Saying YES to Life with Pam Heath

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Welcome this is Elaine Starling, the abundance ambassador and the host of the abundance journey, podcast and video show. I was so lucky to meet Pam Heath about three weeks ago. And this lady really, really impressed me. You know, there are some people who have just been there done that and had some really extreme experiences and somehow some way they power through it. And they just exude that abundance spirit that we're all about here on the abundance journey. I'm describing Pam, I mean, truly, this woman is just exceptional. Let me share a little bit about Pam so that you understand where I'm coming from. Pam's a motivational keynote speaker, an international best selling author, a life coach and a business strategist. She is known as the Yes coach empowering women with the tools to discover, design and deliver their unique message. She empowers transformational motivational and self help coaches, teachers and entrepreneurs to distinguish their unique message to market for a personal and professional brand that attracts an endless stream of new customers, produces more leads more conversions and more revenue than ever before. All that leads to creating the life and business of their dreams. Pam, I'm so glad you said yes to the abundance journey.

I'm so glad I said yes to I'm so excited to be here.

Oh man, I was just blown away when I heard your story. And could you please start for a little bit to just share with us? What got you started? As the Yes, Coach, what got you into this space? And why are you so passionate about what you do?

Well, you know, in life, I've always been one of those glasses half full kind of people. I'm an optimistic, happy go lucky person. And I'd pretty much to achieved success. I had the best job in the world. I had the most extraordinary husband. He was a musician. And I'm a groupie for musicians. And I just adored the fact that I was musicians why. And I had the perfect car. Everything was just the way it was supposed to be when your life is working. And then tragedy struck. And I was I was hit by a pretty, pretty deep blow my eldest child, my daughter committed suicide. And when that happened, it hit me like a ton of bricks, it came from left field. I wasn't ready for it. I didn't expect it. And I kind of went south. And because I crawled under a rock. It created this kind of circling the drain phenomena. I lost my job because I basically stopped showing up to work and didn't call and explain. And even though I had been there for 17 years, they had to let me go there was nothing else they could do. Losing my job and losing the income. I lost my home to foreclosure. The car was repossessed, and I found myself very quickly within a few months out of work with nowhere to go and no place to be and nowhere to get there. And then I got hit with the sucker punch of my husband of 26 years suddenly passing away. He just dropped dead. And the thing that was so off about that was that I married a man who was 10 years younger than me. And he was a vegetarian. He was fit. He used to drive down to the beach and run every day. And I never in a million years thought that I would outlive him because I have everything I just described about him. I'm the opposite. And I thought that he would be burying me. And no I there I was burying him and I barely had the money to put food on the table and I had to bury my husband. So I buried my husband and my firstborn daughter. And I ended up living on the street in my son's minivan. And that was my life. And to be perfectly frank and I know it's a downer and I the Yes coach. I don't like to be a downer, but I thought I wanted to die. I thought I was done. And I was actually finding myself asking God why not take me to? Why are you leaving me here to deal with the misery? The upset? What's left for me? I'm in my mid If these, I have nothing and living in a car, come get me. And I truly believe that. And then something happened, which was an incident that for some people would be more of the same of the tragic circumstances that helped me take a downward spiral. But it actually was the catalyst from which the Yes coach was born. And that incident that happened is that somebody attacked me, a man had been watching me, and knew I was living on the street. And I could feel the energy of somebody watching me, you know how your spider senses tingle. When you somebody's watching you. And I could feel it for several days, somebody's watching me, but I couldn't see him. And whatever vantage point he had, he had his eye on me and I could feel the energy of it. And then one day, he decided to attack. And so I was standing in the street, rummaging in my car bent over, and my hands were down in the car. And then I heard footsteps behind me running, and he was running up to me, and I felt the energy of it. And it was negative and bad. And I knew it. And he grabbed me. And he put his arms around me. And he was being very, very powerful and aggressive. He was trying to shove me to the ground, and I knew he was going to attack me. And I knew that he didn't care whether you hurt me, he wanted to hurt me. And in that moment, I had two epiphanies. And those epiphanies were unbelievable, because the extraordinary thing is not what I thought was the truth. But the actual epiphany I had in that moment was I wanted to live. I wanted to live. And I turned into the Tasmanian devil. He put his arms around me, and I shoved him aside, screaming, kicking, punching, pushing, and it was all in like two seconds, unbelievable. And it startled him and I shoved as hard as I could. And he fell to the ground. And I saw the look of astonishment on his face, he was not expecting that level of fight so quickly. And while he laid there on the ground for just a few seconds, startled, I leapt into my car, locked the door, and he couldn't get in. Because he tried. He ran around shaking it pounding on the glass, but he couldn't get in. And I call the police. And I started describing him. And he heard me talking to police and ran away. And that's when I had the second epiphany, in this incredible drama that played out. While I sat there with the doors locked in the man who just tried to attack me running away, I realized not only did I want to live, but I didn't want to live like this. And so I realized that I, I had an opportunity here to turn my life around. Didn't matter how old I was, it didn't matter what I was up to, I could create anything, I want it, because that's the way life was designed. And remember, I told you that in life by nature, I'm an optimistic person. So the next day, I made a phone call. And that phone call was to an associate that I knew that had a company that had a team of people. And here's what I said to him. I said, How's your team doing? Are they productive? Are they getting their jobs done? How would you like it if I came in there, and actually empowered them to be more productive than they've ever been teaching them to actually empower you and what your company is up to? And you suddenly find yourself making more money? Just by me managing your team? Would you like that? And nobody said,

Yes, please. Yes. He said, Absolutely. Come do it. So what I did was, I went down there, and I did what I said I was going to do, and you gotta get, I pulled that out of the ether. I had no idea what I was going to do. I just knew that I was somebody who can empower people. So I promised to empower his team. And I did. So much so that one of his team mentors members went back to school, got training and started his own business. And he's stories is that yeah,

this this is just blowing my mind. And I want to stop you for just a second. Because I have to honor you for having the courage to recommit to yourself. That's really what you did when you had those epiphanies you recommitted to yourself and by recommitting to yourself, you committed to us, because now we get to witness your transformation. And since you you pave the road Good, now you've made it that much easier for the rest of us to follow you. So I so appreciate you, I It's horrible. All the things that you experienced are just horrible. And I wouldn't wish that on anybody. And it got you to this incredible period of expansion. And now you're sharing that beautiful expansion with the rest of us. So thank you. Thank you very much for that, you know, I want to make sure that we kind of tie this in, because I'm sure a lot of people are going wow, yes, is brilliant, it's absolutely a powerful thing that we need to do. And we do need to recommit to ourselves and to the clients we serve. And then how does that map to abundance? So would you describe how you personally define abundance? Yeah,

for me abundance is is an indication that you have the opportunity to have anything you want in life. So abundance doesn't look like I have 10 of these, I want 100 of them. That's not abundance, that's more of the same abundance is that the money's no concern to you? If you see something and want it, you know, it's yours, you can have it. That confidence that Boldness is what I teach when I teach people to say yes, so my best selling book is called say yes. And when you say yes to life, life says yes to you. So that's my access to power. Say yes. When I didn't know when I was going through all those tragic circumstances, said, each time I got hit with another tragedy, I kept saying no, ah, I was saying no. And so more and more and more and more and more, until I recognized when that man attacked me. I said, Yes, I want to live.

And that is such a powerful insight. Because no is resistance. Yep. And what you resist persists. So when you flipped that entirely? And you said, Yes. And I can handle this. All of a sudden, it was there for you. Brilliant. I love it.

On the head, right there. What you just said, I can handle this? Yeah, for the first time. I said, Yes. And that's when the tide turned.

Wow. So I'm assuming that one of the most common challenges you experience with the people that gravitate to you, is they're caught in the habit of saying no, right? Yes. They're, they're trapped in resistance, what do they have to change within, to shift out of that natural state of, you know, trying to control everything and slow it down, and instead lean in with the love that they are? To use their own innate skills to shift things? What is what has to change inside you? To embrace the Yes?

Well, the biggest thing you have to learn is patience. People come to me and they say, look, I I'm a positive person. I'm doing everything that you talk about. And yet it's still not coming. And, you know, what I tell them is that a lot of times, you know, I'm gonna get spiritual for a moment, if that's okay, please, please, request of the man upstairs. And you expect him to deliver it like, you know, pizza. And the thing about it is, is there are things that have to be in place for you to have that thing, you can count on every request, the response is always going to be yes. And he's always going to say yes with a codicil, you need to do this in order to have that. So you know, years ago, when I first got hit with all these tragedies, if someone had come up to me and said that you're going to make a difference on the planet, or with people with your compassion, with your power, with your energy, but in order to make that level of difference, you have to lose your firstborn child. You have to lose your husband, you have to lose everything that you have. And when you grow from that, the difference you'll make on the planet is on the level of magic. Are you ready to do that? Guess what I would have said? ppreciate it, appreciate it? And no, such an opportunity, I think, you know, because where we go is I'm not willing to do what it takes to have what I want. So you want to make a difference. You got to be willing to do what it takes. And a lot of times God has a path for you. And you have to look to see what is it you want me to do? Where is it that I need to change? What do I need to take on to have this thing that I say I want and if you look from that point of view, and you'll understand that there's something missing that you need to look at before you can have this thing. What it is I don't know, I don't expect you to know, I do expect you to look.

So I have to ask a question, then. Is there something that you could share with us right now? That is a way that we can get more into that space, either either be more aware of the guidance that we're receiving? Or just how can we start to experience a little bit more of this Yes, energy that you're talking about.

So you know, back when Amazon first started, used to be in it, they don't have it anymore. Interesting enough, that when you bought something on Amazon, they had a button on the website, where's my stuff? If your, if your stuff was didn't arrive, and you were trying to figure out where it was, you push that button, and they will give you all the information about the tracking and all that stuff, right. And I teach my clients that you actually can make a request of God. And you can say, I need you to show me where it's coming from in a way that I can't misinterpret. So give me a sign. Show me a way that I can know that I'm on the right path, you are allowed to say Where's my stuff? Just like with Amazon? You know, I asked for this, I'm doing that in order to have that it's not coming. Where's my stuff? If you take on looking for it, because here's what most people do. I want a new house, right? So they think I need $200,000. So I think that this person over here owes me money. So they'll give me 30,000. They're looking over here thinking it's worse than it come from. And they completely miss the opportunity that God sent. Because they're so busy. They think they know. Yeah. Yeah. So the way to get access to is to open up to receive, I don't care where it comes from. The reality is you don't? Yeah. You don't care, though you don't over here. The reality is, Oh, yeah.

Right, right. Right. It's so funny, I use the analogy of Have you ever been out looking for shooting stars. And the most effective way is to kind of pick a central area of the star field and sort of focus your vision there. But open your peripheral vision, because there will be a little flash of light, and that grabs your attention. And then you start to notice the shooting stars everywhere. But if you're like this, and only shooting stars that are right here in this tiny little field of vision count, you're gonna miss most of the shooting stars because they show up peripherally tangentially. And those are the blessings you're looking for. And it's so ironic that we think, Oh, no, it's got to be just like this

year. Yeah. So that's the, that's the coaching that you just spoke of. That's a very good analogy, because it really is your peripheral vision is probably where it's going to come from, whatever you're focusing on, it's probably not where it's gonna come from. But you have to be open to receive wherever it comes from. And you can ask, show me I tell my clients all the time, show me in a way I can't misinterpret, right? Because it's, it's the Bible is written intentionally in parables. It's intended to confuse you, because in order to study it, you have to actually focus it down and pay attention. It's the same thing with your with your magic, you know, when you're manifesting, it's intentionally in parables. But the thing about it is the Where's my stuff button? Make a demand. Look, I don't want parable, tell me what time and one day, you can make my request. I tell people this and they do it. And they come to me like, astonished. Just like you said, I said that, and I looked up and by happened, you know, I'll give you a small story. That's a little example. I first started to build this business. And what happened was, is that I didn't have a car, but I used my son's minivan. And I wanted to go to off to northern California and visit my sister, and it costs. It costs $50 in gas to get up there. I I hesitate to say that because what gas prices are there, they're not here that and be like what, you can go to the corner for $50 now, right? Plus $50 I didn't have it. I knew once I got there that they would help me out to get back home. And so I said, I need $50 you please send me $50 So that I can you know, go visit my sister. And then I went out for a walk to clear my head. And it's funny because I wear glasses like I'm not wearing them now. But I wear glasses when I'm not wearing them. I can't see very well. And I was just walking along and then I looked in the gutter and I saw a flash of green and like what's that out. And I went and looked and lo and behold, there was two $20 bills sitting in this gutter $20 bills, just sitting there in the gutter. And I'm like, What the heck? And I was like, thank you. But I said, 50.

Right. I pick it up and put it in my pocket and I keep walking. There's a liquor store, and I go in there, I was compelled. And I bought a lottery ticket. Yeah, uh huh. I want an additional $10 on that lottery ticket. Amazing. That's like that. Almost like I got the money. I'm like, Look, where's my stuff? And then

that is fabulous. Well, Pam, you alluded to this a little bit ago. But people always want the result right now. And sadly, it doesn't show up. In this instant, there are baby steps that we have to follow. And as long as we're following those baby steps, we are on the right path, we are making progress. And we will experience this result or something better. What are one or two little baby steps that we should look for that show us we are indeed using that yes, energy that you talk about?

Well, the baby steps that you have to take on when you're manifesting what it is that you want. The first baby step is patience. Because there is something you can take to the bank with confidence that you're going to get what you asked for. And there's something in all of us that doubts that whenever we don't get immediately, like you go to the restaurant, and you order your food, and then and the waiter brings it out, you think that's life. You know, and it's not sometimes it takes a day or two to for you to get delivered of your desires, that the patients to understand that even if you've got it today, you may not, you know, do what you need to do with it. Your request is heard and it will be fulfilled upon. So the patience is by when, when you're ready. So if you expected it today, and it didn't come today, I'll give you an example. I just recently heard from my landlord, I've been here for years, that he needs me to move because he wants to move in here. I'm renting a house. So I found out that I had 30 days to move. And so I went out and started looking for another place. And I found a place and it was perfect. It's exactly what I asked for. I wrote down everything I wanted in a house, and I put it on a piece of paper. And then I put that piece of paper under the doormat of my house. So that every time I walked in and out of my house, I was walking into my new I love that expression. I love that. The thing was is that i It's been three days. And I haven't heard yet now it's been three days now, is that a long time? Or is that a sort of time? I don't know. I just know that I want to know now. So I can get started with the mood, get that stuff going and everything. So every day that I don't hear, I don't sit and go. I just look to see what else needs to get tweaked. What else do I What do you need for me? So I can have that house? Do I need to talk to more people do when I need to do a podcast guest appearance on the abundant journey? Every I keep asking and keep looking for what do you need from me? How do I need to line myself up with my getting that house? And at either I'll get it or I won't. But the one thing I'm clear about that? I'm confident I asked for it. I'll get it fast. I literally doubt it. No, one minute.

And I'm so proud of you for staying in action and for continuing to ask, and what else can I do? And you're also you didn't specifically say this, but I can tell you are staying in a state of gratitude. You already know the perfect house is there for you. And I love that you have it under the doormat. So you step into your perfect house every single time you walk through the door that was freaking brilliant. Love that and I'm totally going to take that on. I'm sure you could do that for your car too. Exactly. Description under the car mat and get in and out of your car and just envision yourself in a new car. And I so love that every single new idea you have. What else can I do that will help me? You're in gratitude for that too. I'm so grateful that I'm continually shown additional things I can do that will help me fulfill this dream. And I'm so grateful that I get to do these things. They expand me they fulfill me. I'm so excited to be a part of this. Love, love, love where you are coming from disparate, dangerous to get us together, because I could keep you here all day, I'm having way too much fun that you talked a bit about a free gift that you have for the audience, I'd really appreciate if you describe your free gift because it's fabulous. I can't wait to get my copy.

So it's an ebook that I wrote called Transform your money mindset. And what it is, is it talks you through some very practical structures to put in your life so that you can open up yourself to receive money like rain from the sky, I did it. So there are moments in time in life when you feel like you don't have enough money, I no longer have that reality. Anytime I need money, it appears. And so I wrote an e book, it's an e book because I give it away because I want to make that difference with people that there are things practical things, I'm not talking about woowoo. Because I know I'm very spiritual woowoo and people like, oh, there goes the woowoo lady, right? But there's like practical stuff in there. How often do you look at your bank statements? Do you even know how much money you have in your bank account? Do you check your credit cards to make sure there's no errors on the target is like being in charge of your finances means being in control of them. Once you get to the point where you're in control of them, you can start looking to see how can I have more? And you can hope just like when I called my very first client, and I said how would you like it if I did this? And he said, Yes, it's the same thing with money. How would you like it? If money was no longer a concern? Say yes.

Love that. Love that I love that you're providing some really practical things that we can do to say yes. And that's just absolutely brilliant. What are the key things that we do here with the abundance journeys, we always turn the table on our guests because we want to support you, we know that when we give is when we get. So Pam, what can we do to help you?

Well, I have a best selling book on Amazon called say yes, Seven Steps to the life of your dreams. And in order for me to maintain my bestseller status, I need reviews of the book. So here's the here's what I propose. And I offer this all the time, download the Kindle version, if you have Kindle, if you have that it's free. You can download it. If you don't, it's 999 to download the PDF version, read it, and then put post a review of the book on Amazon. Hopefully it's a good review. And when you do that, write to me. I'm Pam, he's at Yes, coach for you.com. My website domain is right there in the corner, and he's at Yes coach for you. And tell me you did that and give me your snail mail address. And I will autograph a paperback copy of my book and mail it to you as my gift, please review my book. That's the best gift you can give me?

Absolutely. I can't wait to do that. And I'll make sure that there's a link to your free gift and a link to your book, and a link to your website in the show notes. So it's really easy for people to follow up with you and take advantage of your generosity. Thank you so much. Wow. PMB rock, I love your energy. I love where you're coming from. And I'm so impressed and so proud of you for turning your life around and for reaching out to help us turn our lives around to

Well, I It's okay for me to mention, I have an event coming up at the end of the month. If anyone wants to attend it. Can I make sure with the D Day event, it's a transformation event. It's based on my book. And it's called the yes mastermind. And I spend three days working with you to get you transformed around money around relationships around your health and well being. And it's something that I do like every three or four months or so. And it's July 28 29th and 30th. And it's that's a Thursday, Friday and Saturday, if you'd like to attend, it's focused mostly on entrepreneurs. Because what I make a difference in is I help you focus on your unique message. So I give people clarity. If you have a gift, like you obviously have a gift to create, you know, the way that you recreate what I say tells me you listen keenly. And that's your gift, and your ability to do that makes a difference for human beings. So what I do my gift is I help people find theirs. So you can come to that my three day event. I'll give you the link to that as well where you can wait yeah.

And I hope that you also have the option if the if the event has passed and you're listening to this podcast after the event, then please I'm sure that there will be a registration link so that you can get on the waitlist and you'll be notified the next time cams doing the event. So it's well worth going and checking it out. This has been such an incredible treat. Pam, thank you so much for your time today. And I want everybody to stay tuned because we're going to be active Reading abundance in just a minute.

Wasn't Pam amazing? Oh my gosh, I was chatting with Pam. She truly, truly rocked my world today. I hope you were paying attention. Because now it's time to activate abundance. We've got the five steps, the first step we're going to celebrate, we celebrate in advance that we are going to experience profound transformation. Just because we are part of this dialogue with Pam, I love hanging out with high vibe people because they lift the energy for everybody, us included. And now that your energy's linked with mine and with Pam's baby we're in for a world of fun, it's gonna be great. So first we celebrate in advance, then we acknowledge something that we learned that was a little bit different, or something we'd heard before, but we kind of forgot we weren't doing it regularly. So now, I want to acknowledge some of the stuff that Pam was talking about, because I really loved how she wants to move into a new place. And she wrote down a description of what her new house is going to be like. And she folded up the piece of paper, and she put it under her welcome mat, so that every day when she goes in and out of that door, she's stepping into her new experience. I love that concept. I love that concept. So that's what I want to acknowledge, there's so many things that she talked about that you could acknowledge, but that's the one I'm going to pick up on. The second, the next step is to appreciate the difference that it can make in your life, when you follow what you're acknowledging. So the difference for me when I do the same step, and I am definitely going to take the time because I definitely have some things that I want to accomplish and achieve in my life. And now I know exactly one of the cool steps to do. Because when I do that, and I feel myself literally physically stepping into the new me, all of a sudden, I show up in a different way. My approach my attitude, my actions are completely different than how I was before. So I really I'm looking forward to using this technique, because I know it will shift me energetically, which shifts me emotionally, which shifts me physically. And then it has to show up. It's absolutely beautiful. I love that technique. So we celebrate in advance we acknowledge something we learned we appreciate the difference is going to make in our lives. And then we activate it by actually scheduling when we're going to do this on the calendar, or you pick a little trigger a reminder that this is going to remind me to do this action. So for me personally, I am going to write down what I want. I'm, I'm interested in a house on the coast. So I'm gonna write that down with a description of all the things that I want featured in that new property. I'm going to fold that up. I live in an amazing place right now I almost feel guilty for wanting something different. I'm ready for something different and new. And we all have the opportunity to grow. So today, I'm going to write out this information on a piece of paper and it's going under my welcome mat, because I'm ready to welcome a whole new experience a whole new state of being. So we celebrate in advance, we acknowledge we appreciate we activate, and we celebrate again, because this is a whole new you that's coming in a whole new experience. I just learned a really cool technique. That's fun. And one of the key things that I have learned my experience with the divine, the Divine is effervescent joy. They are so playful and fun and happy and excited and ridiculous and silly. And so they love little games and experiences like this. It's right up the divine alley. This is what God loves to see from you. Because when you're in a playful state, you're much more receptive to all the blessings that are being showered on you all the time. How cool is that? It's gonna be a lot of fun today, but make sure you stay tuned for another episode of the abundance journey.