Gambling, Mental Health Awareness, and Seasonal Affective Disorder

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Joseph Vitale. Hello, Mr. Joseph Vitale. Oh, hello, Ms. Jamie Wonko. How are we doing?

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all right so here we are um i am still riding the uh post Holiday struggle bus,

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even though it's a few weeks past. Okay.

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I'm just... I am like...

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Tired. Like, why am I so tired all the time? It's, you know,

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if I only knew, if I only knew, although I, you know, I think that the,

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we have not had sun in days. Yeah.

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And, you know, I mean, I wasn't Joe, I wasn't joking about January being the

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Monday of the year. And also, I certainly, we kind of ha-ha-ha'd a little bit

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about my seasonal affective disorder lamp.

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Oh, I completely believe that's a thing.

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I mean, if I was not buying- I should have brought it. I should have brought

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it so that I'll make a post and I'll put a picture of it.

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It's pretty, I'll make a video of it. It's pretty amazing.

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And it really has helped me.

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I, it was one of those shark tank miss, miss and misses and hits and misses and misses, misfires,

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because I saw an episode of it on shark tank and, you know, sad seasonal affective

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disorder is a very real mental, you know, health disorder for many people that suffer from that.

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And so I saw this episode of shark tank and it was this tiny woman.

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I just remember her being tiny and beautiful.

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And of course, like so many of the shark tankers, she was in some sort of business

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situation or like she didn't have, I'm sorry, she didn't, wasn't in business at all.

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And then all of a sudden like invented this thing and then went into business.

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Maybe she was like a doctor and then she's like, now I'm a business woman. Yeah.

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So she invented these teeny tiny precious seasonal affective disorder lamps that,

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that you could take with you to your work on

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like put it on your work desk very you know very demure

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very mindful yeah got it so i can't remember how this like the order of how

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this happened but perfectly fitting to me and my life and my like always these

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kinds of things i ended up not getting that one.

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And mine is like three feet tall.

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It is like, it will light up a room. I mean, it's basically when, um.

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When like Rogers, Kenny Rogers roasters was outside of, um, Kramer's apartment.

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And you were like, I picture it as like the, um, if you go to like,

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if, if you go to like an outdoor restaurant at a, uh,

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on the patio in late April, like before it's like really warm out and they have

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like those big, like heater things that are still out next to your table.

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Like that's what I'm picturing. Yeah, that's me and my sad lamp in the morning

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before work. Your sad, your sad lamp. Seasonal affection disorder. Yeah, of course.

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So I fully support it. I think do whatever, although I do every once in a while,

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I'm like, just grow up and buy another one. But I mean, it works.

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It's one of those, like it works fine kind of a thing. So I don't need to get

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like the fancy, tiny, um, beautiful one, but maybe, maybe, maybe in 2026,

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you know, I mean, you got your fancy clocky clock behind you.

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Um, I mean, for those of you Pee Wee Herman fans, that's, I love the fact that,

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and I didn't notice it the last time we recorded that episode together.

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And I was like, God darn it. that is so awesome it

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was um uncle matt i love you he listens to

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every episode uh he is a uncle matt yeah uncle

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matt i call him pumpkin he's my little pumpkin and he uh

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always buys everybody the most thoughtful

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gifts and so that was

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my um i'm a i'm a big pb's playhouse fan from my childhood and um yeah so i

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love it so much and it works it really works i can see that yeah it's a fully

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working clock so yeah of course you know yeah so maybe we need to institute

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the word of the the word of the day is gosh could you imagine that's amazing yeah we should do that.

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People are like driving right now thinking please don't do that like i'll crash

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yes i think there's a way for us to um i don't want to crash the whole thing

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but i think i can add sound effects to stream yard. So I might be able to do that and be like, Oh.

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I of course have the, I had the box set and, um, all, you know,

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all seasons. And so of course we just watched, you know, Peewee's Christmas,

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Merry, Merry Christmas several times.

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Um, because my kids grew up watching it in the minivan, in the back of the minivan.

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And it was just like, ah, like all the things, Pee Wee and Paul Rubens.

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And, you know, and then of course it became more relevant. He had like redone

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a movie or he made a new movie a few years ago with the giant man that was married to the girl from.

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She's so sexy, but they're not married anymore. The giant man that was married to the girl.

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I am becoming my mom, which is such a compliment. And I'm so happy,

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but also those are my descriptions. Yeah.

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You know. You know. That show. Oh, my God. That show with Courtney Aniston. You know the girl.

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Combining birds. And she's so beautiful, but she has a very thick accent. Oh.

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She was on Modern Family. Oh. Oh, my God. All I had to do was Sofia Vergara.

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Yeah. I love her. She was married to him.

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Yes. And then he made the, he was a magic mic, I think. He was a magic mic.

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One of the mics of magic. Oh, what's the guy's name? Good Lord.

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I see his, like a very Italian last name. Now I have to look it up.

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Oh, I have to look it up. Let me see. What is the guy's name?

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Married to Sofia Vergara. Uh, Joe Manganiello.

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Yes. Joe Manganiello. He was in the remake with Pee Wee Herman.

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Oh, he was. Okay. He was. And it was a little bit like, what's happening here? And are you two in love?

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Is it, I mean, he was, he's so masculine, but I, anyway, of course me and my

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kids and, and, um, we all had to watch and enjoy and, and all the things, but he, um, yeah.

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So, you know, a little Pee Wee throwback. I mean, he's never left my heart.

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And I remember watching it on

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Saturday mornings and being so sad when he would ride off in his scooter.

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Oh, okay. Ding, ding, ding. That's right. Ding, ding, ding. And he'd be like, ah. Yep.

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Some of you got to go in on these classics. I couldn't believe it was over.

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Yeah. I never wanted it to be over.

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So, you know. Yeah.

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So, yeah. Pee Wee's Playhouse was definitely a jam from back in the day. Yeah.

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For sure. See, you seem to, you really gravitate for the nostalgia,

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right? You go back and watch like a lot of old episodes of things and stuff like that.

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I do. I have to say, Jason's big influence of that. There's comfort in that.

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So let's talk about mental health in the new year.

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Aside from, you know, so I think

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we've talked about a little bit like the like rewatching of shows is,

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you know, something that is like trends very much for people because it helps

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you so much not to have like new or unexpected or, you know,

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you have to take on like new.

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Anxiety, um, or more worry.

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And, uh, you know, so, so yeah. So I, and I'm also like, I will go through phases

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where it's like, I can receive a difficult show right now or a watch or whatever

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it might be or something new.

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And then there's also times where it's like, no, I'm not, I'm,

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I'm red light. I'm not receiving anything new in that way.

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Um, especially because if it's like unexpected or depressing or,

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you know, even if it's just like an emotional ride, then it's a no.

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Yeah. Yeah. I had that happen to me actually just the other the other night

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I was watching a show on Amazon called Fallout, which I like.

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It's like a video game based show.

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And some of it got like a little bit like intense. And I was like it was late. It was like after 10.

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It was like on a weeknight. And I'm like, I got to stop watching this.

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I was like, I like it. I want to watch it. But I'm like, this is going to like keep me up and awake.

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I also would like to say and officially announce on this podcast, sometimes, you know,

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anxiety is caused by sporting events and yours truly, yours truly,

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yours truly in massive last minute comeback fashion.

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Is the 2025 Smack League Fantasy League champion.

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So, I mean, I'm a fantasy champion. You are in the presence of royalty. Yay!

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For sure. We're going to make sure that this gets clipped and put on the internet

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for everyone in my fantasy football league who doubted my abilities.

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In your face, in your face, in your face, in your face. All your faces.

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In all your faces. How many people are in that? There are 10 people in that league.

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I was a late comer to it. Um, but, uh,

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the night that I wound up, uh, clinching the championship, the,

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uh, my friend had one player left on his team and, uh, it was Matthew Stafford.

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Don't fall asleep. I'm talking about sports. Uh, it was Matthew Stafford.

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Um, so it's Matthew Stafford. And he had, he had like not scored below 20 points

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in like weeks. I was like, this is not going to happen.

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Like, bro, you're still going to win. Even though I had this massive comeback.

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On Sunday night and it just kept like ticking away and ticking away and then

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he threw an interception then another interception then another interception

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and he still threw a touchdown and then it was getting close and it was like

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is it going to go over time?

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So I wound up winning by like six points and it was a massive yeah and it was

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a massive come from behind because I was down going into the Sunday night matchup

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had Brock Purdy I love you Brock Purdy and then I wound up being a fantasy champion

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but I did not sleep laughing.

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Going into the next day like i was up late and thankfully we were on uh winter

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break and i was like oh my god i would be exhausted tomorrow because my body

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still gets up at the regular time but what time i go to bed and um yeah it was

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awesome it's awesome to be a champ,

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uh but you know even for mental health reasons like sports are not good for me like.

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Especially when you're so deeply invested in well

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you know because it's a championship match fantasy football it's

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all we have we compete against each other i was in

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a pool well i wasn't in a pool as much

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as like you know jason man a few details

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in certain instances was like hey want to do a pool now i love

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some sweet action classically you know i will um i will participate you know

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a hundred dollars here fifty dollars there it's not like an ongoing gambling

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situation for me however so jason decided you know oh hey can we do this pool

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from work at the beginning This was like August, okay?

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Like football season is beginning and, you know, oh, it's $200.

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I was like, sure. Yeah, okay. That seems like a lot, but like, okay.

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It was $600. Oh, Jesus.

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It was just like, he's like, oh, you got to Venmo that guy again.

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And I was like, oh, you know, it was all, it was a, it was a,

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these were dark days in our house, you know, I was like, no,

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we're not. And we're quitting.

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And he's like, I can't, I'm in too deep. And it was like, oh my goodness. Anyway, we won.

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We won the whole kit and caboodle. Wow.

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Yes. That's awesome. Yes. And so here's my controversy.

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I don't want one i don't want to ask you how much

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you won i'll ask you off camera but good for you okay i mean it

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was like it was good it was like and jason's like are you happy now and i was like no

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i know because the lesson is

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like no no we're not doing this again like yes i like winning but but at the

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same time no it was it to me it was it was too deep it was too much with everything

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we have going on so um but yeah i was kind of a little bit happy but anyway

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so um you know i like to win some sweet action. But here's the thing.

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So when you do these pools, right, because we're coming up on Super Bowl season.

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So there's lots of pools for fundraisers and, you know, different teams, right?

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Like I just did one recently, like for a softball team.

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And I guess, you know, like you get half and then the team gets half, whatever. It's fine.

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So I'm like, yeah, I'm down for, you know, for a fundraiser and a little sweet

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action. I like to have those papers in my hand.

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When you win you are supposed to tip yes person yes okay so shade i'm throwing

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full shade right now okay okay the person that ran the pool that we were in

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that we won took the money automatically.

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And sent... Oh, that's messed up. Okay, so I'm... Unless that was agreed upon

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beforehand, that's messed up. Hard telling not knowing, who would know?

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Who would know? Because Jason can't 100% follow the rule or,

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you know, didn't even know what he was getting into, which is,

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you know, I always tell him, like, oh my gosh, like, he would buy magic beans.

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He would buy magic beans.

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He would, you know, let's bury the beans. It's going to be great. Like, he just...

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That's just him. It makes, you know, he has a childlike wonder.

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And it is, you know, it's fine. 25 years, like I'm used to it.

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But I can still be mad at it. You know, you can get used to something and still

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find it annoying, right? Like we can hold space for two truths.

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But I have done a bit of gambling before, you know, and I've dabbled.

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And like I've been in the same Super Bowl pool for, I mean, well over 10 years.

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It's one of those like you're in until you're, you know, I don't know how you

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get out. I don't want to get out. But, right?

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I've never had that. I've won before. I won a March Madness one to yours.

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That was probably like the most, maybe $1,400 or something I won.

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And they were like, oh, God, she's probably sleeping. And she didn't even see

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the game. They were right.

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Did it make a difference to me the next morning when I woke up?

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I was as happy as a clam. Okay?

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What do you think about that? So you're a no, right? Like they just took the

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money off the top. Taking the money off the top, I would completely be against.

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Unless there was some like, hey, we're going to take 10% for operational fees.

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And you know that going in.

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Right. That makes sense. Okay. But I don't know. I mean, Jason's like, I'm also.

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You have to tip him. And I was like, oh, he's taking it and sending the money

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with the tip. And it was like. No.

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That would be a no. You're not getting any other money. And secondly,

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like I used to run the football pool when I ran, when I was at,

00:16:12.443 --> 00:16:17.143
um, uh, previous, um, school, middle school. Yeah. Okay.

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And in, uh, in no way, shape or form was it to get tipped out.

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I was like, I never wanted any, I was like, I mean, I think it's fun.

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Like, and you look at everybody that you work with and you see,

00:16:27.663 --> 00:16:30.563
uh, you know, people used to do it all the time.

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I used to tell people like I, when I, and I didn't know that you were supposed to be tipped out.

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Cause it was like, I was younger and I was just doing it. I remember being taught that. Yeah.

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So, and appreciating that that was like a standard practice.

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So I was, uh.

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I was, you know, doing it and one of the lunch ladies won and she tipped me

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out. I was like, what is this? She's like, you're supposed to tip out whoever.

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I'm like, that never happens.

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So then I actually would like when we would have the meeting and I was like,

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and if you were to talk about it, I was like, and if you win, I do not want any money.

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I said, I'm just doing this because it's fun. I don't want anything.

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It's just, you know, something to do during the game. I'll keep track of it.

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I get, you know, it's not like I'm doing thousands of dollars. It was a $5 box pool.

00:17:10.824 --> 00:17:15.484
Right. And we had them at work and I actually won the box pool for a Thanksgiving game.

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Which is really funny because like i gave my

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whatever it was five ten dollars i bought two boxes and

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then didn't know i won until i like walked

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in the next like the monday after thanks i

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was like i won this i was like i forgot i was in a pool yeah um anyway yeah

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anyway like i tipped out because i won but i was like if you win a quarter in

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a box pool and you win 50 you should not be expected to tip somebody five bucks

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right like i i realize it's the principle i get it and if you're angry with me, come at me, bro.

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But like, it's, it's $5, especially if it's coworkers.

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Like I'm also not a believer in the, like, you know, you go to the charity thing

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and you win the 50 50 and it's like, and this person's donating it back to the organization.

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That's just not me. I won't play.

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Do you know that I won't play? Yeah. I kind of feel the same way.

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If you feel that pressure that you shouldn't.

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No, I won't do it. Cause I don't want to give half. So I know we went off on

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a little tangent regarding mental health, but what's good for my mental health is that I could say.

00:18:18.738 --> 00:18:21.878
Suck it losers because i am your fantasy champion for.

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2025 uh and yes we're gonna make sure.

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This makes the interwebs and that everybody gets a look at it um

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i don't currently have the championship belt yes there's

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a belt um i don't look like is it engraved

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oh it is oh it is like a wrestling championship belt oh

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i like that football champion i do not i do not yet

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have it but um i will eventually

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it has not it has not been uh the belt the belt ceremony has

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not happened yet just not a ceremony it's just yeah when

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the guy's got to drop it off because we're just busy like the previous winners

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responsible for dropping it yeah so look

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it's a good time it's fun um but i'm very

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happy for you talking about the stress of television and thank

00:19:02.038 --> 00:19:05.058
you by the way we're talking about you know the stress of like tv shows and

00:19:05.058 --> 00:19:07.838
stuff like that sometimes like i don't know how my wife does

00:19:07.838 --> 00:19:10.858
it my wife will be in bed and she'll watch like and it's dateline

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and and that was not the case and there

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was the the the you know the babbling brook

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and the person was asleep and they were a delight to see and

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she's watching all this stuff and i'm like she's either really into these

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kind of shows or she's taking notes on like different ways

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that she can off me if i really piss her off i feel

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like she could kill you and no one would know no she

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couldn't i do i think she'd be really no she couldn't is there like a safe word

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i could say to know that i'm in danger no uh no she of course um it's the it's

00:19:48.298 --> 00:19:51.118
the uber intelligence and i think it's because she's not caffeinated.

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I think it's her milk. I think it's her milk. It's drinking milk.

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Yeah. She's a milk drinker. It does a body and your murder plan's good.

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Yeah. I mean, I don't think she would murder you.

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Yes. But I do think that she would be, like, really good in a criminal mind situation.

00:20:13.780 --> 00:20:17.400
Right? You know. Yeah. I do. She's so smart. And then she plots.

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And then it would be like, and then I would this and then that.

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And, yeah. She wouldn't panic.

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She's not a panicker. Now, play the long game. She'd play the long game. If she panicked...

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I would, that would, I can't think of something like more frightening in this moment.

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Oh, interesting. Like watching her panic. She's just somebody who just doesn't.

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I'm not saying, yeah, I just don't see her panicking. Okay.

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Like freaking out. No.

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Yeah. Depends on the situation. It's sort of like my spouse when he anger,

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like when he is really, really angry, which happens like, I don't know.

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The twins are 13 it happened recently and they were like what's

00:21:01.505 --> 00:21:04.325
what is what's happening you know it's just

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happened so infrequently he is

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a very very chill person i

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mean and i i know you get into

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a 600 pool without even knowing what i know i

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listen i know that i'm high strong okay i do

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not get angry i'm just not

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i'm not an angry person i'm not a yeller i'm not

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but there have know but there have been times where but

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you panic you worry you have it's not gonna worry yes but

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i've also had instances where like i have to get things out and then i explode

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and i like to call it can of snakes because it's just so healthy can of snakes

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and it's out and then like i remember an instance where it happened and i was

00:21:45.205 --> 00:21:51.125
done and i was like i'm good like that was literally my reaction.

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Like, I'm good. I know I was like, I was like way over the top.

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And it was something that was greatly bothering me. And I just needed to get it off my chest.

00:22:00.485 --> 00:22:05.205
And I did. And then I was like, okay, I have my moment. I raised my blood pressure. I'm good.

00:22:06.352 --> 00:22:12.032
So I try at school, I try not to, you know, freak out. Oh yeah, same.

00:22:12.332 --> 00:22:16.312
And I do find myself this year,

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I don't know if it comes in cycles or what, but this year I'm,

00:22:20.772 --> 00:22:26.252
I'm finding myself doing a little bit of something I really don't like that

00:22:26.252 --> 00:22:30.672
I had not done for three years prior to this year,

00:22:31.052 --> 00:22:36.032
which is like, um, angrily speak low under my breath. Yeah.

00:22:37.632 --> 00:22:45.752
Which is my really like over response of when like things are not going the

00:22:45.752 --> 00:22:48.072
way that I want them to go or that, you know,

00:22:48.272 --> 00:22:50.932
and, and so I do find myself like, oh yeah, you're going to do that.

00:22:51.012 --> 00:22:53.272
That sounds great. That's a great idea. Way to go. It's great.

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And I find myself doing that and then it's like, oh, this is an,

00:22:58.332 --> 00:23:00.312
this is an honest question. I'm not asking this to be funny.

00:23:00.472 --> 00:23:06.212
Do you think it has, um, something to do with like, I know we've talked about perimenopause before.

00:23:06.292 --> 00:23:09.112
Do you think it has something to do with like some of the things that you're

00:23:09.112 --> 00:23:11.312
going through, maybe being short, short tempered?

00:23:11.332 --> 00:23:14.532
Does that, do you think that has anything to do with it? Is it hormonal? Yeah.

00:23:15.412 --> 00:23:19.392
Quite possibly. Yeah. And I'm not, and I'm honestly not asking that to be funny.

00:23:19.532 --> 00:23:22.832
It's more out of curiosity and you know. Oh, I don't think so at all.

00:23:22.972 --> 00:23:28.592
No, I, and I also just think it's the, like the mixture of students as well.

00:23:29.092 --> 00:23:31.832
And, um, and so I do feel better when I talk to colleagues and like,

00:23:31.932 --> 00:23:33.432
we all sort of feel the same way.

00:23:33.492 --> 00:23:37.312
So I don't think it's entirely me. I mean, believe me, like, what does it bother me?

00:23:37.432 --> 00:23:40.212
Like, the spinning and the rocking and, like, the, especially,

00:23:40.452 --> 00:23:43.452
like, and I think sometimes it's just about, like, certain kids.

00:23:43.632 --> 00:23:47.512
Like, why would you take, things I would never do, I wouldn't have done them

00:23:47.512 --> 00:23:49.612
at 13. I'm not going to do them at 46.

00:23:49.672 --> 00:24:00.332
Like, why would you take a chair and drag it along the floor to make the most horrific sound?

00:24:01.492 --> 00:24:04.072
Right? Those behaviors...

00:24:05.974 --> 00:24:12.554
Will never sit well with me. I don't, no one could ever, I'm not gifted in that way.

00:24:12.694 --> 00:24:15.294
I don't have chill for those types of things.

00:24:15.614 --> 00:24:22.414
Why would, why would you do that? Like why purposely bother a room full of people?

00:24:22.654 --> 00:24:27.534
I know it's for attention. I'm not, I know why, but it's just not, it's not for me.

00:24:27.674 --> 00:24:30.774
I don't care for it. I'm going to go back to, listen, I'm going to go,

00:24:30.894 --> 00:24:34.094
I'm going to go back to it again me in my 40s like now hate

00:24:34.094 --> 00:24:36.934
it more than ever yeah um i do

00:24:36.934 --> 00:24:40.234
but i don't think to the degree that i could actually blame um

00:24:40.234 --> 00:24:42.974
like it fully on home it's just me it's a me thing i get

00:24:42.974 --> 00:24:49.154
i get overstimulated uh and i'm it affects me more at home than it does because

00:24:49.154 --> 00:24:52.874
like i'll go through my whole day you bottle it up at school i don't think it's

00:24:52.874 --> 00:24:56.394
necessarily i don't think it's necessarily a bottling up i think it's more for

00:24:56.394 --> 00:25:01.654
me it's like it's more of like energy level right So I'll give you an example.

00:25:01.874 --> 00:25:08.834
Yesterday, I had a day where we were talking about the legislative branch,

00:25:08.834 --> 00:25:10.314
and we're doing all these different activities.

00:25:10.614 --> 00:25:13.454
And I'm doing a lecture. I'm showing a video. We're talking about stuff.

00:25:13.454 --> 00:25:17.874
I'm asking them questions. We're doing a simulation. It's a very labor-intensive day. And then...

00:25:19.522 --> 00:25:23.022
I had an errand to run and then I came home.

00:25:23.522 --> 00:25:24.842
Uh, I had some things to do around

00:25:24.842 --> 00:25:27.862
the house. I had to get dinner on the table. Then we were recording.

00:25:28.282 --> 00:25:31.322
Okay. We did two recordings and I was, I was a little drained and I was like,

00:25:31.362 --> 00:25:32.642
all right, I got to turn it on.

00:25:32.762 --> 00:25:36.462
Cause we're recording and I got to be like awake. And then when we were done, I was done.

00:25:37.262 --> 00:25:40.222
So we're sitting on the couch and my wife is finding some funny videos and I

00:25:40.222 --> 00:25:44.382
decided to like put on a show and watch it. And she's like, Hey, what's the video?

00:25:44.542 --> 00:25:48.042
I sent you a video. I said, it's a video. And I'm like, I can't,

00:25:48.042 --> 00:25:51.482
can't do this right now it's like i need to like i need

00:25:51.482 --> 00:25:54.142
i need to do one thing or the other i was like i wanted to

00:25:54.142 --> 00:25:56.842
focus on like just a television show to take my mind off of

00:25:56.842 --> 00:25:59.762
something right because that's how i decompress and she

00:25:59.762 --> 00:26:02.422
was fine and stuff that was cute and it was funny and it was dog videos and

00:26:02.422 --> 00:26:06.842
i loved it but it was just like i got too much going on in my brain so i think

00:26:06.842 --> 00:26:11.122
it affects me more when i get to like the end of my day and i'm tired and it's

00:26:11.122 --> 00:26:14.742
over and i'm like all right i i gotta shut it down because i know my brain is

00:26:14.742 --> 00:26:18.202
about to be mashed potatoes like yes and it doesn't affect me much at work.

00:26:18.342 --> 00:26:19.322
I will say this much though.

00:26:20.302 --> 00:26:23.642
The fact that I've, go back to Petty Petty Princess.

00:26:24.022 --> 00:26:29.182
The fact that I have the water bottle garage has been- It's everything to you?

00:26:29.302 --> 00:26:33.142
I want to curse right now. It's been effing life-changing, okay? I love it.

00:26:33.482 --> 00:26:38.022
It is, I don't get the, I don't get the, you know, the crinkling anymore of

00:26:38.022 --> 00:26:43.022
the bottles and the flipping and the I'm going to pour it in a cap and I'm going to drink it.

00:26:43.162 --> 00:26:47.242
And I'm like, no, no, no, no. I'm just not doing it. It's like,

00:26:47.362 --> 00:26:49.022
okay, don't forget water bottles in the garage.

00:26:49.302 --> 00:26:52.882
And I would, uh, hot take everyone. No one has died of thirst.

00:26:53.982 --> 00:26:58.702
Everyone is still alive. Um, and it has been completely, um,

00:26:59.672 --> 00:27:03.332
Honestly, I know how ridiculous it sounds. To me, it's been classroom changing.

00:27:03.652 --> 00:27:05.272
Why does it sound ridiculous?

00:27:05.612 --> 00:27:12.732
It doesn't sound ridiculous to me or any other teacher that's teaching with children walking.

00:27:13.352 --> 00:27:17.232
Some people are like, oh, my child needs a water bottle. Oh,

00:27:17.312 --> 00:27:20.292
I wouldn't do that because the kids need to be able to drink. Oh, I just.

00:27:20.632 --> 00:27:22.952
And then what if I. No.

00:27:23.912 --> 00:27:27.072
No. Oh, I love. I love a rule. You don't.

00:27:27.572 --> 00:27:31.212
I don't eat it. I do. So even if I don't 100% agree with the rule,

00:27:31.392 --> 00:27:36.872
I do love a rule that is happens and then it goes and it goes and it goes,

00:27:37.012 --> 00:27:39.012
you know, and it does not bend, break or,

00:27:39.232 --> 00:27:43.112
you know, I love that, especially because it's working so well for you.

00:27:43.172 --> 00:27:47.192
And your classroom has an element of over simulation to begin with because of

00:27:47.192 --> 00:27:48.832
its locale and the windows and stuff.

00:27:48.992 --> 00:27:52.652
So that's a whole other thing. One hundred percent.

00:27:52.972 --> 00:27:56.972
Yeah. I mean, it has its positives and its negatives. Right.

00:27:57.332 --> 00:28:03.172
So I think that's the idea of what we do, right? We're constantly looking for like.

00:28:04.075 --> 00:28:07.015
Uh, what's the word I'm looking for? Trade-offs, right? You might,

00:28:07.135 --> 00:28:09.015
this might be a positive and that's going to be a negative.

00:28:09.195 --> 00:28:13.595
And that kind of leads us to, you know, successes or failures throughout our school day.

00:28:13.815 --> 00:28:17.715
Right. So I know what I have to do or ask for help.

00:28:17.835 --> 00:28:21.655
So for example, I'm in the front of a building and when the,

00:28:21.735 --> 00:28:26.175
when, uh, the eighth graders are coming back from the cafeteria, it's Bedlam, right?

00:28:26.335 --> 00:28:29.095
It's, they're running down the hallway. They're jumping on each other's backs.

00:28:29.235 --> 00:28:30.155
They're banging on my windows.

00:28:30.155 --> 00:28:33.455
Cause I have like, not exaggeration, nine windows

00:28:33.455 --> 00:28:36.195
that line one side and it's like a kind

00:28:36.195 --> 00:28:39.035
of like a half wall and that's where everyone's walking by and

00:28:39.035 --> 00:28:41.855
they're waving and they're banging on the wind like some kids like

00:28:41.855 --> 00:28:44.635
bang on the door and run away it's like yeah i saw you bro by the way there's

00:28:44.635 --> 00:28:48.995
cameras so finally i just had to go to the vice president's like hey let look

00:28:48.995 --> 00:28:52.555
i need somebody out there i when you guys release the eighth graders i need

00:28:52.555 --> 00:28:57.375
a an adult because like i'm trying to conduct a class i can't do it myself like

00:28:57.375 --> 00:29:00.335
there were times i would like like my kids would be like working quietly and

00:29:00.335 --> 00:29:04.535
i'd like stand in the hallway and just make sure that there's a body, you know.

00:29:05.555 --> 00:29:07.535
That's an adult so that they see them.

00:29:07.695 --> 00:29:10.695
So, you know, like when you're speeding on the highway and you see the police

00:29:10.695 --> 00:29:12.135
officer, you pump the brakes.

00:29:12.435 --> 00:29:14.595
Yeah. Even if you're not speeding, you're like, oh, police officer,

00:29:14.675 --> 00:29:16.475
did I do something wrong? Do I have a dead body in my trunk?

00:29:16.655 --> 00:29:20.235
And you start to get, you know, a little bit squirrely because of what you're seeing.

00:29:21.975 --> 00:29:26.875
So I know when I need to ask for help, which also I think helps me know that

00:29:26.875 --> 00:29:28.955
I have somebody that's going to back, you know, back me up and like,

00:29:29.075 --> 00:29:30.035
okay, we'll get somebody out there.

00:29:30.135 --> 00:29:32.455
Or sometimes it's the vice principal or principal themselves.

00:29:32.635 --> 00:29:34.635
I'm like, I can't, I, I need the help.

00:29:35.035 --> 00:29:40.435
So you think as a younger teacher, you were able to ask those types of things,

00:29:40.435 --> 00:29:42.255
or was that something that you grew into?

00:29:43.035 --> 00:29:47.355
I think I was able to ask them. Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes it maybe it wasn't received well.

00:29:49.075 --> 00:29:54.235
But you still have to ask. Sure. Because I, I, I wonder even with,

00:29:54.235 --> 00:29:57.755
you know, some of the discussions that we've had with.

00:29:58.728 --> 00:30:02.888
The kids and, you know, some of the behaviors of like, oh, I'm not asking you

00:30:02.888 --> 00:30:04.088
that or like, oh, that's weird.

00:30:04.088 --> 00:30:09.788
Or so I try to challenge my students, even if it's, you know, go next door,

00:30:10.508 --> 00:30:14.768
ask this, this, this, please make sure when you do that, you say,

00:30:14.888 --> 00:30:19.068
excuse me, if they're in the middle of a sentence, you know, they really need,

00:30:19.368 --> 00:30:23.508
I am this, I mean, we are, we do not exaggerate, you know, for anybody that's,

00:30:23.688 --> 00:30:25.788
you know, not a, maybe not a teacher.

00:30:26.168 --> 00:30:29.948
Like we are not exaggerating when we're saying we're modeling these practices.

00:30:30.128 --> 00:30:35.388
And I think back to, you know, my younger days as like a student or even as

00:30:35.388 --> 00:30:42.128
a newer teacher with sending kids on errands and like what an amazing opportunity

00:30:42.128 --> 00:30:48.868
that was and how that is shifted with the kids being more resistant to,

00:30:49.088 --> 00:30:49.888
like, what am I supposed to say?

00:30:50.268 --> 00:30:53.588
What if they look at me? What do I have to do there? And it's like,

00:30:53.668 --> 00:30:58.688
usually there would be a few that like could not wait to deliver a note,

00:30:58.968 --> 00:31:01.648
take something, go, you know, move around.

00:31:01.768 --> 00:31:06.148
I don't know, right? It's a funny shift, but I think it's good that you feel

00:31:06.148 --> 00:31:13.048
like you were taught to or you were able to ask questions, speak on your own behalf,

00:31:13.508 --> 00:31:16.068
see what you needed, advocate for yourself because, you know,

00:31:16.108 --> 00:31:20.368
that's a difficult, more difficult life skill than some of the other ones, for sure.

00:31:20.648 --> 00:31:25.728
There are times when either it wasn't well received or the message was misconstrued.

00:31:26.488 --> 00:31:31.428
You know, that's happened before. We're going to have an episode at some point.

00:31:31.568 --> 00:31:35.008
I think you called it the you called it the twist and shout. Right.

00:31:35.508 --> 00:31:39.688
Oh, yeah. Which that's which which has happened to be in my career where someone

00:31:39.688 --> 00:31:42.428
takes what you say and twist it and shouts it.

00:31:43.128 --> 00:31:47.448
Yeah, that's a much longer conversation that we'll need to dive into on another episode.

00:31:47.728 --> 00:31:52.408
So anything else for January for your mental health and well-being? Yeah.

00:31:54.263 --> 00:31:59.443
No, not really. Uh, honestly, it's, it's a busy, uh, January is always like,

00:31:59.683 --> 00:32:04.303
I know it's the Monday of, uh, the year, right. As, as you like to call it. I do.

00:32:04.523 --> 00:32:08.203
It's also in the last couple of years, it's been pretty busy for us as a family.

00:32:08.543 --> 00:32:14.283
Um, you know, we, uh, my wife starts the semester, um, which is always stressful

00:32:14.283 --> 00:32:15.463
and a stressful start for her.

00:32:16.063 --> 00:32:20.403
Um, she's also traveling from time to time. So, um, you know,

00:32:20.463 --> 00:32:21.763
going to conferences and stuff like that.

00:32:21.863 --> 00:32:29.463
So that kind of plays into it so honestly for us it's kind of January is more about just surviving,

00:32:30.743 --> 00:32:33.483
not in a bad way but like it's just like we got to get through the month

00:32:33.483 --> 00:32:36.823
of January and then we can kind of things kind of level themselves off yeah

00:32:36.823 --> 00:32:43.203
so some people do dry January nah and I love your response to that and I know

00:32:43.203 --> 00:32:47.923
I also I honestly don't drink that much I really don't um I drink in social

00:32:47.923 --> 00:32:54.923
settings yeah um or yeah or like if i go out in social settings like i i went out uh,

00:32:55.403 --> 00:32:58.243
like buffalo wildlings to watch some football games with my friends

00:32:58.243 --> 00:33:01.943
and had a beer like but that's it because i knew i had to drive so i'm not gonna

00:33:01.943 --> 00:33:07.963
have like 10 years like that's not my not my speed no dry january i did see

00:33:07.963 --> 00:33:12.243
i you know i don't need to subscribe to that either but i what was it what did

00:33:12.243 --> 00:33:16.463
what was it called it wasn't dry january it was sort of um.

00:33:17.984 --> 00:33:22.384
Oh, it was like in reference to, you know, trying to slow it down a little bit,

00:33:22.644 --> 00:33:25.704
but, you know, and like moderate, you know, some of those things.

00:33:25.884 --> 00:33:31.444
And then someone else's response was like, it's January, like do whatever you need to do. Yeah.

00:33:31.664 --> 00:33:34.604
You know, and I and I do kind of think I think that, you know,

00:33:34.664 --> 00:33:38.584
there's that's probably like an excuse for some people to kind of just say,

00:33:38.724 --> 00:33:41.004
oh, I'm going to do it this way, that way,

00:33:41.184 --> 00:33:44.704
every way, you know, and you could find a reason for that every month of the

00:33:44.704 --> 00:33:46.984
year, you know, for one reason or another.

00:33:47.624 --> 00:33:52.944
But I do, you know, I don't know. I guess it's just interesting how people approach the beginning.

00:33:53.164 --> 00:33:58.564
And I asked my students how they felt about New Year's resolutions and most

00:33:58.564 --> 00:34:01.244
of them were like, no one keeps them anyway, so what's the point?

00:34:02.144 --> 00:34:05.704
Yeah, it's funny. It was an interesting perspective that they had about it.

00:34:05.904 --> 00:34:09.404
Yeah, I think I was trying to do the, you know, talk about the one word thing

00:34:09.404 --> 00:34:11.764
and get them to buy into that.

00:34:12.884 --> 00:34:16.424
That was something that was interesting to start the year.

00:34:16.544 --> 00:34:23.744
To me, January feels like, you know, from the time that I was cycling and doing

00:34:23.744 --> 00:34:26.724
some riding, it kind of feels like you're climbing a large hill.

00:34:27.424 --> 00:34:30.764
But knowing that like, okay, this sucks right now. Yeah.

00:34:31.064 --> 00:34:35.584
But eventually I'll get to the top of this. And then it's more, whee!

00:34:36.304 --> 00:34:40.684
Yes. You know, that's the thinking behind it for me.

00:34:41.404 --> 00:34:44.424
I mean, imagine all the people who are born in January who are like,

00:34:44.844 --> 00:34:47.464
stuff you two. You know, this is our month. Yeah.

00:34:47.764 --> 00:34:51.744
This is our month to shine. For sure. This is our big day month. It's also about...

00:34:53.849 --> 00:34:57.749
A reset in a way, especially in class, uh, you know, talking about like the

00:34:57.749 --> 00:35:03.469
reset of routines we get through the holidays, which is madness, uh,

00:35:03.709 --> 00:35:07.809
in, in many, for many reasons, both professionally and personally,

00:35:07.929 --> 00:35:08.989
the kids are off the wall.

00:35:09.449 --> 00:35:13.609
You're running in Joe and ragged to prepare for the holidays and do all those things.

00:35:13.929 --> 00:35:18.649
And then you're kind of like coming down off of that only to climb up again

00:35:18.649 --> 00:35:20.589
for a long stretch for us.

00:35:20.669 --> 00:35:24.729
Right. We've got, yeah, we have all these days off and, And I was actually talking

00:35:24.729 --> 00:35:27.609
with a co-worker, you know, as we're recording this.

00:35:27.909 --> 00:35:31.829
This is my first full week in like six weeks.

00:35:32.589 --> 00:35:36.009
Of school? Of school. Well, it's not over yet, so we'll see.

00:35:36.189 --> 00:35:37.389
I know, right? As of right now.

00:35:38.369 --> 00:35:41.329
So we had like the day and a half back.

00:35:41.509 --> 00:35:45.429
And then the week prior, I was out sick for two days because I was,

00:35:45.449 --> 00:35:46.749
you know, coughing up a storm.

00:35:47.069 --> 00:35:51.609
And the week before that, I had a doctor's appointment that was scheduled as well as jury duty.

00:35:52.309 --> 00:35:56.269
And it was like the week before that was you know thanksgiving it's like it's

00:35:56.269 --> 00:35:58.169
crazy like i didn't work a full week,

00:35:58.998 --> 00:36:01.858
for so long how's the feeling how

00:36:01.858 --> 00:36:04.638
are you feeling about that maybe that's why i'm so tired like oh

00:36:04.638 --> 00:36:07.718
i gotta work i gotta work five whole days and again

00:36:07.718 --> 00:36:14.378
and again and again can you believe that the blizzard of 96 was 30 years ago

00:36:14.378 --> 00:36:20.758
i thought about that yeah i'll never forget we lived in a i lived in a town

00:36:20.758 --> 00:36:25.758
with my parents my sister um had her period for like the entire winter,

00:36:26.218 --> 00:36:29.178
funny how that happened you know oh no hi june yeah oh

00:36:29.178 --> 00:36:31.818
hey uh just throw it out her just her

00:36:31.818 --> 00:36:34.678
can't shovel she just got her and it was like it doesn't work like that god

00:36:34.678 --> 00:36:37.458
dad but anyway so you know i'm the brother that we never

00:36:37.458 --> 00:36:43.338
had it's fine and um and i'll i will not forget that lizard in particular because

00:36:43.338 --> 00:36:47.698
i mean we had a lot of wallopers i feel like when i like in my school time yeah

00:36:47.698 --> 00:36:55.038
but that one i remember like um going out and meeting some of my friends because we could walk,

00:36:56.378 --> 00:36:59.538
and, you know, we were in your house for so many days that, like,

00:36:59.598 --> 00:37:04.658
by the time we were actually, like, able to go outside and I didn't have a snowsuit.

00:37:06.515 --> 00:37:10.975
So I borrowed my mom's, remember those like jogging suits that were real popular?

00:37:11.275 --> 00:37:14.535
Like they were like, we called them swishy suits because they like swished when

00:37:14.535 --> 00:37:18.775
you walked. But like moms had them and they were like matching like on the bottom.

00:37:19.955 --> 00:37:23.675
It's like when you see, that's one of my favorite memes ever is when they show

00:37:23.675 --> 00:37:25.695
like a family from the 90s. No, don't say the wind.

00:37:26.095 --> 00:37:30.155
Don't say the wind. So now, do you know that I can't see that?

00:37:30.395 --> 00:37:32.255
The wind never stood a chance. The wind didn't stand a chance.

00:37:32.635 --> 00:37:36.675
Yeah. That is one of my most favorite of all time.

00:37:36.915 --> 00:37:43.575
And my girlfriend, Jenny's sister, Kristen, tells a story when she was in seventh

00:37:43.575 --> 00:37:47.295
or eighth grade and her mom made her wear one of those to school.

00:37:48.715 --> 00:37:53.135
Her and the teacher had the same outfit. Oh, my God. That's amazing.

00:37:53.555 --> 00:37:58.655
And she's like, it was one of the worst, most horrifying things that ever happened

00:37:58.655 --> 00:38:04.955
in my entire childhood. But anyway, so I wear my mom's like swishy suit and it was pink.

00:38:05.115 --> 00:38:07.575
I was like the pink panther for like the rest of high school.

00:38:07.575 --> 00:38:10.195
But it was like, you know, one of those like funny, like, oh my gosh,

00:38:10.275 --> 00:38:14.895
remember, like you would have put a garbage bag on just to get out and get like

00:38:14.895 --> 00:38:18.835
some socialization with your, you know, with your people because no one,

00:38:19.015 --> 00:38:21.355
everybody was just locked in the snow for so long.

00:38:21.715 --> 00:38:24.675
I graduated. I graduated in 94 and that winter was awful.

00:38:25.115 --> 00:38:27.735
So were you away at college when that happened? Yeah.

00:38:28.238 --> 00:38:31.178
Uh, I was not actually. Oh, cause you were in your in between.

00:38:31.638 --> 00:38:33.798
That's right. Cause I was in between, I was going to County and I was,

00:38:33.978 --> 00:38:35.718
uh, got it going back and forth.

00:38:35.878 --> 00:38:40.018
I think I remember, and I, I wasn't like, like, you know, we didn't have what

00:38:40.018 --> 00:38:42.138
we had today with like the weather and stuff like that.

00:38:42.278 --> 00:38:45.438
I remember being at the window and there was snow.

00:38:45.638 --> 00:38:50.378
No, it's funny. I remember being at, um, I went to like a golf show.

00:38:50.538 --> 00:38:54.278
They used to have like a golf show in like, um, Somerset and you would go,

00:38:54.378 --> 00:38:55.218
I went with a friend of mine.

00:38:55.338 --> 00:38:58.038
We used to go every year and you go and like they'd have clubs that you

00:38:58.038 --> 00:39:02.018
could hit like i bet you they still have goodbye they do it stinks it stinks

00:39:02.018 --> 00:39:05.498
now i haven't been to it a couple years but the last couple years that i went

00:39:05.498 --> 00:39:09.718
it was all terrible okay yeah but we went to it i was like and people are talking

00:39:09.718 --> 00:39:12.578
like yeah the storm we're gonna stop i like storm what storm but i remember

00:39:12.578 --> 00:39:15.238
going home and like watching the news and i was like oh my goodness we're gonna

00:39:15.238 --> 00:39:17.318
get walloped and then being home.

00:39:18.178 --> 00:39:23.778
Uh for a very long time um long yeah i mean it was like 24 to 30 inches of snow

00:39:23.778 --> 00:39:25.758
yeah it's crazy That's wild.

00:39:26.038 --> 00:39:28.098
It's hard to believe. Would you like a storm like that?

00:39:29.138 --> 00:39:35.738
Uh, no. Would you like one really good, powerful storm?

00:39:37.465 --> 00:39:41.065
No. Maybe 12 inches? None. None. You want none? And here's why.

00:39:41.405 --> 00:39:48.405
Because we use the extra snow days around Memorial Day weekend. Yeah. Right?

00:39:48.725 --> 00:39:52.145
So if we don't use our snow days, we get an extra long Memorial Day weekend,

00:39:52.265 --> 00:39:57.065
which, yes, makes the end of the year seem like forever. But yes. Selfish reason for me.

00:39:58.025 --> 00:40:01.685
I wouldn't. I normally travel on that weekend. I go visit a friend of mine out

00:40:01.685 --> 00:40:03.305
in Indianapolis and we go to the Indy 500.

00:40:03.565 --> 00:40:08.505
And I really enjoy doing that. it's not that I wouldn't but I would take days

00:40:08.505 --> 00:40:11.005
and then I wouldn't have to and I could you know,

00:40:11.465 --> 00:40:14.185
um do it like a rock star at the end party like a rock

00:40:14.185 --> 00:40:17.025
star yeah okay all right fair that's just

00:40:17.025 --> 00:40:21.525
my thing also like we haven't had a storm like that in a while so maybe you

00:40:21.525 --> 00:40:25.785
know maybe we're due for one I think I think we are we've had a lot of snow

00:40:25.785 --> 00:40:31.225
so far already yeah considering you know um the last couple of years have been

00:40:31.225 --> 00:40:35.225
a little bit more um you know dry uh I don't know I don't love,

00:40:35.345 --> 00:40:36.465
I don't really enjoy snow,

00:40:36.605 --> 00:40:39.305
but I do like a one wall up, not 30 inches.

00:40:39.505 --> 00:40:44.345
When you, when you speak about mental health, like I'm literally like three,

00:40:44.825 --> 00:40:47.465
two, one, happy new year. Is it summer?

00:40:47.725 --> 00:40:52.025
Like literally I am, I am, I am moved on immediately.

00:40:52.245 --> 00:40:55.825
But we can't, but, but you can't. I know.

00:40:56.705 --> 00:41:02.625
That's, that's my problem. Yeah. You can't, you're, you're stuck in it. Yeah. Yeah.

00:41:03.145 --> 00:41:06.005
I know. But I don't, I mean, I don't want 30 inches of snow.

00:41:06.205 --> 00:41:12.425
Don't get me wrong. But I do, when I hear things are, what did I just read?

00:41:12.605 --> 00:41:21.985
It was like, to our kids now, Home Alone is as far away a film as the films

00:41:21.985 --> 00:41:25.385
when we were kids of like the 1950s. Yeah.

00:41:26.753 --> 00:41:30.893
I know or time is a yeah father

00:41:30.893 --> 00:41:34.453
time father time and mother nature they're both undefeated so

00:41:34.453 --> 00:41:37.213
uh what is the other one like if they did back

00:41:37.213 --> 00:41:40.693
to the future they'd go back to like 1995 today god

00:41:40.693 --> 00:41:44.953
damn it i was like first of all i would go back to 1995 in a heartbeat because

00:41:44.953 --> 00:41:50.473
a a no no younger people listen to this a the music was better okay that's the

00:41:50.473 --> 00:41:53.193
first thing i'm pointing at the screen right now i don't know why i'm doing

00:41:53.193 --> 00:41:57.793
that yeah uh b um they didn't you know there were no phones and connectivity.

00:41:58.073 --> 00:42:03.133
Like you went out without people knowing where you would go and you would just go there.

00:42:04.355 --> 00:42:07.755
And be like i'm gonna meet someone here it was such a different time

00:42:07.755 --> 00:42:10.575
yeah and i just it it was you know

00:42:10.575 --> 00:42:13.275
it was great i love where i

00:42:13.275 --> 00:42:16.415
am now great yeah i love where i am now in my life uh

00:42:16.415 --> 00:42:20.915
just like we all do right because time oh yeah i mean i saw my nephew on christmas

00:42:20.915 --> 00:42:25.535
and it was like you look like every boy that i went to high school with like

00:42:25.535 --> 00:42:29.115
the way he was dressed it was like you know and and i meant it with like it

00:42:29.115 --> 00:42:33.235
was like whoa am i in a time machine it was startling to me like the pants and

00:42:33.235 --> 00:42:35.895
the design and the, his hair and like everything.

00:42:36.695 --> 00:42:40.075
And he was of course, feeling more original than that.

00:42:40.195 --> 00:42:45.535
So I don't know that he wanted to look like 1997, but honestly,

00:42:45.535 --> 00:42:47.835
and honestly, what helps is to

00:42:47.835 --> 00:42:50.675
know that like, I mean, having this conversation helps to be very honest.

00:42:50.735 --> 00:42:55.395
Cause like, we're not the only ones I was talking to some coworkers today about

00:42:55.395 --> 00:42:57.655
like, you know, the being tired thing.

00:42:57.815 --> 00:43:00.675
And like, you know, we were talking about all of our old age things.

00:43:00.855 --> 00:43:03.695
And one of the, one of the people was talking about, uh, you know,

00:43:03.755 --> 00:43:06.675
oh, I, you know, I got out of my wetsuit in the summer.

00:43:06.935 --> 00:43:11.495
Cause like person likes to surf and it was like, I, and then I hurt my shoulder.

00:43:11.635 --> 00:43:13.875
I had to go to like orthopedic cause of getting out of my wetsuit.

00:43:14.015 --> 00:43:15.735
I'm like, yeah, cause that's what happens when we get old.

00:43:16.175 --> 00:43:19.875
I just got my new car and I'm having difficulty getting the,

00:43:20.095 --> 00:43:23.335
because it's so, it's so low in time that I was like, oh no,

00:43:23.375 --> 00:43:26.135
am I going to injure myself getting my seatbelt? Yeah.

00:43:27.035 --> 00:43:31.355
Gotta be careful. You gotta be careful out there. A wetsuit sounds way more badass than your...

00:43:32.375 --> 00:43:35.855
That's cool. It does sound way more badass. You know who probably wouldn't want

00:43:35.855 --> 00:43:39.775
snow? Than hurting your knee playing pickleball.

00:43:40.615 --> 00:43:42.995
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Bam yeah just like that so i'm gonna

00:44:15.497 --> 00:44:18.317
go work on my mental health i'm gonna go plug in my seasonal

00:44:18.317 --> 00:44:21.417
affective disorder lamp you should i'm gonna go uh

00:44:21.417 --> 00:44:24.837
get ready and do some lifting so i can lift up my championship belt

00:44:24.837 --> 00:44:27.757
i hope you wear it on another i hope like

00:44:27.757 --> 00:44:30.497
in the future we'll see you wearing it on that i might just i might

00:44:30.497 --> 00:44:33.877
just have to wear it it'll definitely make its rounds onto social media and

00:44:33.877 --> 00:44:38.437
again suck it losers hey guys guys

00:44:38.437 --> 00:44:41.777
you know i love you i appreciate you don't kick them out i no

00:44:41.777 --> 00:44:44.537
they wouldn't so the story behind it by the way the reason

00:44:44.537 --> 00:44:48.137
real quick the reason i'm in the league is they

00:44:48.137 --> 00:44:51.437
said they weren't having any fun so i decided in 2019

00:44:51.437 --> 00:44:55.257
that i was going to campaign to be their 2019 league commissioner and i was

00:44:55.257 --> 00:44:59.897
not in the league and i would make recap videos of each week and like how they

00:44:59.897 --> 00:45:02.477
were doing good and how they were doing bad and make fun of them and then i

00:45:02.477 --> 00:45:05.357
got their wives involved where they were like hey you got to step it up because

00:45:05.357 --> 00:45:09.857
you stink and it was really a lot of fun these were all close friends of mine and And then you got in.

00:45:09.977 --> 00:45:12.117
And then one guy stepped out. I was like, yeah, sure, I'll do it.

00:45:12.197 --> 00:45:13.477
So here I am. And now I'm a champ.

00:45:13.877 --> 00:45:16.157
But anyway, I digress.

00:45:16.597 --> 00:45:21.417
I appreciate you, Fred. I appreciate you. And we appreciate all of our listeners.

00:45:21.757 --> 00:45:24.877
And of course, if you are struggling with your mental health,

00:45:25.297 --> 00:45:29.337
reach out to a professional, see a friend, talk it through.

00:45:29.637 --> 00:45:33.597
And we wish everybody all the best getting through the longest month of the year.

00:45:33.877 --> 00:45:36.537
Yes. The longest, the Monday of the year. All right. We'll see everybody next

00:45:36.537 --> 00:45:37.937
time on the Balancing Act Podcast.