The Attempt to Develop Tolerance and Understanding to Avoid Quarrelling

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When one begins to consider how
the faults, we find in others

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are those to, which we ourselves
are susceptible, and that we see

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them through the focus and
Affinity that we have to them,

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as the synchronicity of the
universe, brings forward to us.

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Those very things that we are
naturally, attracting.

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It becomes clear that these
events become an opportunity for

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inner work to change oneself.
By doing this, we overcome the

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urge to castigate others or
upgrade them for their very

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behavior that we ourselves
remain capable of doing.

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This, is the basis of serious
progress in the individual

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sadhna and helps to focus and
control the energy in such a way

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that it works towards growth and
development rather than being

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wasted in useless.
Negativity, the mother writes

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quote, Try to experience this,
it will greatly help you to

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change yourselves at the same
time, it will bring a sunny

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tolerance to your relationships
with others the Goodwill which

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comes from understanding and it
will very often put an end to

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these completely useless corals
one can live without quarreling.

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It seems strange to say this
because as things are it would

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seem on the contrary that life
is made for quarrelling.

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In the sense that the main
occupation of people who are

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together is to quarrel overtly
or covertly, you do not always

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come to words.
You do not always come to blows

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fortunately, but you are in a
state of Perpetual irritation

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within because you do not find
around you, the Perfection that

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you would yourself wish to
realize and which you find

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rather difficult to realize but
you find it entirely natural

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that Others should realize it.
How can they be like that?

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You forget how difficult you
find it in yourself.

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Not to be like that.
Try you will see look upon

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everything with a benevolent,
smile.

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Take all the things which
irritate you as a lesson for

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yourself and your life will be
more peaceful and more effective

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as well for a great percentage
of your energy.

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Certainly goes to waste in the
irritation.

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You feel when you do not find in
others the Perfection that you

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would like to realize in
yourself and quote, reference

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SRI aurobindo in the mother
living within the yoga approach

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to psychological health and
growth exercises for growth and

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Mastery using Life as a mirror
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