Moving Beyond Arguments and Widening One’s Thought

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At some time or another, every
human being has the experience

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of having an opinion thought or
idea.

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Contradicted, the usual reaction
is to defend one's position

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whether or not it is.
Well, founded and arguments.

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Tend to ensue, it is rare.
That one side of the argument is

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entirely right and the other
side is entirely wrong. when

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looked at from a neutral
perspective, Generally, there's

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something that can be
appreciated or understood from

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any opposing or differing
viewpoints yet.

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We tend to be so busy defending
our own view that we fail to

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appreciate the positive aspects
of other views.

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SRI, aurobindo reminds us in the
Life.

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Divine that the apparent
contradictions can be reconciled

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into a higher synthesis.
The mother suggest, the way to

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accomplish this and
interpersonal relationships.

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And thereby also widen our own
way of seeing and acting first,

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there must be a status of quiet
receptivity in the mind instead

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of the naturally reactive state
that we jump into when

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challenged in our view.
We must be prepared to

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appreciate that.
There is at least some basis in

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the other party's mind to set
forth their view of things.

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Then we need to develop a
mechanism for entering into that

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standpoint and relating the two
views together.

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The mother writes, quote, for
instance you are with someone.

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This person tells you something,
you tell him the contrary as it

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usually happens, simply through
a spirit of contradiction and

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You Begin arguing naturally you
will never come to any point

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except to quarrel if you are
ill-natured.

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But instead of doing that
instead of remaining in your own

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ideas or your own words, if you
tell yourself, wait a little,

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I'm going to try and see why he
said that to me.

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Yes, why did he tell me that?
And you concentrate, why why?

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Why you stand there?
Just like that trying the other

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person continues speaking
designee and is very happy to

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for you.
Don't contradict Any longer you

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talked profusely and is sure he
has convinced you.

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Then you concentrate more and
more on what he is saying.

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And with the feeling that
gradually through his words, you

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are entering his mind when you
enter his head.

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Suddenly you understand why he
is speaking to you.

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Thus and then if you have a
fairly Swift intelligence and

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put what you have, just come to
understand alongside what you

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had known.
On before you have the two ways

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together and so can find the
truth reconciling both.

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And here you have truly made
progress, and this is the best

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way of widening on stop.
If you are, beginning an

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argument, keep quiet immediately
instantaneously, you must be

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silent, say nothing at all, and
then try to see the thing as the

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other person sees it that won't
make, you forget your own way of

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seeing it, not at all, but you
will be able to put both of them

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together and you will have truly
made progress.

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A real progress, end quote.
reference SRI aurobindo and the

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mother living within the yoga
approach to psychological health

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and growth exercises for growth
and Mastery identification Pages

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