit and nothing's awful and you're not a bad person

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it's just the way things are that's that's

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the way this is with this particular situation too it's like you just need

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it in that moment that's a fact jack yeah that's that's a fact jack so uh we

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had our friend courtney and we talked a little bit about grind my gears which

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is probably my favorite episode of the season ever so i mean at this point ever

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um what else would be uh what's on your list of our other top moments from season two.

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What's on my list? What's on my list? Okay.

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Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. I'm going to tell you that I really did enjoy the ways to deal

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with stress that we talked about,

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particularly around the holidays.

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Yes. And I believe his name was Charlie Burley. Charlie Burley! Charlie Burley!

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Oh, my gosh. One of the kids today was like trying to talk about different accents.

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And right now I'm re-watching, talk about self-care,

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I am like the biggest fan of re-watching shows I've already watched and I know

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that they say that that's like a very common thing for people that are,

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you know, having lots of stress or anxiety is that it's like a comfort show.

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So I re-watch Gilmore Girls and I re-watch Downton Abbey. I have like a few,

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right? So right now I'm in the middle of Downton Abbey.

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Anyway, so thinking of him and his accent, but one of the kids today was saying

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like, oh, I can do a lot of accents.

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And it was like the worst accent.

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And he was like, now I am speaking Cockney. And when we are done with this episode,

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I'm going to guess who that is because I guarantee you I know who it is.

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And then it was like an R from Ireland.

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And it was like, what is happening? And they all sounded...

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Nothing even like a little bit like any of it anyway.

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But yes, so the idea of like how to find ways to, you know, have less stress,

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how to like stress management.

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And I think, you know, there are certain things that seem really obvious to

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people, but it doesn't, you know, everything isn't for everyone.

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So I do know that right before the holidays, I thought that that was excellent.

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Like he gave us some really nice stress management.

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It's also hard when you're living in it to, you know, to look in and be,

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and then the phrase I always use is see the forest through the trees, right?

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Sometimes we can't see everything that's going on around us.

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Um, and it's also like, you know, the old hindsight being 2020 kind of deal, um,

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where you just don't realize like until you can kind of step outside yourself

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and like look and understand and analyze like, oh, this might be something else

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or a different way that I could approach things.

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And I think that also leads to some of the things that we've talked about later

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in this season, you know, about like the parents and doing all the things.

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And the fact that we just went through, again, Maycember, where all the things

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were happening and it culminates with, you know.

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Especially now this time of year, it for our children, it culminates with SATs and final exams.

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The end of the semester, the stress that surrounds that for the kids,

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our own children, right?

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And the difficulties that they have and the struggles that they have with that.

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And watching my daughter, I'm.

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Try to do all the things and say, she's kind of falling into that same trap

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of what we are falling into as adults, like volunteering or time to do this, wanting to do that.

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Oh, I want to do this thing. There's this party. There's that thing.

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Like you need to say like, okay, what are the three things, two things,

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one thing that I really need to do and then do that and realize that other things,

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the trade-off of doing that, right?

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Very easy to say, hard to put into practice. So I think

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one of the things that was mentioned in that episode, which was before the holidays,

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Uh, and Charlie's also an excellent follow on, um, on the socials as well,

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because he posts a lot about, you know, teacher, um,

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teacher burnout and how we as, uh, professionals can do things to make sure

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that that doesn't happen.

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Um, so I'm just trying to look at the actual episode number.

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That was definitely from December.

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Okay. Um, yeah, the teacher's health coast, it was our, uh, season two, episode 15. Okay.

00:24:04.025 --> 00:24:08.005
Um, Premiering on December 10th. Yeah, that's right.

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So he's at the teachers, the period teachers dot, excuse me,

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the dot teachers dot health dot coach.

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And he's also on, you know, a lot of the other socials as well.

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So he's a great follow, especially if you're looking for tips on that.

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You know, summertime is when we decide to put other tools in our toolbox,

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right, of things that we want to accomplish maybe for the coming year.

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And I think that that is something that every single one of us in the profession,

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whether you're new or old, would be or new or experienced, I guess, instead of old, right?

00:24:42.385 --> 00:24:45.085
Yeah. Would be something that we should, you know, all take a look at.

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I kind of have a I kind of I know I'm going to break the rules here,

00:24:48.545 --> 00:24:53.965
but I kind of have two things more recently that were really awesome that were top moments for.

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I mean, the rules are there ain't no rules. Yeah. Yeah.

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Do it. Yeah. Um, so we had two things that went on. I mean, we've had a bunch

00:25:01.865 --> 00:25:06.825
of wonderful guests, um, you know, um, Anna K read away with miss K and I'm

00:25:06.825 --> 00:25:11.305
shouting out Anna K again, because she was, she is such a great fan of the show.

00:25:11.465 --> 00:25:14.565
And when she sees our content, she reposts and she has like huge,

00:25:14.705 --> 00:25:16.085
a huge following and stuff like that.

00:25:16.185 --> 00:25:19.625
So it's, it's a huge bonus for us. It gets our show out to more people.

00:25:20.085 --> 00:25:23.405
And again, great episode. She had wonderful advice.

00:25:23.865 --> 00:25:26.625
Um, especially for new teachers. what's the

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expression uh you know like try to

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stand next to people who make you feel like they're

00:25:33.125 --> 00:25:36.925
um like they're human sunshine you know because you just like they are a glow

00:25:36.925 --> 00:25:42.505
that's her she just has like she's like a human sun she just glows and you just

00:25:42.505 --> 00:25:47.645
feel warm and wonderful like being near her yeah so there were really two things

00:25:47.645 --> 00:25:50.285
it was awesome to do a guest swap with um,

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with our friends at the NJAEA, Chelsea and Bianca. I mean, that was awesome.

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And a shout out, again, friend of the show, Nick Ferroni, Q hearts at this point, flying from my head.

00:26:04.503 --> 00:26:09.323
Our buddy, Nick Ferroni, who connected the two shows, we talked to Bianca and

00:26:09.323 --> 00:26:12.843
we talked to Chelsea and we were able to set it up where they were on our show. We were on theirs.

00:26:13.023 --> 00:26:16.443
That was a show that debuted in May during Teacher Appreciation Month,

00:26:16.463 --> 00:26:21.163
but also talked about some Some of the challenges that new teachers have coming into the classroom.

00:26:21.463 --> 00:26:24.563
And also from the perspective of that, what do they want to see,

00:26:24.603 --> 00:26:28.303
you know, for the next generation of teachers and props to them?

00:26:28.363 --> 00:26:33.183
Because both of them were talking about, you know, that student teaching is

00:26:33.183 --> 00:26:36.643
an unpaid internship. We understand it's the experience. You're paying for the credits.

00:26:36.843 --> 00:26:40.183
We understand everybody's done it. But we go back to what we talked about earlier in the episode.

00:26:40.743 --> 00:26:45.283
We've always done it that way. That doesn't mean that it's the best system and

00:26:45.283 --> 00:26:52.263
they're advocating for some kind of reimbursement for, you know,

00:26:52.363 --> 00:26:53.623
teachers who go through student teaching.

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You know, they're driving themselves.

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They're doing all those things and they're not making any money.

00:26:57.463 --> 00:27:01.463
And a lot of them are working on the weekends and they're also doing the job

00:27:01.463 --> 00:27:03.283
of a full time teacher during that time.

00:27:03.703 --> 00:27:08.983
So it's an unpaid internship. And again, it's a paid for internship because

00:27:08.983 --> 00:27:13.303
you have to pay the college. So, and again, it's something that we all went

00:27:13.303 --> 00:27:15.863
through, but that doesn't mean there isn't room for change.

00:27:16.123 --> 00:27:20.203
And looking at it from their perspective, I applaud the fact that they're like,

00:27:20.223 --> 00:27:23.163
you know what, we want to talk to people and work on legislation and talk about that.

00:27:23.543 --> 00:27:27.343
And so that was a recent guest that was a huge highlight for us.

00:27:27.423 --> 00:27:29.643
And the fact that we appeared on another show, which was great.

00:27:30.523 --> 00:27:35.563
It was awesome to go down to the NJEA offices and record with them.

00:27:35.563 --> 00:27:41.583
And just, you know, having my man Merv on, uh, was awesome because when I talked to Merv, um.

00:27:42.658 --> 00:27:45.938
When we, I wanted to start a podcast and you and I came up with the idea and

00:27:45.938 --> 00:27:50.038
I, I met him down at, um, ISTE and said, Hey, let's just have a beer and sit down.

00:27:50.178 --> 00:27:53.698
And I want to run some ideas by you. And I said, one of these days, I'm going to have you on.

00:27:53.918 --> 00:27:56.398
And he's like, absolutely. I'll do it. We were just waiting for the right time.

00:27:56.418 --> 00:27:59.918
And just the fact that like, he's always been such a positive sounding board for us.

00:28:00.118 --> 00:28:03.978
And, um, uh, not just a friend of the show, but personally, a friend of mine,

00:28:04.078 --> 00:28:07.298
just from somebody you meet at a conference and strike up a great relationship

00:28:07.298 --> 00:28:09.458
with it's, it's really, um, been awesome.

00:28:09.658 --> 00:28:15.038
And, and it's such a huge thing to have somebody in a role that's quite important with Common Sense,

00:28:15.058 --> 00:28:19.678
who's also talking about how technology in the classroom can be game-changing,

00:28:19.678 --> 00:28:23.918
but we also need to make sure that we're looking at how we administer what we

00:28:23.918 --> 00:28:25.438
administer and how much we're using it,

00:28:25.578 --> 00:28:30.798
and him also being a dad and having two younger girls that are going through

00:28:30.798 --> 00:28:33.918
this same journey that all of us are going on with younger kids.

00:28:33.998 --> 00:28:39.118
Yeah, so relatable, so relatable both professionally and personally.

00:28:39.118 --> 00:28:42.458
So, I mean, that is no slight against any of the guests we've had on because

00:28:42.458 --> 00:28:44.858
like, my goodness, I kind of forget the guests we've had on.

00:28:45.318 --> 00:28:48.998
But, you know. Yeah, it's pretty amazing when you scroll back through the last, you know.

00:28:49.398 --> 00:28:53.498
Yeah. Three, nine episodes. It's amazing. Yeah. I mean, if you're looking for

00:28:53.498 --> 00:28:57.198
stuff on AI, we got it. If you're looking at stuff on classroom management, it's there.

00:28:57.778 --> 00:29:01.818
And you can always reach out to us on any of those socials or send us an email.

00:29:01.938 --> 00:29:05.578
Drop it a line at thebalancingactpod at gmail.com. That's right.

00:29:06.258 --> 00:29:08.818
And, you know, say like, hey, what episode was that? We'd be more than happy

00:29:08.818 --> 00:29:11.738
to steer you in the right direction. We're still going to be posting over the

00:29:11.738 --> 00:29:13.358
summer. You'll see us on social media.

00:29:13.538 --> 00:29:16.438
We're going to talk about some different things that are important to us.

00:29:16.678 --> 00:29:19.418
And you'll see us, but just not releasing any content.

00:29:20.498 --> 00:29:25.058
So are we down to our last? What is our number one? We're beach and not teaching.

00:29:25.318 --> 00:29:26.558
We're beach and not teaching. Yeah, girl.

00:29:27.718 --> 00:29:32.458
Well, you, I think you did three. Well, I mean, I got to tie the two of them

00:29:32.458 --> 00:29:33.878
together. That was me breaking the rules.

00:29:34.038 --> 00:29:36.938
Like it's the guests that we've had on.

00:29:36.938 --> 00:29:39.898
But if I, if I, you know, two things that may, you know, and again,

00:29:39.978 --> 00:29:44.318
we've had so many, I really have to say, as I started scrolling through,

00:29:44.598 --> 00:29:49.178
I think that this experience is so unique and amazing.

00:29:49.238 --> 00:29:51.738
And a lot of people have said, like, how do you have time for that?

00:29:51.818 --> 00:29:55.398
You know, and I always think, like, how does anybody have time to do anything?

00:29:55.758 --> 00:30:00.878
You know, when something is important, you make it a priority and you carve out the time.

00:30:01.078 --> 00:30:05.998
We don't, neither of us have oodles are of extra time, but it is as much...

00:30:07.811 --> 00:30:13.191
I think I've gotten as much, uh, from, um, you know, uh, from every single,

00:30:13.191 --> 00:30:15.511
you know, chat that we've had with, with people.

00:30:15.691 --> 00:30:19.271
And even, um, you know, you and I being able to kind of work through things

00:30:19.271 --> 00:30:26.091
and talk through things and the whole experience of it has just been so, so, uh, restorative.

00:30:26.271 --> 00:30:31.131
Look, our, our goal doing this is it was to help as many people as we could.

00:30:31.351 --> 00:30:35.211
That, that was like, we've always done professional development and help people,

00:30:35.311 --> 00:30:38.011
but we said, you know what, let's do something. And let's get it out there and see what happens.

00:30:38.671 --> 00:30:42.151
And I think also really it was born out of like, how do we help each other?

00:30:42.771 --> 00:30:47.131
Yeah, of course. You know, and so in helping each other, we've,

00:30:47.271 --> 00:30:50.991
you know, now been able to sort of go like expand outside of ourselves.

00:30:51.471 --> 00:30:55.631
And it has really been talk about pour in rather than pour out.

00:30:55.771 --> 00:30:57.011
It's really been amazing.

00:30:57.771 --> 00:31:00.331
If you look back at all the guests that we've had on, you know,

00:31:00.411 --> 00:31:02.111
we've reached out to a number of people.

00:31:02.351 --> 00:31:04.511
Some of them we've had to be persistent with. Others, it's like,

00:31:04.571 --> 00:31:05.851
hey, would you want to do this? And they're like, yep.

00:31:06.411 --> 00:31:09.651
Or, you know, friends of ours who say, hey, I got a person that might be good.

00:31:09.771 --> 00:31:13.031
Or, you know, have you ever talked about this guy or, you know, maybe this person?

00:31:13.151 --> 00:31:15.231
And we're like, sure, let's let's, you know, cast a line.

00:31:15.391 --> 00:31:17.711
So like, you know, when we had Danielle Dick on, that was a,

00:31:17.831 --> 00:31:20.751
you know, a close friend of myself and my wife who said, hey,

00:31:20.751 --> 00:31:23.891
I work at Rutgers with this person. It might be a great guest for you.

00:31:25.171 --> 00:31:30.251
So those those things are all great episodes. And we're thankful for anyone

00:31:30.251 --> 00:31:35.451
who's, you know, shared our show with a friend or who's reached out to us and

00:31:35.451 --> 00:31:36.851
said, like, hey, what about this person?

00:31:36.911 --> 00:31:39.291
Or, oh, I just listened and this was something I'm going through.

00:31:39.411 --> 00:31:42.111
It's really been a fun experience for the two of us. Agree.

00:31:42.691 --> 00:31:47.371
All right. And your last top moment. Drum roll.

00:31:48.291 --> 00:31:50.491
Drum roll. OK, so.

00:31:51.301 --> 00:31:56.401
We had an episode that we talked about, you know, which is sort of what was

00:31:56.401 --> 00:31:59.741
the starting point for us, which is being part of the sandwich generation.

00:32:00.821 --> 00:32:04.281
And I think for me, that was definitely, you know, a big moment.

00:32:04.281 --> 00:32:08.541
I was able to actually, like, deal with some of my own anticipatory grief.

00:32:08.541 --> 00:32:12.641
So when you have someone that is sick for a very long time, you know that you're

00:32:12.641 --> 00:32:15.881
living through a constant period of grief called anticipatory grief,

00:32:16.161 --> 00:32:21.541
which will only be then, you know, the official grief once the person has passed.

00:32:21.541 --> 00:32:25.941
But as someone who's living in this like longest state of anticipatory grief

00:32:25.941 --> 00:32:31.061
imaginable for us at this point, I was able to sit down and go through.

00:32:31.481 --> 00:32:36.721
You know, the details of it, talk it through, and then actually made like a

00:32:36.721 --> 00:32:42.201
couple of videos even of just like some pictures and like understanding the

00:32:42.201 --> 00:32:44.721
like the process of everything that's been going on.

00:32:44.721 --> 00:32:51.581
And I was able to look through and think about, you know, exactly how much it

00:32:51.581 --> 00:32:59.101
has changed me and shaped me as a person and how I will never be the same again.

00:32:59.101 --> 00:33:08.361
And just sort of like where I want my important time and really even my emotional,

00:33:08.381 --> 00:33:12.301
you know, energy to go and where I, you know,

00:33:12.661 --> 00:33:14.821
where I pour out, essentially.

00:33:15.141 --> 00:33:19.561
And so I think that it was such a moment, you know, and it's like,

00:33:19.721 --> 00:33:25.061
it's sad, you know, but yeah, people have really sad things that are going on

00:33:25.061 --> 00:33:27.301
and really tough things that are going on.

00:33:27.301 --> 00:33:33.481
And, you know, and that for, you know, for so many of us is,

00:33:33.661 --> 00:33:37.661
it's important to have a space where you can talk about things that are happening.

00:33:38.101 --> 00:33:42.201
Because not everything is, and I'm a pretty upbeat, optimistic person.

00:33:43.021 --> 00:33:48.741
You know, I, we have a teacher who is a friend of the pod, Miss DiLonardo.

00:33:49.021 --> 00:33:52.961
And she does this fantastic project with her kids where they have to write a

00:33:52.961 --> 00:33:54.681
letter to a teacher personally.

00:33:55.478 --> 00:33:59.738
And so she gave me my letters last week, and she said, you know, you're going to cry.

00:34:00.058 --> 00:34:04.458
And I was like, oh, I don't cry. You know, I don't cry anymore.

00:34:05.338 --> 00:34:08.598
And she's like, no, I read them. I think, you know, that you will.

00:34:09.958 --> 00:34:13.338
And she was right. And, you know, it's like when something's really sad,

00:34:13.378 --> 00:34:15.278
you'll cry. When something's really funny, you'll laugh.

00:34:15.378 --> 00:34:19.438
But they were so poignant and so touching.

00:34:19.978 --> 00:34:24.778
And a common theme, the thing that I'm most proud of in each of those notes

00:34:24.778 --> 00:34:30.738
was, in the cards from the kids was, you always made me feel better.

00:34:30.898 --> 00:34:33.918
You always knew when I was having a bad day. You always asked me how I was doing.

00:34:34.098 --> 00:34:35.038
You were always smiling.

00:34:35.418 --> 00:34:41.758
And I think it's such a point of pride for me because so much of my personal

00:34:41.758 --> 00:34:51.878
existence the last couple of years has been so traumatic and so sad in so many ways. And so I try.

00:34:52.378 --> 00:34:59.138
I can't say like, oh, I don't try. No, I try to make that environment that the

00:34:59.138 --> 00:35:05.258
kids are with me in every day because I know how important it is for me to have

00:35:05.258 --> 00:35:07.238
a positive, healthy environment to be in.

00:35:07.498 --> 00:35:12.818
And I took that, you know, and so when I look back at that episode and really

00:35:12.818 --> 00:35:14.638
like the whole reason that the podcast started,

00:35:14.638 --> 00:35:18.838
It always has to be a highlight for me because it's a safe space for me to talk

00:35:18.838 --> 00:35:24.358
to you and to know that our listeners are connecting with the experience of

00:35:24.358 --> 00:35:28.698
caring for a sick loved one and, you know, and all that that can,

00:35:28.838 --> 00:35:31.978
you know, can mean and what it can do to you.

00:35:32.178 --> 00:35:37.898
So, so that would be my, my third and final highlight.

00:35:37.898 --> 00:35:45.438
Yeah, you are one of the strongest people I know, not just from dealing with

00:35:45.438 --> 00:35:49.238
this situation, but when everything that you're saying—.

00:35:51.419 --> 00:35:54.679
Is valid and 100% truthful.

00:35:55.679 --> 00:36:01.599
The students that come into your room, I know for a fact, get the best version

00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:06.759
of you each and every day, even when, I don't want to say they don't deserve it.

00:36:06.839 --> 00:36:12.379
That's not what I mean by this, but even when you rightfully could just not

00:36:12.379 --> 00:36:15.339
give them the best version of yourself because of everything you have going

00:36:15.339 --> 00:36:16.639
on outside the classroom.

00:36:16.859 --> 00:36:20.639
So to say that you're, you know, it's not just about strength.

00:36:20.679 --> 00:36:23.919
It's also about the fact that you can recognize that and still create an environment

00:36:23.919 --> 00:36:29.579
for learning for your students that allows them to express themselves,

00:36:29.579 --> 00:36:32.859
but also know that there's an adult in the room that cares. And I,

00:36:32.979 --> 00:36:34.359
you know, I try to do the same thing.

00:36:35.539 --> 00:36:38.879
I don't get any letters because, you know, I don't teach eighth grade. No one likes me.

00:36:39.839 --> 00:36:45.439
It really is. I wish that it would be something that would be mandated for all

00:36:45.439 --> 00:36:50.719
of the language arts classes because they're, it's such a great project.

00:36:50.939 --> 00:36:59.159
And as teachers, we really, you know, she encourages them to express their feelings,

00:36:59.159 --> 00:37:02.079
which is a very difficult thing to do.

00:37:02.699 --> 00:37:05.959
It's a difficult thing as a teacher to get the kids to do it,

00:37:05.979 --> 00:37:10.459
but because it's a formal assignment, they, and she has like such a structure

00:37:10.459 --> 00:37:12.079
to the way that they're doing this.

00:37:12.239 --> 00:37:14.559
It is, it's just, it's perfect.

00:37:14.859 --> 00:37:19.539
And I mean, those, you know, letters that I got were, you know,

00:37:19.619 --> 00:37:24.059
I will keep them in my desk drawer and I will look and they will be a source

00:37:24.059 --> 00:37:26.699
of comfort for me, you know,

00:37:26.939 --> 00:37:30.979
for, you know, for until next year and until I get more letters. Just kidding.

00:37:33.899 --> 00:37:39.419
But it is it is it's a good way for the kids to be able to communicate how they're

00:37:39.419 --> 00:37:42.259
feeling because, you know, that you know that they have feelings.

00:37:42.279 --> 00:37:45.679
They're just not always the best at expressing them.

00:37:45.879 --> 00:37:50.999
So, you know, for you and for all of our listeners, the highlight for me is going to be to be able to,

00:37:52.202 --> 00:37:57.962
you know, share my, um, my journey and, um, and feel seen and heard and understood with it.

00:38:00.762 --> 00:38:04.122
So like now, if I say something like that wants to be funny,

00:38:04.302 --> 00:38:07.642
like, Oh, my top moment is this funny thing. I'm going to look like an ass.

00:38:10.542 --> 00:38:13.762
Cause you're just like, everything is so wonderful.

00:38:14.022 --> 00:38:16.822
And I'm like, yeah, remember that time I said I was laissez faire and you laughed

00:38:16.822 --> 00:38:18.842
at me for like four weeks. That's my top moment.

00:38:19.582 --> 00:38:26.982
There it is. Um, no, actually, actually in an unrelated note on the business

00:38:26.982 --> 00:38:29.742
side of things, I do have to say, um,

00:38:30.442 --> 00:38:34.082
that probably my number one thing, and it's a behind the scenes things behind

00:38:34.082 --> 00:38:40.022
the scenes thing for us is really a thank you to, um, the people at human content

00:38:40.022 --> 00:38:42.462
for taking a little bit of a risk on us.

00:38:42.622 --> 00:38:45.442
Uh, granted we're investing in ourselves and it's something that we're doing,

00:38:45.622 --> 00:38:48.842
you know, putting some investment it to the show to get it out on more platforms,

00:38:48.862 --> 00:38:55.822
but they're helping us do things that we cannot do without them unless I get taught how to do it.

00:38:56.382 --> 00:38:58.822
And I had a case of the can't, don't want to.

00:38:59.462 --> 00:39:04.802
So I was like, no, but they're a great team. They're so supportive, so encouraging.

00:39:05.462 --> 00:39:10.902
Aaron and Rob and Shanti and Tessa, just, you know, the people that are behind

00:39:10.902 --> 00:39:14.742
the scenes with the show, you know, and we do the editing and,

00:39:14.942 --> 00:39:17.662
but they're giving us guests to outreach to, They're giving us tips and tricks

00:39:17.662 --> 00:39:18.582
on how to do things better.

00:39:18.742 --> 00:39:21.122
They're making sure that we're on all platforms to help us with our website.

00:39:21.342 --> 00:39:25.282
Like, you know, we already have, again, we already have some plans in the works

00:39:25.282 --> 00:39:28.562
for season three that all of us are excited about.

00:39:28.782 --> 00:39:31.122
Not just us, but them too. They're like, yeah, we want to do this.

00:39:31.182 --> 00:39:33.922
We want to continue. We want to, you know, help you guys and get your show.

00:39:34.102 --> 00:39:37.982
And this is not in a, in a, you know, it's, we want to leave you in it.

00:39:38.062 --> 00:39:41.722
If we were to ever stop working with them, you know, they're going to make sure

00:39:41.722 --> 00:39:44.782
that we're in a good place to do our show and continue doing it.

00:39:44.902 --> 00:39:46.862
However long we decide to do it. Right. That's right.

00:39:47.863 --> 00:39:51.083
That it's definitely a highlight. Like we took a risk and so far,

00:39:51.263 --> 00:39:53.703
you know, it's, uh, something that's paying off for us.

00:39:53.843 --> 00:39:56.483
We're, you know, we're growing each and every month. We're getting our,

00:39:56.583 --> 00:39:58.723
our, our message out there. We're trying to help more people.

00:39:58.943 --> 00:40:03.383
And I feel with them, them as partners with us that we can only,

00:40:03.383 --> 00:40:07.483
um, you know, continue to grow and, and move in that, that positive direction.

00:40:08.103 --> 00:40:11.603
Unstoppable. Yeah, we are. I'm unstoppable.

00:40:12.183 --> 00:40:15.083
Who sings that song? see you i don't i mean i was gonna say like see

00:40:15.083 --> 00:40:17.843
you in september oh yeah we got that going on

00:40:17.843 --> 00:40:21.943
so yeah we are we will be on hiatus uh

00:40:21.943 --> 00:40:24.683
for the summertime um you know we'll be picking up

00:40:24.683 --> 00:40:27.583
back uh the first week of september um with

00:40:27.583 --> 00:40:30.963
some content um you'll definitely see us like i

00:40:30.963 --> 00:40:33.743
said on social media uh posting and we hope that

00:40:33.743 --> 00:40:36.623
you'll interact with us in between you know pool sessions and

00:40:36.623 --> 00:40:40.323
beach trips and vacations and recharging the batteries um

00:40:40.323 --> 00:40:43.103
we we invite you to go back and listen to some episodes that

00:40:43.103 --> 00:40:46.603
maybe you didn't check out um but we will be uh

00:40:46.603 --> 00:40:49.643
dropping it like it's hot in september uh with some

00:40:49.643 --> 00:40:52.883
with some awesome guests that we're already working on getting

00:40:52.883 --> 00:40:56.963
on the show and some new content for you guys and we're just so excited to continue

00:40:56.963 --> 00:41:00.743
this journey and not only that i'm excited to continue doing it with someone

00:41:00.743 --> 00:41:07.163
who um that i respect and admire and enjoy doing this with so you know it bestie

00:41:07.163 --> 00:41:12.623
yeah let's go get those tattoos yeah let's We get like matching like tattoos.

00:41:12.903 --> 00:41:16.703
Like what should, if we did get matching tattoos, what should we get?

00:41:16.863 --> 00:41:18.643
That's the question. Oh my goodness.

00:41:19.183 --> 00:41:22.903
I, that, I wouldn't, that could not be an on the fly. That way I would have

00:41:22.903 --> 00:41:26.583
to, I'd have to pour over that. Yeah. We'd have to pour over that one. Yeah.

00:41:26.803 --> 00:41:31.563
I feel it would be cool if it was like, you know, like if I put my finger up

00:41:31.563 --> 00:41:34.963
and then you put your finger up and then it said something. Or we both had mustaches.

00:41:37.043 --> 00:41:39.383
Soda sisters. Soda.

00:41:43.863 --> 00:41:49.763
Soda is not a dessert food we can go we can do this we can have this argument forever okay,

00:41:50.683 --> 00:41:54.303
there's certain things there's hills i want to die on i've talked about a chips

00:41:54.303 --> 00:41:57.903
ahoy is a garbage cookie i think boba tea is gross even though i've never had

00:41:57.903 --> 00:42:01.683
it that's another thing of mine oh we should do that we should try it's got

00:42:01.683 --> 00:42:06.703
chunks in it i don't know how i feel about it i say and they're like no no i

00:42:06.703 --> 00:42:08.123
don't know something about it just

00:42:08.123 --> 00:42:10.563
doesn't sit right i'm I'm surprised you wouldn't try it. You're a trier.

00:42:10.703 --> 00:42:13.283
I'm a trier, but like- Put it on the list. Put it on the list.

00:42:14.083 --> 00:42:17.103
But no, we are excited to be back with you guys in September.

00:42:17.303 --> 00:42:20.423
We hope that everyone has a wonderful, restful, fruitful summer.

00:42:21.403 --> 00:42:23.643
Long, lazy days of summer. Yeah,

00:42:23.823 --> 00:42:27.603
filled with all the things that help you balance the craziness of life.

00:42:27.763 --> 00:42:32.023
And we're looking forward to coming back strong in September with you guys. That's right.

00:42:32.663 --> 00:42:35.783
Joe, as always, I appreciate you.

00:42:35.903 --> 00:42:41.683
You know what? I appreciate you too. I'm going to go laissez faire and put my feet up and get this.

00:42:41.840 --> 00:43:22.238
Music.