Aug. 12, 2025
Embracing Love: Danielle Bernock's Mission to Heal Through Media
Send us a text In this inspiring episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we are joined by Danielle Bernock, an author, coach, and speaker who founded Four F Media to promote love and healing through various forms of media. Danielle shares her transformative journey from overcoming childhood trauma to empowering others through her writing and coaching. She discusses her first book, "Emerging with Wings," and the significance of her four pillars: faith, family, friends, and freedom. As we d...
In this inspiring episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we are joined by Danielle Bernock, an author, coach, and speaker who founded Four F Media to promote love and healing through various forms of media. Danielle shares her transformative journey from overcoming childhood trauma to empowering others through her writing and coaching. She discusses her first book, "Emerging with Wings," and the significance of her four pillars: faith, family, friends, and freedom. As we delve into the complexities of trauma, Danielle explains the difference between childhood and adult trauma, the impact of church hurt, and the importance of validating personal trauma for healing. With her heartfelt approach, Danielle emphasizes that everyone deserves love and encourages listeners to embrace their value. Tune in to discover how Danielle’s insights and resources can help you on your healing journey and remind you that you are loved and matter.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Welcome to the Living the Dream podcast with Curveball. if you believe you can achieve.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Welcome to the Living the Dream with Curveball podcast, a show where I interview guests that teach, motivate, and inspire. Today, I am joined by author, coach, and speaker Danielle Bernhoff.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Danielle founded For F Media in 2014, and what For F Media does is it promotes love, and interpersonal healing through the power of the love that heals using all forms of media. So we're going to be talking to Danielle about 4F Media, her books, and everything else that she's up to. So, Danielle, thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to join me.
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> Danielle Bernock>It's a pleasure. Thank you for having me.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Why don't you start off by telling everybody a little bit about yourself?
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> Danielle Bernock>Oh, I am, married.
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> Danielle Bernock>I've been married for 45 years. I have two adult children and six living grandchildren. I have been doing what I'm doing for about 12 years, and it all started with my first book, Emerging with Wings.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>So tell us about 4F media.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>You know, kind of explain what the 4F's were and why you decided to found it.
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> Danielle Bernock>Oh, that came about because of that first book, Emerging with Wings. When I went to write my story, I discovered that if I wanted it to be traditionally published, they would be buying it, which would give them the right to change it. I was adverse to that. It's my story. I fought to become the person I am, and I didn't want anyone changing my story. So I realized I was going to have to publish it myself. And I didn't want to publish it under my name. I didn't want to do any less than excellent job. So 4F Media became my imprint. I founded 4F Media to publish that first book. The 4F's stand for faith. Faith, Family, friends, and freedom. Those are the four pillars that I work from, with, with, with all I do.
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> Danielle Bernock>They are the four things that matter most to me.
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> Danielle Bernock>And everything I, do revolves around those in some capacity. So I founded that to publish that first book, and that's what led me into becoming a coach and a speaker, was because that book had an effect on people that really did help them. And I wasn't quite sure how far 4F media would go. In the beginning, I wanted to make room for whatever God would have for me in my journey, and I didn't want to limit it by just a book.
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> Danielle Bernock>And so media, a book is a form of media.
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> Danielle Bernock>But I've done freelance writing. I had a podcast for three seasons. I've been published in anthologies. I have five books of my own. I have a YouTube channel. I've been on over 85 podcasts. And so whatever way of media I can get it out there, I look for the way to promote that inner healing and the message of love, that people are loved, they deserve love and they have value. I became that lady on the Internet who loves you in 2020. And that's something that I promote on every form of media I can find as well. Because people need to know that they are loved.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, tell us about that podcast, you know, so people can go check out those three seasons and also talk about your YouTube channel.
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> Danielle Bernock>Well, my YouTube channels has a lot of different things. Has all of my episodes from the podcast on it as well. But I started that with a lot of lives and just little encouragement things that I have. So I have a lot of short encouraging messages on my YouTube channel. I add to it from time to time. I don't have a schedule on it anymore.
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> Danielle Bernock>My podcast was called Victorious Souls Podcast. I published over 300 episodes in three seasons and interviewed a number of people, like 120, 150 something like that. Don't remember the exact number anymore, sharing their stories of how they had overcome various kinds of trauma or difficulty in their life. So it's ah, a playlist on my YouTube channel. You can find all of the videos because all of the episodes on my podcast with interviews are all videos. Almost every episode is a video. So there are a couple that are just audio that I did myself, but the majority of them are videos. You can either listen to Victoria Soul's podcast, it's still out there. I didn't take it down but I brought it to a conclusion at the end of 2023. But I kept it there because it's still good to visit those stories because stories move us.
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> Danielle Bernock>I interviewed these people and had them share their stories because we need to have our voice sharing our story. And as we share our stories with other people, it helps them feel validated, encouraged and motivated and inspired.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well that's, that's exactly why I wanted you to talk about it so people can go check out those stories.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>I also would like like people to check out the viral quote that went viral in your books. So talk about that quote and how it felt for that to go viral.
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> Danielle Bernock>It was surprising. I didn't expect that.
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> Danielle Bernock>As I said, I self published my book so I didn't have a big media thing where I was at at the beginning of my journey. I didn't do a book launch or anything like that. So for my first book to become a number one bestseller for a short period of time and for that to go viral was very surprising to me. But it speaks to how it resonates with people, that trauma is personal. Those three words changed my life to learn that trauma was personal because people tend to compare their traumas with other people and then they diminish it and they make it less. And they, they won't do anything about it because they don't think it matters. It's. It's not a big deal.
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> Danielle Bernock>But the quote, the quote goes, trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated.
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> Danielle Bernock>When it is ignored or invalidated, the silent screams continue internally, heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams, healing can begin. That was an epiphany to me in my healing journey to recognize it.
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> Danielle Bernock>Trauma is personal and how it has to be validated. If it's not validated, healing will never come. You pretend it's not there or you make it less than the truth. It will never go away. It will go sepsis underground because trauma kills people. But if you will take ownership of that pain, validate it, enter into it yourself, or, get a coach or a counselor, a friend, someone to enter that with you. Because we don't do life alone and we need to not go through healing alone either. But there's lots of different ways you can invite people into your journey however it fits you. There's no one size fits all.
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> Danielle Bernock>Because just like trauma is personal, healing is personal. And I discovered that quote going viral just by accident because I signed up for this thing where I would get emails about, when that quote was published somewhere, when my book was published somewhere for a short time.
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> Danielle Bernock>So I started getting all these emails about it and I would find graphics made with that quote on it. I found that quote translated into different languages.
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> Danielle Bernock>I found it in people's PowerPoint presentations and people's pamphlets on a plethora of websites. And people have written to me, asked, can I put that in my book? And then they've sent me a copy of their book with, with it.
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> Danielle Bernock>And it's not so much about it being viral and that being anything that I take credit for. It's not about that. What it is about is the truth that trauma is personal. And for people to take ownership of that and then to take ownership of their healing because it matters.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, let's talk a little bit more about trauma. What is your definition of trauma. And how did you get over the fear of talking about it?
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> Danielle Bernock>Well, trauma is not what most people think.
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> Danielle Bernock>People tend to think that trauma is something that happened. But trauma is a wound on the inside of a human being in their psyche and in their brain, in their spirit, their soul, and even in their body. There's a book out there called the body keeps the score. That's true. Trauma is a wound. It's an involuntary wound. And oftentimes, maybe all the time, But I can't speak for everyone. Shame comes on its heels, which causes a person to recoil and want to hide.
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> Danielle Bernock>But shame has to be obliterated, because a person who has suffered trauma is never at fault for that trauma.
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> Danielle Bernock>Never. I don't care if they made a bad decision putting them in a situation. Trauma is an involuntary wound on the inside of a person. What happens on the outside of the person is called a trauma exposure.
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> Danielle Bernock>They've been exposed to a situation that could cause trauma. But trauma is personal. Two people can go through the exact same thing at the exact same time and come out completely different.
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> Danielle Bernock>So trauma is that wound. And so we have to address that wound and go into that pain and heal that so that a person can emerge healthy again and get free from that pain and the lies and the torment that comes along with it and the shame. Because shame is never good. And no one ought to live in shame. They need to get free of the shame.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, let's. Let's talk about the difference between childhood trauma and adult trauma.
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> Danielle Bernock>Yes, that is a big difference. It's not just where it is on the timeline. People might think that, well, it's when you're adult and when you're a child.
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> Danielle Bernock>That is true, but that is not all.
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> Danielle Bernock>Childhood trauma is also called developmental trauma.
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> Danielle Bernock>The child is developing, and so a wound takes place while something is incomplete. An illustration I like to use is, say you're making yourself some cupcakes, and you make your batter and you put it in those little paper cups in your cupcake tin. And now you take your cupcake tin and you're going to put it in the oven. But oops, you hit the side of the oven and you drop the tray on the floor. What happens to that cupcake, batter and that were in the cups? What does that look like? Well, there might be some that are just inside the tin and they're fine. There might be one that fell off and, you know, it's splattered upside down, and there's no getting that back. And another one, it might be all on the tray or mixed in with another one. But it's a big mess, and you can clean it up, but it's never going to be the same as what you started.
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> Danielle Bernock>On the other hand, an adult, that's a. That was a picture of childhood trauma. An adult.
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> Danielle Bernock>And this is not a perfect illustration either. So don't think this is perfect. It's just a way to wrap our head around it. Let's say you did get those cupcakes in the oven, and then the dinger goes off, and you go to pull them out of the oven because you're so excited to eat your cupcakes, but you forgot your oven mitts. So you grab that tray and you drop it on the floor because you know you just burned your hands because you. You didn't use your oven mitts. What do those cupcakes look like? Well, some might be completely fine. One might have fallen out, rolled across the room. One might have crumbled some crumbs out of it. Another one maybe broke up, but it's still in the thing. But the picture of those is vastly different than uncooked cupcakes.
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> Danielle Bernock>As I said, it's not a perfect illustration, but it's a little bit of a way to help us understand one is developmental and one happens later.
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> Danielle Bernock>Both are trauma.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, is it possible for people to experience trauma and not. Not realize that they have experienced trauma?
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> Danielle Bernock>Absolutely. I discovered that because it happened to me, and I've read articles about it called hidden trauma, and people come up with other ways of how to do that. That's part of my why is to expose what emotional trauma is so that the people who have been silently wounded can heal.
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> Danielle Bernock>Because trauma is a wound.
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> Danielle Bernock>It's not an incident. And as I read in that quote, we have to validate it. But if we diminish it, then it goes underground and then it erupts in, trauma responses. That, that's how we identify if we have trauma is through trauma responses, or side effects, as I like to call them, because we understand that terminology better. And I have a assessment that I offer at my website. Free assessment, 30 questions. It's a lot of questions to see how much is your childhood affecting you now?
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> Danielle Bernock>It's 30 different ways that it manifests in a person's life. for example, like passive aggressive is a trauma response.
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> Danielle Bernock>It's not always because of trauma, but it is one of the ways that trauma manifests. Also, anger issues, people who cannot control their temper. Oftentimes that is a side effect of trauma. And at one time. I like to share how at one time I answered all 30 of those questions in the positive that those were side effects in my life. And I share that not to make anyone feel sorry for me, but to highlight hope. Because at one time I answered yes to all of them, but I no longer do. So I have healed, and those things are not affecting me like they once did. So a person can get healed of them.
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> Danielle Bernock>But if someone wants to know if they have trauma, they could take that assessment and find out. Well, how much? Oh, five questions. Two questions. Oh, that's not because of that, but they could find out. I even have articles on my website. They could do a search on my website and educate thems to find out. W. Is this.
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> Danielle Bernock>Is this because of something that happened in my childhood?
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> Danielle Bernock>Because oftentimes people will say, oh, it's just how I am. It's just my personality.
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> Danielle Bernock>But it's not always.
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> Danielle Bernock>Oftentimes it has a cause. And if you don't like what's happening in your life, you can do something about it, and I encourage you to do so.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, I know I was looking through your bio and you talk about church hurt. So explain to the listeners the definition of church hurt and how that can affect someone's faith.
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> Danielle Bernock>I have an article on my website about the and it's called these three are not the same because there's church hurt, there's also spiritual trauma, and there's also religious trauma. And those are three different things. And I suffered from all three of those.
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> Danielle Bernock>Church hurt is when it takes place within the context of relationship, and it affects how you relate with the body of Christ, how it relates with people in the church, lack of trust or someone, you know offended you in some way. And there are. There's a big sliding scale of church or of, people who, you know, maybe they are making a big deal out of nothing.
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> Danielle Bernock>But then there are those that it is a really big deal and you can't diminish it. So church that affects you relationally with the body of Christ, whereas spiritual trauma, that affects you in your spirit, of who you are and your identity, where you have problems with your existence, you question your very existence and how you relate to having life on planet Earth and your relationship with God. And then religious trauma affects the manners in which people practice religion, with authoritarianism and legalism and things like that, where people can get PTSD from that and certain things can trigger them. So can't go into depth too much about it. As I said, I have a whole article about It. That explains the difference between those three. But if you have an issue with church, it could be any one of those three. I invite you go and read that article, locate where you're at. and if you want some help, reach out to me.
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> Danielle Bernock>I'd love to help you.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, you mentioned the, ptsd.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>You have a phrase called C ptsd. So explain to the listeners what that is.
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> Danielle Bernock>See, PTSD is complex ptsd. PTSD is a big deal, but it is caused by a single event. That's not to diminish it. It's like that event that wounding was a deep enough wounding from one event to cause ptsd.
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> Danielle Bernock>Cptsd. Complex PTSD is caused by multiple events, a variety events, sometimes successive events, one thing after another. And you have all the side effects of ptsd, but then some more after that that affect you in your everyday life all the time of how you view yourself, how you view other people.
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> Danielle Bernock>Whereas, ptsd, there's triggers and nightmares and things like that. Those are not 24 7. They come and go at will. And.
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> Danielle Bernock>But dealing with the two of them is different. Complex PTSD affects the person more like a 247 kind of thing.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, you. You labeled yourself the lady on the Internet who loves you. You know, kind of explain that and why and how you came up with that.
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> Danielle Bernock>That started just before the pandemic, when the pandemic wasn't a pandemic yet, and it was just over in China and we were getting the rumblings of it. I could feel the fear in the air.
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> Danielle Bernock>I could feel it coming as I'm empathic. I've healed of cpsd. I've healed of all three of those kind of traumas in the church.
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> Danielle Bernock>And I could feel the fear. And I was concerned about people already knowing that people need to know their love, because I came from a background not believing I was loved or that I had any value. And I was already dealing with that to encourage people that they were loved and that they mattered. But with this wave of fear, I felt. I felt compelled that I need to do something. I need to tell people that. That they're loved. I. I need to show up. And I did it very awkwardly at the beginning. I was doing Facebook lives and, my. On my YouTube channel and showing up just, you know, I. I just want to tell you that. That I love you. I'm, This lady here, I. I'm just. I'm going to show up to tell you I love you. And I stumbled my way into it, till one day, I don't know what day exactly it was, but it's like I coined the phrase, I am, that lady on the Internet who loves you. And I turned it into a hashtag.
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> Danielle Bernock>I took ownership of it. I showed up every day during Shelter In Place, and I did a video every single day of Shelter In Place to show up and tell people that I loved them and to help them walk through that. That place. So I have a playlist on my YouTube channel of every day of Shelter In Place. And I committed to doing that during the shutdown.
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> Danielle Bernock>Little did I know that here in Michigan, where I'm at, we were shut down for 70 days.
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> Danielle Bernock>So I did a video every day for 70 days showing up, telling people that I love them because people need to know that they are loved. And I am, that lady on the Internet who loves you. And I've been challenged by people.
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> Danielle Bernock>How can you tell me you love me? You don't know me.
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> Danielle Bernock>I said I love you because I have chosen to love you. Love is something you choose to do. I don't have to know you to love you. I love you because you are worthy of love. Every person on the planet is worthy of love.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Well, let's talk about mental and emotional health. Are. Are those, the same things? you know, the same things. Why. Why not?
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> Danielle Bernock>No, they are not. The easy answer is no, But I discovered to my sorrow that Google thinks so.
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> Danielle Bernock>If you Google emotional health, you will get articles and things about mental health, but your brain is not your heart, and your mind is not your emotions.
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> Danielle Bernock>Mental health and emotional health are tied to one another. They are connected to one another.
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> Danielle Bernock>They work with one another or fight with one another, but they are not the same thing. They are vastly different from one another.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Okay, you. You call yourself a former emotional basket case, so explain to listeners, you know, why you label yourself as that.
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> Danielle Bernock>I did that just starting last year after rereading my book Emerging with Wings, because I called myself that in the book. Just telling my story. And, from time to time, I struggle with how to put things into words with people because I'm a simplifier. And trauma is a psychological thing. And there's therapists out there, they use all the big words and the jargon of, regulation and attachment and all the different jargon things. And I try to stay away from the jargon to simplify.
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> Danielle Bernock>You know, I don't want to say I had problems regulating my emotions. I didn't even know that terminology then. It was not even a thing.
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> Danielle Bernock>So I sometimes will just slip into what is just an emotional way to say that. When I say that, you hear it, I put it into chat GBT and chat GPT wanted to correct me. So that's not very kind. It's like, well, it's what I was.
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> Danielle Bernock>And I'm not calling anyone else that. It's what I was. And what it means is I had no control over my emotions. I didn't know what my emotions were. I didn't know how to control them. They just would carry me away down the river on a whitewater rafting trip, and I would find myself places oftentimes.
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> Danielle Bernock>So it is a very colorful way of putting how screwed up I was in my emotions. I had no idea how to operate my emotions. And I like to share that terminology because it is so visual, because I'm not an emotional basket case anymore. Again, for the story of hope. Wherever you find yourself in your journey, whatever you got going on inside of you, whoever you are listening, whatever you got going on, there is hope. If you will deal with what's going on, there is hope. And you can get whole.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Okay, well, you mentioned earlier, during the interview that you wrote five books. So talk to the listeners about those books. Let us know what we can expect when we read them and where we can get them.
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> Danielle Bernock>Well, you can get four of them on Amazon.
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> Danielle Bernock>The first one is Emerging with Wings. It's available in paperback and Kindle. That's my story of getting free from childhood trauma and finding my value. But I wrote it like a love story.
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> Danielle Bernock>I have read some books on trauma and have been sad about certain parts because I can't unread them. You won't go through my book and wish you didn't read parts of it because it is written to serve the. The reader.
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> Danielle Bernock>And I talk to the reader in my books. It's how I write.
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> Danielle Bernock>Also, I talk to the reader in my books because it's about the reader. It's not about my journey. It's about the reader. my second book is A Bird Named Pain. I think it was second. After a while, forget what order they were in. That is just a short allegory. It's available on Kindle and Audible. It's a short story.
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> Danielle Bernock>It's a short story. I say that again because someone wrote me a review saying there that it was short. And I'm like, well, I said it was short. But it's an allegory of, how to deal with the complex emotions when you have a loved one with Alzheimer's. And it's an allegory to visually take you through emotionally dealing with that.
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> Danielle Bernock>Because it is a horrific thing to, walk through that. And anyone listening, you have a loved one, the Alzheimer's and I feel for you and I'm sorry for your pain. Then I have one called Love's Manifesto, available in PDF and audio. I give it away at my website for free. You cannot buy it. It is only available for free at my website.
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> Danielle Bernock>It is what is love, why we don't believe it, and what it takes to convince us. And then I have. Because you matter.
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> Danielle Bernock>How to take ownership of your life so you can really live. And it's how to reclaim the different areas of your life when you've been through something that tried to take your life away from you in some capacity.
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> Danielle Bernock>How to take ownership of your emotions, of your mind, of your mess, of your pain, of your purpose, of your courage and the difference between ownership and responsibility.
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> Danielle Bernock>But because we love stories, I'm not going to just tell you how to do this. That would be way too boring.
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> Danielle Bernock>So in between all of the chapters, there is a story where I interviewed 10 different people and what they went through to take ownership of their life. I interviewed five men, five women, old, young, different nationalities and to get a, a picture of a lot of people to help you lift your eyes and include yourself. And in that story, that's available in paperback, Kindle and Audible. And then my newest one is Taco Bout your value.
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> Danielle Bernock>It's an activity book I created with my grandson Gideon. And it came about because he's an artist and he drew pages and pages of tacos doing all kinds of things, dancing and singing and fixing cars. And they were from all different countries and they were just having a great time. But then on one page there was one burrito and that one burrito was upset. And I'm Gideon, what is wrong with this taco? And he said he's upset because he's not.
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> Danielle Bernock>What's up? What's wrong with this burrito?
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> Danielle Bernock>Excuse me? And he said he's upset because he's not a taco. And I about started to cry because a second leading cause of death in children aged 10 to 14 is suicide with bullies and the trauma that's rampant in our world.
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> Danielle Bernock>And I said, gideon, we have to, we have to do something with this. We need to create a book of some sort.
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> Danielle Bernock>And it turned into an activity book, fun to feed your self esteem. So there's over a hundred different activities.
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> Danielle Bernock>There's stories and coloring pages and Mad Libs and Fill in the blanks and mazes and all kinds of things to help children feed their self esteem, but also talk about it with their parents or their caregiver, whoever that they they live with to encourage them to be stronger on the inside for whatever life dishes out to them on the outside. And my grandson created all the characters in the book and the font. The main character is Gary the Taco with his sidekick Mr. Squibbles the cat burrito. And Mr. M. Squibbles thought he didn't have any value like that one burrito on his pages.
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> Danielle Bernock>But he met Gary and Gary said, no, you have value. He instilled inherent value into him. That's value you have just because you exist. And now they're best friends and they travel the galaxy making friends and instilling value into people. So those are my five books that I have. You can get all of them but the one on Amazon. The other one you can get on my website, but you can find all of them on my website@DanielleBurnock.com.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>All right, well tell us about any upcoming projects that you're working on that listeners need to be aware of.
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> Danielle Bernock>Well, I have another book rumbling around inside of me. I, I'm, I've started it a couple of times and I'm hopeful that that's going to be coming up. I'm excited about going to a conference for Christian creatives coming up here soon.
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> Danielle Bernock>And I created a brand new playbook that I'm offering at my website. It's brand new, called Exploring Art Therapy. I am not a licensed art therapist, so that's why it's exploring and to help people look into the power of art. Because art is more than just coloring or painting. Art comes in many forms from cooking, baking, dancing, singing, all different kinds of art forms to help people to explore how they can heal from whatever's going on in their life. Trauma is personal, so is healing. And art can be a great thing to tap into. So that's something new that I've just started to get into a little bit and I'm getting hopeful for that next book. I, I don't have anything set in stone yet, but I'm starting to get excited about it, so I feel like it will be coming eventually.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>So your website is Danielle burn, off barnock.com Danielle burnock.com Yes, it's B.
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> Danielle Bernock>E R N O C K.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Close us out with some final thoughts.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Maybe if that was something I forgot to talk about that you would like to touch on or any final thoughts you have for the listeners.
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> Danielle Bernock>no, I didn't forget about anything. I just love to show up and tell people that they matter. So you who are listening, I want to take this time. If no one's told you today how much you matter, you matter. If no one has told you today you are loved, I want to tell you you are loved. And if you need help internalizing that, I would, love to come alongside you and help you.
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> Danielle Bernock>But I understand we live in a time when we have a trust deficit in our world. So on my website I have a tab free resources.
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> Danielle Bernock>Go there, grab what suits you and go through that feed on that. You can see me, you can hear me, you can see if. Maybe I, maybe, maybe I might like to work with this later. Not quite sure.
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> Danielle Bernock>So devour all my free stuff. I have some short courses too if you want to dabble in that before. But I do offer a free 15 minute discovery where we can sit and talk and see if you'd like to work with me. Because I would love to help you because I have been that emotional basket case and I am not anymore. And I love helping people get free from their past, from their pain, from things that are holding them back because there's greatness inside of every single person and I want to help people to realize that. And using my self process, I did forget to bring that up, so thank you, Curtis. That kind of circled around there. My process that I use with my clients is called self. It's S E L F stands for see, expose, love and free. That's a cycle. I take people through to cycle down to the bottom to get to the bottom of their issues so they can emerge free. With the wings. Like my first book, Emerging Free is about the wings is about freedom. Freedom from the things that want to drag you down. And see is about awareness. Exposing is about getting to the bottom of it. And then loving is about loving yourself into courageous action and comforting yourself.
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> Danielle Bernock>And then F is the free. That's the action step. And we do that cycle by cycle, by cycle, little by little. We do one thing at a time because that's all we can do at a time is one thing. Multitasking is not a thing. It's switch tasking. So one thing at a time. And I would love to come alongside you and help you if you would like that or just get all my free stuff because I just want you to have your best life because I love you.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>Ladies and gentlemen. To do so and get Danielle's help, go to danielleburnock.com follow Rate Review Share this episode to as many people as possible. Follow us on your favorite podcast platform. Visit www.craveball337.com for more information on the Living the Dream with Curveball podcast. Thank you all for listening and supporting the show. And Danielle, thank you for all that you do. And thank you for joining me.
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> Danielle Bernock>Thank you.
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> Curtis Jackson (also known as DJ Curveball)>For more information on the Living the Dream with Curveball Podcast, visit www.craveball337.com until next time, keep Living the Dream.
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