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This is the whole point of this podcast is just being yourself, being authentic.
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It's real love and real life.
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And as couples, it's you know, sometimes it's like a roller coaster.
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You got your highs, you got your lows, and we're not perfect.
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You know, we're not trying to dilute stuff, it's just the real deal, real in real time.
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So from one Friday to another Friday, you can grow not only as an individual, but as a couple.
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So it's like, and there's things that we both took away.
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Okay, like I haven't been putting them first.
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So, you know, got to action that week, and then, you know, also me too is like she's very busy, so we gotta help each, we gotta help ourselves to make the relationship better, you know.
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Just that's what I heard I was hearing on, you know, instead of listening to music, sometimes I'd be listening to YouTube, you know, motivational speakers or just you know, intellectual people, and it's like work on yourself so everything can be better, you know.
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You work on yourself, everybody around you is gonna be better because you're the best version of yourself.
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So it's like, you know what I mean?
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There's both stuff we both need to work on, but you know what I mean?
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I was like, I'm not like that.
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I'm I'm way more sophisticated than that, not just like a straight up douche.
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So yeah, I feel like this part this episode should just be, you know, just real life.
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No relationship is perfect.
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The relationships that you think are pitch picture perfect, a lot of lies.
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Yeah, perfect photo on Instagram.
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There's a lot of you know, lies behind that, you know.
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I was gonna say that.
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Like, I know that I did mention to you, I was gonna say, hey, like, be ready to, when that episode goes up, to take some heat, you know.
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Like a lot of people like see influencers or content creators, and they want to, I think they're so used to seeing this perfect world.
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Yeah, the perfect couple, they have the perfect kids, like, you know, things like that, but that's not really the reason why like we decided to make a podcast.
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And that's why it's real love, real life.
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Like, you know, we're not here to sugarcoat stuff and you know, make things seem perfect because they're far from that.
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And I I feel like I I'm I stand so like strong on that where I'm like, I'm here to like be real, and I'm not talking shit about anybody, I'm stating facts because I've already been getting heat from our first episode.
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I mean, immediately after our first episode, somebody messaged me and they're like, I know you were talking about me.
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Okay, I wasn't talking crap about you, I was stating the truth.
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Yeah, I didn't say a lie.
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And is is that why you are so bothered?
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So just like, you know, letting everybody know, you know, this is this is real love, real life.
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This is real life stuff that you know is going on in our day-to-day.
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We are not perfect.
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Um, we're a regular couple, we go through stuff, and and we want to share some of that with you guys.
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And and then when I told you that, I was like, hey, you know, you might get some heat, stuff like that.
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But just know that that's okay.
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Like the people that watch that and understand it and get through it are like the real ones that are like, hey, they have a real relationship, like that's normal.
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That's what me and my partner go through.
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But I mean, we're so used to seeing all these huge, like perfect influencers that like we know their husbands probably like cheat on them or vice versa, and then but they paint this like perfect picture on social media.
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We are not like that, okay?
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We far from that, but yeah, yeah, and it's like you you go through things, and I feel like in the what basically going on six years now almost.
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Yeah, this December.
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So it's like in six years we've accomplished a lot, you know.
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I know been through a lot, accomplished a lot, so you know, no relationship is perfect, guys.
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You just gotta work through it and communicate.
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Always you gotta you gotta self-reflect, think about, you know, we all make mistakes and you know, we can, you know, sharpen, sharpen some things up, you know what I mean?
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But other than that, you gotta keep it pushing and communicate and be there for each other.
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Yeah, and I think especially like when you have kids and all that, that's when it gets tricky.
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It's tough.
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Like, you know, you are so you're at work, you have to leave for work, and you leave so early, you work in the sun, you come back, you are you're drained, you're pooped, you eat, take a shower, and like you know, so it's it's like I don't I don't expect you to like, you know be top of the morning, you know, how to go, or this, this, and that.
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Like, yeah, it would be very ideal, and it would be very in a perfect world, you know, your husband getting home and helping you out and doing all this, but I'm at the end of the day, too.
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I'm like, he's exhausted, and so am I.
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But I have the privilege to be at home in AC in shade, you know, like so.
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I I I do have to give him some credit.
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Like, you know what?
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He's been in the I'm pretty sure like a lot of like blue-collar wives could understand like husband coming home beat.
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Cause like, I'm just like, there's no AC.
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I'm just thinking, like, if it's 114 outside, I'm like, You should buy it.
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It's like 120 in here.
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You should buy one of those little things.
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I saw a video today um on TikTok, and this lady said she had a a little thermometer.
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She was here in Arizona.
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She did outside.
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Dang.
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The weather on the phone was actually saying 115.
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She did the thing, it was saying 118.
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She's like, I just bought a car, it doesn't have um what is it?
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It doesn't have tent.
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She did it, it was 150 something in there.
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It was just like cards like, yeah, it was a freaking fishbowl.
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And then she was like, No, my husband's truck has tent.
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Let's go do his.
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His was like 120 something.
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So you should do that.
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You should buy like one of those thermometers.
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So you're inside a building with like no running air.
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Yeah, yeah, that's that should be illegal.
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That's all I said.
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Ha.
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You guys can't have like those little like I mean, I've just been so tired.
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I don't even charge my battery for my little fan.
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Why don't you tell us?
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We would charge it for you.
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I don't know.
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Um, why don't you guys ask?
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No, I'm just kidding.
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Well, I don't know like what you use and don't use that work.
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No, I usually fall asleep.
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I usually tell Renee, I'm like, hey, can you charge my headlamp and my battery, please?
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You would think that these like companies or stuff, or that it would be like law in Arizona to like have some sort of like cooling for you guys.
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That's actually insane.
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It is, but you know what too?
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I mean, I've I've worked warehouse and they don't give a shit.
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Like it's hot in there and musty, all like the all like the machinery is like running and stuff, and it's it's hard.
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So I worked in the heat.
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Hasn't been like crazy, crazy hot, but we do get like these heat waves, huh?
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They just come through and beat you down.
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Yesterday was rough.
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Yeah, it was bad.
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Yesterday I was like on a thin line, like I didn't want anybody to talk to me.
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I you go outside, you're drained.
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Yeah, it instantly.
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It it just like the day, just if you step outside in the sun, it drains you.
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Like, you don't want to do anything after that.
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All I did was go to the store and I came back and I was like, I'm cranky.
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I don't want to record, I don't want to do this, I don't want to do that.
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Like, I just want to lay in bed and get the house all dark, please.
