April 14, 2024

Living the dream with author and parenting expert Tessia Watson

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Dive into the nurturing world of motherhood with Tessia Watson on the 'Living the Dream with Curveball' podcast. Tessia, a spiritual teacher and author of 'Rejuvenated Moms Make Happy Kids', shares her insights on the importance of self-care for mothers and how it directly influences the happiness and health of their children. Discover her personal journey, the development of a bilingual childcare program, and the profound lessons she's learned about parenting, intuition, and balance. Tune in for an episode that promises to empower and inspire mothers everywhere to reclaim their role as the cornerstone of the family.
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> Speaker A>Welcome, um, to the Living the Dream podcast with curveball. Um, if you believe you can achieve chee Chee.

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> Speaker B>Welcome to the Living the dream with curveball podcast, a, uh, joke where I interview guests that teach, motivate and inspire. Today we're going to be talking about parenting, as I am joined by spiritual teacher Tessia, uh, Watson. Tessia focuses on the mother coming back to being the cornerstone of parenting.

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> Speaker B>You know, she's a single mom, so she's going to be talking to her about how important parenting is and mothers. So, Tasia, thank you so much for joining me today.

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> Tessia Watson>Thank you so much for having me. It's just, um, such a pleasure to be here. Thank you.

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> Speaker B>Why don't you start off by telling everybody a little bit about yourself?

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> Tessia Watson>Yes, of course. So, my name is Tessia Watson. I'm french, um, originally from the kariev and from Africa, but born in France and raised in France. I currently live in London.

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> Tessia Watson>It's been. Yeah, it's been a couple of years now, 1313 years.

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> Tessia Watson>I have two boys, um, age eleven and nine at the moment.

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> Tessia Watson>So I'm, um, an author. I wrote the book called rejuvenated moms make happy kids.

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> Tessia Watson>And, um, the inspiration was to share my story as a mom, my journey, my experience, to help others in their journey, and to just emphasize the fact that as mothers, we often don't really look after ourselves. We tend to live up, uh, to live our life for our children and we forget all about ourselves.

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> Tessia Watson>So I, uh, just want to emphasize the importance to take care for yourself and to take time as well for yourself. And I strongly believe that when a mother is relaxed, well rested, happy, um, she becomes the optimal parent to raise, um, healthy and happy, striving children.

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> Speaker B>Well, you also created a bilingual childcare program, so kind of tell us about that and how that came about and what it's all about.

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> Tessia Watson>Yes, it aligns as well with that message, and it's for mother to have a little break while the children can, you know, be in a good hands, have fun, um, learn as well being exposed to another language, because it's bilingual. But it's the same idea. It's to provide, um, a safe setting for the children and it gives mother to have that time back for themselves.

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> Speaker B>Okay. And, um, what is the name of it?

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> Speaker B>And is it only local to you or how does it work?

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> Tessia Watson>It's in London. Um, so it's local, obviously. Um, but the idea of this creation came because I was myself in this situation when I needed to have a break, to have some time for myself, and I started to look around to find solution because I decided to be a stay at home mom.

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> Tessia Watson>It was a personal, uh, decision and a happy one, but being with the child 24/7 it's a lot. Um.

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> Tessia Watson>Uh, after a while, it was just too much for me. So that's when I decided to research and to find a child care setting. But the first, um, I would say my first desire was to be about to be a bit with myself, knowing as well that the toddler is well cared for and happy where he is.

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> Tessia Watson>So I couldn't find anything.

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> Tessia Watson>Because you have chaika settings, um, for children whom the parents, you know, they need to go back to work. So it's open every day, morning, you know, till evening, um, or afternoon.

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> Tessia Watson>But for people, parents, you know, who decide to care for their children for, you know, um, couple of years, there's nothing. Because when you start to look around and you bumped on this, you know, childcare setting, they ask you to register to sign up your child for, um, at least few days or, I don't know, four mornings. And if you took the decision, which I did, to be the main carer, you don't need the child to be, um, full time there, or even, you know, um, part time there, like, four mornings. You want to be as present as possible, but not 24/7 neither.

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> Tessia Watson>So it's all about finding that, you know, balance. And for me, it didn't work that type of setting because there obviously, customers are working parents, so the child is untrusted for longer, um, hours.

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> Tessia Watson>So that's why I did it, because I thought that, in a way, stay at home moms, we are forgotten. There's nothing out there for us in terms of childcare to just help us out. So if we don't do anything, then this will carry on. That's why I decided to create le Petit below.

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> Tessia Watson>It's in French. Um, I mean, you recognize the name, um, to just, you know, start doing something, you know, different and help mothers who took the same decision as me, um, to be stay, um, at home mom. Um.

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> Speaker B>Well, tell us about your book. Tell the listeners what they can expect when they read it, where they can get it, and why you decided to write it.

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> Tessia Watson>Yes. So in the book, um, I just, you know, share my story and experience, and I just, you know, give practical ways to have a different, um, motherhood journey.

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> Tessia Watson>Um, in my case, what I experienced is that I lack a lot of awareness on how I could manage or, um, overcome challenges.

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> Tessia Watson>The first one that I had and that's what I mentioned at the beginning of the book is the issue, um, with nights. When babies are really young, they don't sleep through the night. And it can be very, um, difficult because you lack such a significant amount of sleep.

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> Tessia Watson>And it's very difficult to operate or to function during the day. But in my case, obviously I was aware because that's the reputation that precedes, um, babies. But mine was not giving me 2 hours or 3 hours of break, uh, during the night, which is usually what happens. Um, as soon as he was fed and I was just trying to put him in his car, he was, um, crying straight away. And this was all night long. So you don't have this two hour, uh, break or three hour break. It just, it didn't happen for me like that. So I was just, you know, so wary and exhausted. But I never thought that a solution could be available out there. It never crossed my mind.

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> Tessia Watson>I never thought about it. And I just decided, you know, that it's the way to go about it. You just to have to endure what's going on. And, uh, if you cry every night because you don't understand, m that's okay. You cry every night because you don't understand, you suffer. And then at some point, at some point, sorry. It will pass.

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> Tessia Watson>Well, that's what I did, because I didn't know any better.

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> Tessia Watson>And a couple of years, I've met a good friend. She's a good friend. Now, uh, Mathilde, who she, the first day we've met, she just mentioned that she was a maternity nurse. So I said, okay, what's that? And she said, we're here to help parents, um, overnight, uh, when they're struggling with the baby.

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> Tessia Watson>And, uh, we just come to the house and just take care of the baby while they get some sleep.

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> Tessia Watson>Uh, I couldn't believe this. I was completely shocked. It seems like the world stopped at that moment.

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> Tessia Watson>And I was like, what?

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> Tessia Watson>And I just went back to the past and all the suffering and the idea of knowing now that this could have been avoided. I'm not saying that I will have hired someone from Monday to, um, send it, but I was really having a huge challenge here in terms of sleep.

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> Tessia Watson>And even just one night or two would have made such a big difference in my emotional state, physical state, and I was just not aware. But the service existed, and the service was out there. So it made me realize that the solution is always at our service. It's always out there. It's just the lack of, um, the ignorance, the lack of awareness that we don't even try to find it or to just, you know. Yeah. And so that's why I wanted to share that. That's why.

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> Tessia Watson>That's the first one of the first thing that I share in the book. I know that parents, mothers will have different challenges, maybe they won't have this one, but the principle remains the same.

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> Tessia Watson>The solution exists, it's out, uh, there. And if you put yourself in alignment with it, in harmony with that fact, that idea, then you will start to move into action and you will start to attract that solution to you.

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> Tessia Watson>It could have you, it could have taken me like 1 minute to just go on google and research. How can I have some help with the baby not sleeping, something like that. Whatever I could have put on the search, I would have solutions, few answers, but I didn't even bother doing that because for me, there was no way, no solution, nothing.

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> Tessia Watson>So that's something that I think is very important. Whatever you are going through, you have to get to that awareness that the solution exists. At least start thinking this way. And when you do, you start, you know, um, seeking that answer. And the answer is, ah, starts to come to you. So that was one of the main thing.

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> Tessia Watson>And I share lots of different experiences as well. I talk about rejuvenation practices. The book is called rejuvenated moms make happy kids. And why is that? Is because, as I was saying a bit earlier, we tend to forget about ourselves, about, you know, the thing that we love to do. And I think any mothers who are now currently, you know, either, you know, becoming a mother or have now, you know, babies, you know, um, they need to decide of what type of motherhood journey they want to experience.

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> Tessia Watson>And I think we don't even go to the thinking space, you know, of what I would like it, you know, to be. For me, we just go with the flow. We welcome the baby.

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> Tessia Watson>We do everything that, um, the midwives taught us about how to care for the baby, but nobody taught us how to care for ourselves. So it doesn't even come to our mind to just even think about that and because as well of the way we've been, you know, conditioned and. Yeah, and programmed, it's sometimes you just even feel guilty if you even, you know, care for yourself and entrust the baby to someone else, so. But what, you know, sometimes we fail to realize is that if you're not you as a mother, feeling good, feeling great, happy, you can't really, um, be a present and attentive mother all day long or through all the week, because you have needs that you have to meet and you meet them when you first acknowledge them.

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> Tessia Watson>So, uh, it's really important to understand that there is no guilt in taking care of yourself because it just makes you, um, a better parent for your children when you do that, when you care for yourself. I talk in the book about different rejuvenation practices, but it's all about what makes you feel new and old again.

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> Tessia Watson>So it could be anything that do that for you, that fuels you with positivity in any way.

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> Tessia Watson>So it will be different from a mother to another, and it's up to you, literally.

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> Tessia Watson>But I give example of what it could be, and I talk about rejuvenation for the body, um, for the mind and for the spirit. So you have so many different techniques and I just explained, for the body, it's very, um, common to think about exercising, walking out, but you have to consider as well a good amount of sleep. You have to consider eating well, uh, drinking plenty of water. Um, for the mind, I talk about prayer. I talk about. Because through prayer you can find comfort, you can find guidance as well. I think it's very valuable. And I talk about meditation as well, um, for the mind, I talk about reading a book that was something that I loved, um, doing, uh, because it just helps you to be focused on just one thing. And you don't have all these thoughts about your children, um, you know, on your mind all the time. So I think it's, um, a great way sometimes to escape a bit the chaos, you know, of your daily life and to think about something, like something, um, something else. Um, I talk, um, about, you know, going out as well, you know, with some friends. Um, and I share the story that I, I love to do lots of things before becoming a mother. And as soon as I became, I just stopped everything that I used to do. But those things that I used to do was part of me, was part of my identity. It's things that I literally enjoy doing. So it's just really a reminder for people to remain, for mothers to remain connected to their core self and who they truly are.

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> Tessia Watson>And no matter that beautiful decision that they've made to become a mother, um, you're not just a mother, you know, it's a new role that you have now, but you still, you know, a daughter, you still, you know, a friend. You still have dreams and hobbies and you shouldn't, you know, put all of this aside and just leave for your children. Children are obviously learning through, you know, through what they see what they experience through imitation and showing a child, you know, that you care for yourself, that, you know, you go for your dreams while, you know, being there for them, loving them, um, having fun with them. It's just the greatest example you can give to your children.

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> Speaker B>Tell us about any upcoming projects that you're working on, that people need to know about.

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> Tessia Watson>So at the moment, the most important thing that is for me is to really get the message out there as much as possible.

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> Tessia Watson>Make, uh, sure that there is an increase in awareness. Um, so I'm currently really focusing my time on this at the moment.

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> Speaker B>So at your website or your contact info so people can keep up with everything that you're up to?

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> Tessia Watson>Yes, definitely. So they can, um, reach me at tesiawatson, uh.com. So this is my website and they can get a copy of rejuvenated mobs, make applicates on, um, Amazon.

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> Speaker B>Okay, close us out with some final thoughts. Maybe if that was something I forgot to talk about that you would like to touch on or just any final thoughts you have for the listeners?

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> Tessia Watson>Yes, I think, um, one of the most valuable lesson I've learned through my journey as a mother is to listen more to my intuition.

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> Tessia Watson>And I think that's something that I would love to just, you know, remind listeners, um, that you will have so many people telling you what to do and what not to do, but at the end do of the day, you are the one knowing yourself better and knowing your baby, your child better.

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> Tessia Watson>So listen as well, uh, to your heart and what your inner voice is telling you, because it's telling you what is right or what is the direction you need to take.

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> Tessia Watson>That's what I want to say.

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> Speaker B>All right, ladies and gentlemen, tasiawashi, uh, watson.com tasiawatson.com. Be sure to check out everything that she's up to. If you know of any struggling parents or struggling mothers. Follow rate review share this episode to as many people as possible. If you have any guests or suggestion topics, see Jackson 10 two ah net is the place to send them. Thank you for listening and supporting the show. And Tasia, uh, thank you for joining us and sharing this information with my listeners.

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> Tessia Watson>Thank you so much. Very grateful for the space.

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> Speaker A>For more information on the Living the Dream podcast, visit www.djcurvefball.com.

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> Speaker A>Until next time, stay focused on living the dream.

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> Speaker B>Dream.

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> Speaker B>Um.