The Long Bus

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot m a production of I Heart Radio. Hi. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to Jay dot Ilda Podcasts. I'm sitting here. You know who I'm with. I'm with Agea Graydon, Dan's luck. Hey, Hey, Elahs. St. Clair, you already here, a saint, a saint, a saint. Let's just stas St. Center has and the looks the love sending down. Listen, we all in here. We're all in here. We don't we've learned some things, Okay, this is what this is what we game is there with you? We didn't learn some things. I know we've been you know, at some point we've been talking about the Generation Z and how fantastic you know you all are much love to you, but there's still some ship did You're gonna need to know. Maybe you don't know, but hey, baby, here we go. And for anybody else and all the other generations that may not have been paying attention, this is your feelings. You you'll feel this, yo. This is gonna be a health edition. Okay, so prepare Number one, you're good. Knees are not guaranteed, Okay, Okay, years and years of high heel shoes o prince, working in the high heel shoes, dancing in the high hills shoes, working all day, then going to a party after so cute, which half months is just popping ling all strong and stuff. Listen, um, whenever you get an opportunity to take those shoes off, I'm talking about for longevity's sake, you can look and juice off. Okay, take them off in the car, take them off under the under the table, take them off in the seat at the Grammys, wherever you are. Get those shoes off, because those wis, those good knees are not guaranteed. They're not. I'm trying to figure out what happened with them with the men, Like why they need so bad? I mean from sports, not only being played sports, what is that? What's what is it? Because you don't not a lot a lot of maybe being weight and being inactive. Yeah, like the needs can't really take that extra weight that you're putting on them. But the belly is out to this way. Then the knees is like, come on, need to help help help, you know, I think, wow, I think my knees are I don't have a penis, but my knees are mad because I call myself putting on this mahell your weight, getting ready to play Mahalia Jackson now, and uh it's not it's not working now. I don't. I can't. I can't keep this up. I can't do it. I mean patting, that's what, because it's supposed to be to me. I mean you certain level of suffering that goes alone at this thing, the commitment of it all. I was care for it, but I died handing them for it. No more. My niece said, listen, Jill, you are not hellier today. You're gonna have to get your life together because I can't. I can't do it. I will figure something else out, because age can't just be getting weight just for I'm sorry, but you can't. I can't make it. I can't make it like in between having you know, in between the hell you're coming, I've got two other things to shoot, you know, you know? Yeah, ah well, I think I think I'm I'm getting a little bit weirded out, just because every you know, every five six years, a new something comes out that tells you what is healthy, how you lose weight, how you maintain your health. Just to say the other I mean, we we talked about generation. We didn't watch things progressed from Bahamian diet to slim Fast, the first thing with all where you eliminate your carbs and it's all a meat you eat atkins Atkins to herbal Life and then Keto now and you got Now they're ditching Keto for something else. Don't get about paleo. Then we got then then at one point it's like, okay, then you be a vegetarian, but there's like, well no, then you want to be a vaga. But then it's like if you're vegan, then you still don't want to eat process food. And then we get all the way back to the beginning where it's like, okay, just eat greens and vegetables. Then some people say it's no doctor Saby didn't know, not doctor Saby. Then now it's whomever. And I will have to say that even though I feel like I have a strong sense of basic health, I have in the past gotten a little bit turned around in terms of like, okay, so what is the right thing to do? Like what are we supposed to do? And for me, I just can't lie to you. Some things are just tried and true, gonna slow me down sugar, processed food, my my baby, my love fry food. I thought you're going to say bread, Oh bread, it's so cool. Potatoes potatoes, goodness. See, we we ate yams primarily. You know, if we can we can find the love for a yam. My sister mixed together a yam and a potato mash, and you know, it's it's less potato, but you know, it feels like you're getting all the potatoes you want. And then of course the next egg we have to, you know, make a potato pancake out of the yam and the potato mixed. But you know, here we go, sugar telling us a message and the song I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you this. This is what worked for me in the past. It was not the easiest thing to do, but it definitely worked. I lost a lot of weight. I lost like sixty pounds one. I was working out a lot. I lived in California and I rode my bike upwards. I would say up to twelve miles a day. I wrote a lot with with Scott Parker. Shout out to Scott park I love you yo. Um. That was that was a lot of fun. I realized I have to have fun things to do, like playing football or you know, I'm not really a runner, but I do love riding my bike like I do so much. That's a good thing for me. Dr Diadamo's eat right for your blood type. Oh see, I've heard about this heart this okay, which is is sitting there in my library. It's it's an app damn it on your deli. You know how hard it is. Are you serious? It's hard to promise you. You would think that your doctor just has it on. No no, no no no. If you gotta go through your primary care doctor and you gotta go ask. But it's a whole process. It's not just are you serious. To this day, I still don't know. I'm gonna find out dogs. This is the year. Well, you know, I was at the time when I guess, yeah, when I found my mother knew my blood type. But I was dealing with Dr Frederick Burton in Philadelphia. Dr Burton is a m D. But he's also a holistic doctor, and he focuses his his practice on holistic medicine. So you know, if you're if you're going to Dr Burton in Philadelphia on City Line Avenue, you'll get a blood test, and he's gonna go through everything, everything and whatever you think, you know, any anything you could think of, he's gonna go look for it. And that's the difference between holistic searching and your regular m d s. They're looking for specific things and not everything. They're looking for rabies. You might have got bit by a dog, by a kid like my mom, Yeah you told me, but you told us about this that he yes found in her system. She was in her late forties and she was bit by a dog when she was six, you know. So there's that the suppression business that happens with modern medicine, not necessarily healing. So you know he's going through find yourself, a holistic doctor, where is anything you can share with us? Because I'm so interested and like what he found out about you, about me weight, you're supposed to remember, well, that is not specifically what we were looking for at the time. Um, I was trying to find out how to regulate my cycle because I just it would disappear for months or months, you know, sometimes a year or two, Like I just was like what do I do? We never actually came to a It was like get on birth control pills, which was the initial reaction, not from him, the from other doctors. It was like, we'll just get on birth control pills to regulate your cycle with him. God, let's see, um, there was babies in my system? How about that? Because I was yeah, yeah, I was like, oh wow, that's what I'm not sure it just might be present, it's just there. But it makes sense because obviously, even as we all know that there are some things that are genetic that you can't get from you know, your parents, you know things and you're you know certain I like to call them switches. Uh. You know, there's certain switches you get born with, and depending on how you live your life and what happens to you, something can flip that switch on, you know what I'm saying. So there's something you know, so you can it's good to have some sort of sense of what those switches might be. I mean, that's that's pretty amazing. You know. I'm curious, like um, and not not to get like too deep in your binnass, but like, is that something that's that's expensive or is that something that that people might be able to like wrap their minds around in terms of like the average person be able to go do an afford. It was years ago when I was looking for was cancer. We have a history of cancer in my family, so I was like trying to see was there any any glimpse hint idea so that I could attack it rather than it attacked me. And at the time, he didn't find any cancer my system. Praise God. I'm so grateful for that. Um. But it's time to visit him again and go through the whole thing. It's been years and it's it's definitely time to see him again. You know, insurance covered it. It was a hundred and seventy eight dollars. Yes, yes, it was very good. I wouldn't I wouldn't even assume that insurance will cover anything that he's doing holistically. You know, anything that your holistic doctors doing. They're not covering anything like that, you know. Yeah, yeah, As you know, modern medicines is there to suppress symptoms, not to heal them or deal with them in any way, shape or form, because sometimes suppression is the answer, because you don't want something that's sitting around in your body to pop up, Like you said, something that's old in there, you don't want it to pop up, or whatever the case. May be. But yeah, yo, have you guys, either of you guys, because you are artists and whatnot, have any of y'all done like the body sculpting detoxifying stuff? I would like to I heard that the ice thing, this is all you know. I heard that the cool sculpting hurts like it's painful. Yeah, I will try. I heard it was slightly painful. Shoutouts to the homie our brobs. You don't care. She did like at least three sessions of it. She is like, it might have hurt, this is slightly but she she did see the results. But you just have to be consistent. Now, what is this though, Because I'm just a regular negro, I don't know what y'all even talking about. What it's about sculpting the way, it's a lot of different. So cool sculpting is when they they to my now you even made me look us up officially, but they should freeze. We freeze the fact. Oh and then you have to guess they have to drink a lot of water to to push it out of your system. Yeah, a lot of places, it's a it's a lot of centers across the country that just coool sculpting I'm just gonna tell you real quick how it works. The proven science is FDA clear non invasive body contouring technology eliminates up to treated fat cells for good in nine different areas targets stufforn fat freeze is twice stubborn fat at once. So that's what it does. It freezes back. There are many ways, so there's also a heat way. I hate that my references. Y'all these show stuff and you saw. Of course, you're learn about it when you learned about it from you, kind of like I learned that you can also get which she did a procedure which they melt atatich was equal to like ten thousand sit ups. However, what I was asking about was a more holistic thing that I've been watching Melissa Ford do on Instagram where she goes to like a detoxifying center. And I've actually heard about this years ago, where you go declassifying tents and you go through a series of massages, progressive massages of them, like moving the stuff around. Yeah, like I know what that is. I'm interested. I want to Can you imagine I just would like to have a month of just doing stuff, yeah, on a daily basis, Like, oh, it's time. Like I've always seen that in the movies where people go to some svive somewhere and then oh man, it's time for your spatial Oh cool, you know you're gonna get a facial Oh, I have assigned for your massage. Okay, you can get a massage like Jju in Atlanta. They have the Yoni Jju in Atlanta. Let's talk Yoni. Yeah, the Yoni steam is pretty awesome. I've done it a couple of times and I felt wonderful, like and for them, I felt wonderful. I was like so fashion locally, it was wonderful. Put in the egg inside right, well, no, that you don't have to put anything inside yourself. It's uh, it's t basically and you're yeah, you're sitting towel or something. You can do these things from home as well. I believe they sell them in um in Whole Foods, you know. But you can also look it up and buy the tea and put it together yourself so that you can have a whole bunch of it for whenever you'd like to. But it was actually a really really pleasant experience and I would like to do that again. That was not loved it yeah, I've I've never tried it. I have a ton of friends who have done it. They love it, they swear by it. Vaginal care is super important, and so having the basics down are really important. But this is something that's clearly not a new practice, but it's something that now we're starting to talk a lot about more often. And then obviously what black women having issues with fire boys and things of all kinsitive and and and and very very difficult periods. Because I have a girlfriend who was having heavy bleeding and a lot of pain and sometimes she was having her period was making her go to the hospital for the pain. So she started doing the vaginal steaming in order to um among other things. Among other things, so changing diet, no longer eating I want to say, she wasn't eating chicken or anything anymore. She was like, not is the root of all physical evils. I'm gonna tell you that too, because reducing sugar house with fibraries, sugar feet ahead say more real talk after the break. So so as we're talking about these things, it's like, Okay, clearly sugar is an issue. You and I all know that that the sugar is flooded through the hood in every possible way all through it the most powerful drug. Oh it is, it is. It's it's flooded. All the sodas and the hugs, those little it used to be probably a dollar fifty. Now you know, all of those little drinks and things are just so much sugar. And it's a setup. It's a set up, as somebody who was overweight right now it is. It's a set up to tom to slow you down and to to a fringe of fund your health because health really is wealth. Friends, doesn't matter how much money you have, it doesn't matter how many cars or houses or whatever. If you're not healthy, man, it changes everything for you. So people just get on a regular basis something some things that are too about access too, because such absolutely yeah, it's like I think what happens is that a lot of people want to be healthy, like they want the benefits of being healthy, but there's the education about it. But then it's also access because you know, I live in the in the city and in Phillies and when one grocery store you can go into, especially the ones in the black neighborhoods or in the black and brown neighborhoods, and it's just like none of the produce look good. You know what I'm saying, ain't nothing on sale, you know what I mean? Everything, and then and and then you know, access to healthcare and people who we're gonna, you know, tell you what's going on with you. It's just like so much of that is just hard to to to get around, you know, the stuff that's in your way. I don't you think sometimes it's mental work too that you don't feel like doing, Like you don't feel like doing the research and find out the alternative to this. This is what I know. I know this price point. I mean, it's a lot of gray in there. I feel like two Asia. It's like, yeah, I have six kids, and I make pretty decent money. I have six kids, I make decent money, Okay. When I go into the grocery store, okay, and I'm buying food, I have to think about how quickly that my family is gonna go through that food, you know what I'm saying, and when I'm gonna be able to replenish that. So I think a lot about how much things cost, you know what I'm saying. And obviously fresh you know, fruit and vegetables, of course, that's a no brainer. But then also too, you have to think about the way that people work, the way they go to school. Will those things go bad it? Will they be able to come home on time to cook every night? All these different things are all things I have dealt with. These are things that I have been faced with. When I'll even say things like vitamins vitamin supplements, if I'm gonna how do I look only being the only person in the house taking supplements? But then I don't want to give the B S supplements to my kids. So then what might cost you twenty dollars for a bottle of this or that, I gotta buy four times that much. So then you're telling me I got to spend two hundred dollars a month on supplements, two hundred dollars on supplements, when I got to spend at least four hundred dollars every week, every week and a half to two weeks just on groceries alone. Now, mind you, everybody doesn't have a house with six kids in it. But what I'm saying is that I make decent money and I have six kids. When I think about people who are making not very decent money, and then thet's say they have three kids, but this is the state. It's the same kind of thing, if not first. And I just think sometimes we just gotta remember in terms of health, to remember the access is an issue. So people don't feel like they're failing themselves because they can't eliminate sugar or they if they want their kids to have something to drink in the house, or whatever the case may be. And let's say, you know, I don't know. I mean, obviously water is obvious, but they can't afford X y Z. It's a slow walk. It could be a slow walk. It's gotta be a walk. Let me say this age of great and danceler. Just because it's hard doesn't mean that I don't have to do it. Like I enjoyed my COVID time. I ate and I enjoyed it. And when I and when I landed Mahellia, I was like, I am going to be Mahellia. Okay, I'm gonna eat this hair and it's off on a character and you know, and like that was really my mindset, like I'm about to be great at this. I'm gonna do what best liked and I'm gonna do it. Look now I'm in this position and I have to to get healthy because that I don't feel good. I just don't feel good. And it doesn't make a difference. You know, I don't have the options. The options are, but the reality is, let's just deal with the reality. Reality is, you have to drink water. It's not a choice. The reality is you have to cut down on sugar. It's not a choice. Look if my mother, I'm just saying, I'm just saying, we went through a very very hard time financially and when I was growing up, and my mom, you know, she just caught the long bus. She got on one of them buses. She had a transpass in Philadelphia. That's that's a little ticket that takes you to let you catch bus after bus. They were pretty expensive at the time, but she had to trans pass and she would go all the way out to the boonies, you know, to suburbia to go to the thrift stores to get good clothes, because the clothes in my community, the you know, they weren't really working. You know, the pieces of something that it didn't last very long. Put it in the watch twice and it's a rap, you know. So she she went out to the suburbs. This is this is like a part of the journey when we're talking about like we have to, you know, care for ourselves. Maybe that means taking a long trip. Maybe that's the long bus to the farmer's market. I'm not saying that it's gonna be easy. Everything ain't easy ship, but it's just it's like, damn because the sugar water this one saying. I'm not trying to say that people shouldn't put forth effort. Obviously, Like I said, I've seen this from a lot of different angles. I've been overweight. I am in this at this current moment, but I've lost tons of weight. I've been on some of these programs worked out. You look great by the way I saw you in your multi colored dress, and can I can I just say that I didn't have on anything underneath of it. There was no type of apparatus underneath that dress, and you look good. I've been I've been back and forth between these things multiple times. So I do I understand there's a certain there's a certain sensibility that we have to implore no matter what we're doing. Like for example, yeah, you could just not buy any juice. Okay, that's actually saves you money. So there are some things. Yeah, there are some things that we can do, and some things that are birth out of poverty that actually are better for us, like cooking more at home and things like that. But I think it's important to really kind of stress and understand that even if you have desire to do better, access to better things is often linked to money and and and and privilege, and when those things are not in the space where you are, it can be very difficult to make these types of chance ages. It's That's all I'm saying, is that. And I've been the mother in the store thinking, oh, well, no, I need to buy this, or but I needed I needed to last, I needed to stretch. Uh should I do this? Should I do that? And and I and I can just I can relate to that. That's all I'm saying. I'm not saying it is the counter the counter to that kind of like, all right, so I feel I feel you on You don't have to resources. You have this drive, you want to change, you want to make things short, things are safe, Okay, so you gotta buy these badass grocries this week. It is all you can afford. However, I'm gonna make sure that these kids get outside and at least walk around the track to that. Yeah, no, I like it, And I think that's what I'm saying. So, I mean, it's like it's something there, it's something free you can do, you know. Oh yeah, you're not confined to everything. And like I said, I'm saying, I'm just throwing that out there because I think we're talking about freezing fat and we're talking about all of this different stuff and I'm just like, well, for the average woman, how accessible is that? Like, I mean crazy, But we're talking about different levels of staying healthy, right, so we also can talk about intermittent fasting, like we can talk about things that you can do at home. Like I don't guess what. I'm not a vegan, but I was trying not to eat dairy during the weekdays, you know what I'm saying. On the weekends, that's cheaper, by the way, because dairy is expensive. People. We know that dairy is back for us when we feel that mucus and I said that when we wake up there that today so and not for nothing. I know I shouldn't be eating dairy when the moment. I watched the Peter video and at the end of it, they said, well, if rats drink rat milk and uh, bats drink bat milk, why is your human as drinking coyle milk? I don't know. But so interesting about Yeah, But that's that's so interesting is because certain values that we grew up having is like almost indoctrination, Like we were when we were like, oh, it's gonna build healthy bones. And I remember the milk commercials like this is what you was in industry? It was some bullshit. It was all eyes to build this fucking milk industry, and we are all living in the bullshit of what it did to us as kids. And for milk, they gave us powdered milk, yes, any anything milky alive, And now folks are raised on all kinds of nut milk. Like who even knew that we could just strain the nuts over night and some milk and call it my weird old neighbors that none of the neighbors understood who was playing guitar with a whole bunch of plants all around his window and uh smelling of some kind of wonderful inset that dude knew that nuting milk was a real thing. Yeah, the sisters that wore the guard the gayle as that we didn't understand that was still wearing that. Those those elders they knew, they understood when he had That's very true. They were raised to be vegetarians, that new satan. I was like, what is it? We Arry Ridz, what is this? I'm in high school with vegetary d Yeah, yeah, I mean they're they're some of this stuff is is old, tried and true. I'm two dollars. I just want to say that I'm a milk two dollars. My child only drinks almond milk, so I know would be fancy too. And they just be like, wait, wait, waiting women where because no, no, no, I'm sorry because when you go in the hood, see a lot of y'all talking stuff because you've got time these women and people who work in nine to five jobs who coming home immediately have to cook. And the only store in the neighborhood, if it does have almond milk, it's five and six dollars. Let's stop, everybody, and you got spay and you got to help me that. It's because it's two dollars and not just in traded Joe. So I didn't know that I didn't know in the corner store and they mark it up like five times what it is store. I'll go to the corners to all the time, but I don't go to the corner store for my milk. So that's why I didn't know. I don't pay attention. I go cornasto up at certain things. So I feel you in the privilege of that. Well, I'm just saying. I'm just saying, like, even in the markets that are in some of these communities, then you want somebody then then we discussed getting on the long bus, So getting on the long bus also requires time to get on the long bus. It also requires a lot of different things, access to a lot of stuff that are folks. I just think sometimes we don't understand some of the basic things that folks do not have access to. I think that's yeah, I just saying. I just think when it comes to health, like specifically around health, right, I think that we just have a perception that the majority of people are living in middle class life, that a lot of these things are associated with middle class living, access to things and the affordability to to to get these certain things. We do live in a country where the vast majority of the people black, white, and otherwise don't have access to some of these things. And the more stuff you pile into the pot, black, poor, whatever, these things become more and more difficult. So just getting getting almond milk at two dollars, I'm sorry, I gotta just jump out there and say that ain't everywhere, and that's mostly not everywhere. We're gonna take a quick break and then we'll be right back with education. When you when you're interested in something, you find out, there is a drive to find out more. That was That was my quote in high school. The more I see, the more I do, the more I do, the more I want to see, you know, saying it's it's if you're interested. I don't know. I know about being broke. I definitely know about that. And I know that My mother got up at four o'clock in the morning and took the long bus to the docks and came back with a bunch of fruits and vegetables and started making smooth these for my community. This is not myth, this is not bullshit. This is real. She just started making smoothies. She bought a book. I can't remember which one it was, but she bought a book and found out about herbs and such and started making these smoothies. And next thing I know, people are standing around the block waiting for Joycey smoothies and she was charging ten dollars, which was over ten dollars. I know. She's also bought the big cups and she's making I mean big joints. So when I asked people on my way out, like, y'all really like my mom smoothies, they were like, oh, whoa you know, um, when we have them, we don't have to eat for the rest of the day. So it's a ten dollar old day party question. How come after that, everybody on your block didn't get up at four o'clock in the morning and make their own smoothies. There has to be a desire for it. But what I'm saying that has to be a desire. I can't believe that not a single person that had your mother smoothie had no desire to be healthy. I don't know about everybody. I know that when she stopped making them, I ain't see them no more until they were in the stores and everybody was going at the smoothie mark and the smoothie spot in the smoothies it's also a matter of convenience, and ain't people probably don't think that way. When I can get up, I don't have to get up before the more and I can just wait from Miss Joyce and I got the ten dollar, let me just say my ten bucks and just sometimes that's the thought too. It's just so many grades in that that thought process, isn't it. All I'm saying is that I understand the variables, but if it's something that you really want to do, like and I'm speaking really directly to my myself right now, because I don't I don't want to work up to and I have to. I don't feel like drinking this green ship that I'm drinking right now, but I'm gonna drink this green ship because I know it's better for my body. I don't want to, but I have to stick to it. And the more excuses that I make, oh, well, you know I was trying to. Yeah, I get it, I get it. It's not gonna work out. They're not we're not shooting down. It's not happening now, is happening a year from now or or a little sooner than that. But nonetheless, what I can't hold onto this my knees hurt. I came there, don't want to be some bread and the fact that our mother's not for nothing. The seventies, mamas, there was a little bit of a holistic kind of thing, and there wasn't rich mamas, because I don't I don't think from a middle class refective. I do sometimes have the tendency to think from a working class perspective. So I I apologize for that and trying to be more, but in the sense of, like, I know, my mom wasn't rich, but there were certain things and books that, like you said, Jill, she wanted more. So my mother is still giving me books. I got a stretching book. Okay, likes she is in this wholistic game. She is not trying. She's trying to age gracefully. She listen, she ain't what she ain't wont off that daughter, You know what I'm saying. So girl, let me tell you something. My mother, my mother got up, every got up and did remember that lady who used to do the work out in the morning, the twin workout four more, three more, two more. My mother did that. My mother got up and did her fifty My mother got up and did the fifty sit ups, and I'm saying all of those things, and and again and again. It's not to be Devil's advocate or anything. I just was trying to throw out some other aspects of things we might want to think about. And of course, anything you want to do, you have to want it. But also to what I love about what you guys are saying ultimately is that it is a life or death situation and it's also a form of resistance because at the end of the day, we know what we're up against, and our health and how we treat our bodies is so important because there's so many things attacking it, whether it be what your diet is, how much you move your body, your mental health because we've talked about this on this show before, your mental wellness. All these things are ingredients to, you know, the type of priorities that we have to make for ourselves because if no one's coming to check for us, they gotta so we gotta be able to share this information with each other and be fully, you know, aware of the challenges that we have and how to fix, fix and meet those challenges because no one else is gonna care. They're just gonna let us drop off. They're gonna let us have diabetes, They're gonna letus that sad disease. They're gonna let us have all of that stuff and have access to the worst possible health care. So we gotta look out for each other and being a better friend and help people be accountable. Shoot, I know, girl, I don't want no I mean accountability partnership. I'm going right back. I'm going right back to this long bus. Friends. That's that's what it seems like. It's like a metaphor for what I have to do now. I gotta catch the long bus. I promise you. I could cry right now, but I'm just I'm I'm too uncomfortable. Oddly I fit my clothes. I don't know how. I don't know. This is when you know you gotta make some changes when you say I don't know, I don't know how I'm fitting any of my clothes, but I'm I'm fitting some of it, most of it. But I don't like how. I feel like I worked so hard in the past, you know, Scott, Damn. There there was moments where I had a song. I used to be like, Scott hate me, he hate me so much, and I hate him too. And then he would show up and I would sing this God hates me. Oh God, it's terrible. I hated the song. I hated him, I hated to see his face. But every time we left each other, I felt a little bit stronger and I felt a little bit better, and I and he's far. He's far, and I don't know nobody out here like that. So what that means is that I gotta do that for myself. My my girlfriend girlfriend swears by that Peloton. Okay, she swears Peloton is a thing, and they have an app, So you don't actually need the need a Peloton Palestine. Oh that's fine. Well, don't be waiting and not doing nothing. Don't be waiting. Don't be one of those equipment we're talking about. That's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm talking about. Have YouTube workouts. You're talking about, getting rid of every excuse not getting on the loan bus right now, not at this moment, but the metaphors that that I am. This is about to be the long bus. I gotta I gotta go walk because the bus stop. I didn't get to the bus stop yet. Because you gotta get to the stop and this is the thing too, And I'm so glad again. I know we talked about the generational changes and stuff, but I'm so glad that we're communicating more about what growing older means, right, because things that we weren't told, right, Like, we weren't told a lot of our our elders had neat issues because they had too much weight on their bodies. Right, we weren't told that our skin changes over every ten years. And you can't use the same facial things that you use because it may be effective. I had to learn that when I turned thirty and proactive wasn't working anymore. They'll tell you about adult acne. They don't tell you even about your period and how that changesn't so. And so I tell you about your sweat glands and how you might stink and you might have to do better about what kind of deodorants you use and all kinds of stuff. It's like a lot of things, you're right, And that you lose muscle as you get older. People. So, like my mother said to me, like ten years ago, she was like, your cardiore real cute, but I'm gonna need you to pick up some of them weights because you're gonna lose You're about to lose muscle, and it's when the fifties hit. Listen. I girl, I experienced that, that losing muscle thing. I used to be so strong in my upper body, and I've always been strong in my lower body. I still am. It's just a thing. It's genetic. I think it don't even matter how big I get is such a weird thing. But my upper body always had a lot of strength in my upper body. And the other day I tried to do something simple and I was like, oh, baby, you you have to work on this. And because I've always been so super focused on things like drinking water and I haven't you know, processed food and stuff like that, and cardio. You do cardio a lot, your dancing and cardio I dance and stuff like that. But I never thought about that with those weights that I'm glad you brought that up because I have done so much of that other stuff and felt like, yeah, I feel I feel good, you know, girl. Till I tried to do something that required strength. I went to my my girlfriend's party and she's now Quinn quadrainarian. You know um that come on, qu So I go to the party and I literally I don't know. I don't know how long the party was, but I know that I danced from the time I got there to the time and I felt great about it. I had a good ass time too, was nice. The little tacos was hatting, you know what I mean. And I traveled across the country to be there a good time. Man. The next day, I felt like I had been hit by several busses busses in there, and I was like, okay, all right, I'm about to be I'm about to hit this fifty. I'm about to hit this fifty and I we're talking about this. We're talking about health today because you know, I can't even front it is directly impacting my my life right now, right now, and there's that there is not a single excuse that I can offer myself. I'm trying my best not to beat myself up and call myself about my name. But I have said, if you don't get up, you know what I mean, you've been counting yourself out. You could have been already up. Listen on my neck it hears you. Let me tell y'all, I'm gonna call it. Okay, this is my fattest I didn't laid in the bed and count it jumping jack, So listen, just counting them in the bed with my eyes. This is how many you would be doing right now if I was saying enough. This is how many I'll be doing. Like I have planned many many walks. I don't have planned the walks. I have decided I'm gonna take the walks. And Lie is so disappointed in us, but we know that she loves because now I'm not disappointed. I'm literally thinking like we all do. Like y'all. I don't know if you notice, but I always have on a sports braun workout year because I wake up and put it on because at some point today I'm gonna work out. Now that it don't happen every day, at least I can look at myself with shame by the end of the day. If all day you ain't done nothing, you just wasted workout. You know what. I appreciate that, because that's that's the hardest part for me, is that I'm like, I gotta put on this sports bra. I got to put on this. The sip up ones are awesome. They're kind of even fun to put on. You might to step up in the front. I'm seeing them on the interweb, but I don't know what that is. We'll be right back. I'm gonna say this too. I'm gonna say this too as you get older. Not everybody, okay, because some of the saints and they're gonna be like, not me. But we have to think about some of the saints and the shake saying, man, they're not gonna admit to this because they don't do this. But we gotta talk about the hidden sugar in the libations at something about But I'm saying, like, let's go out out there, because what I will do is watch somebody doing something that I want to do, like some sort of dancing that I want to do with with grapes of a certain nature. Yeah, I mean, red is good for you. Red is good for the heart the owner of us so much? What is it like? I was mad if my glasses this big, I'm not for nothing. I get myself creditor, skip my ice cream for wine. I'm just I'm not gonna do both. I'm gonna just do one. That's another thing, keeping one thing for another. Yes, So the less detrimental to you, the is better, you know, that's better. The less intri detrimental, like these are the things, y'all Stoner's. I got a tip for you, Only healthy things in your refrigerator. So when you go for the munchy's like, go for the healthy stuff. You know what I'm saying, like, just feel it. So joining got a choice. You're like, oh, I gotta eat at least make some chocolate, cover of almonds as far as you go. But you know what I'm saying, like some food got to help with your munkey's. Thank you, yeah, thank you so much. You're welcome. I just I'm gonna struggle with you. Have a day. Oh. I didn't want to do this a game. I didn't. I didn't want to. Can we collectively rebuke the one or two things that we really just want to get rid of? First, I would like to rebuke dear Lord. Mm hmm, come on, dear Lord. I would like to rebuke the salt inventicar chips, Oh, I would Lord. I would like to um also rebuke that caramel popcorn and everybody keeps selling the raised money for kids. I'm gonna rebuke that because it's very good. It's very very good. I would also like to rebuke the lemonade iced tea situation that I have bought for many years, that I need to just get that out of the refrigerator because it's not a go to, it's a treat. It's not a goal to. It's a treat. It's not to rebuke the gas station fried chicken. I'm trying to tell you that the gas station fried chicken is the best chicken I've ever had, and I think about it. I think about it often, and then I'll just go to the gas station and say that I was going to get something else, but I'm really going to get that chicken. I'm really going to do that. And I have to stop this foolishness just because the children, the child have some ice cream, because these children over here like to believe that they should have deserved every night supposed to. Yeah, I mean, that's not that's not how I grew up. I don't know, you know, I'm just saying the dessert is a treat. It's not. It's not a given. You know, it's that's because you did something great, you know, it's not just because Yo. It may be so, but I the dessert falling into the children's trap of dessert. I need to just I'm out. I'm I bind you dessert of every night, maybe maybe Saturday nights is all right, But the rest is I have to stop because I'm doing what they're doing. I'm doing what they're doing, and I can't do what they do because young people. He's getting longer, he's swimming out. As my mother said, he the tallest, skinniest. He's in the nineties eight percentile for height at his age. Yeah, yeah, he's and he's only getting longer. The same thing happened to my son. I'll about to say, I remember killing his his opera stage. He was a little round. He was a little round in row toun for a second and two seconds later he shut up. Yep, And that's what's happening. And we're the size of leven shoe at twelve, and it's I know, see, he's not gonna have these these problems, you know, but but I do. Let's talk about men and their metabolism and no matter what, it's always gonna be fasking us. We just have to live with what it is. Okay, even then they cannot work out for months, they go back and then go you understanding. Meanwhile, I would like rebuke it. What are we doing buking, binding, re binding. I would like to review I bind Off. Although I love so and I have talked to her about her. On this show, I rebuked a lady named Jenny be creating in the national Nationwide ice Cream Shop and all the best flavors in the world. I would like to review her and her her her homemade uh waffle of cones that are the best waffle coach. Yes, They're better than the been in Jerry's. I know because I'm an ice creamy stuff uh. And I would like to just rebuke any late night treat evening because it is hard because even when you do your intermittent fastive like I try to do, I don't start to eat till twelve, and I make sure I can go intil eight. I started smoking some times, and them treating in the fridge or even calling me betimes. I put them demminiums in the freeze or you know, the almin eminem. I want to reduce the almin eminem's as well. You know I'm gonna just yet. That's what I'm gonna do. That's what I'm gonna be. Ain't grown and the lights pin packaging as a light brown packaging eminem so bad one that guts sick and I don't never want another peanut eminem in my life. You don't need it. Make so many. I went too hard, you know what I mean? Dark chocolatecolate eminem. We like a Coxet ship, by the way, but dark chocolate for also as well. I would like to buying donuts of all kinds, especially the special one now that they got the nice donuts, Shots, Federal Donuts, all these places. Let's not name these places because they don't exist. Okay, we're buding you donuts m to to others and yourself buying you donuts because who told you to make Gormet donuts? Why would you do that? Why would you? Why would you do that? Do that? Off? Is enough already, Okay, let's focus on what we want to. Want to drink this water you want to We really do want to get a holistic test for your blood, just to find out what's going on. How is your cholesterol. It's it's it's not the specific While I'll say it's not the finitely specific thing that the rest of the doctors are doing. It's a whole They're looking at all of you, looking at your blood to see what's really going on in there, so you can catch some things early if necessary. Okay, that's that's that's one I say. Please do this. Okay, then please have your eyes checked as often as you can. I know, I know that things are not easy. I know that finances aren't the way you know that everybody wants them to be on a consistent basis. But this is a priority. It's more of a priority than that bag ordumn shoes or even that bill. Babe. You might have to put a little bit on that bill and walk away and come back and you know, you know, tag little chunks out of it as it is. But your eyes are important. And you don't forget about the t too, because you do not have to get a certain age. The mouth, the mouth, mouth. I know we're throwing stuff in at the end, but the mouth thing. Another good holistic thing is that is um oil pulling with that oil, oh yes, baby, and that that draws out a lot of that bacteria to clean. Okay, your teeth a bit too, And and don't forget about bacon solda for your teeth. Bacon solda and peroxide. I'm not asking you to swallow peroxide I'm just saying, to make a nice little paste with bacon, solda and peroxide. Um, it's something that my mother has had me do my entire life. I never liked the taste of it, but you can follow it with some kind of mouth wax. I'm just saying, if you want to have a healthy mouth, because that's that's like super important to for many reasons. Okay, yeah, bless you, bless you. We're gonna we're gonna continue to talk about this randomly because there's so many things friends that as especially my my young people. You're you're young, so you don't think that you're going to have to deal with any of this, But the reality is you're already dealing with it. That are already You're already in the process right now. So maybe that's something that I know for sure, that's something that no one ever told me that I was in the process of my future health right now. But you are, you are, and I don't want you to forget it. Love yourself, work on it. Yeah, you're welcome. I Yeah, Hi, if you have comments on something we said in this episode called eight six six, Hey, Jill, if you want to add to this conversation, that's eight six, six, four three nine five four five five. Don't forget to tell us your name and the episode you're referring to. You might just hear your message on a future episode. Thank you for listening to Jill Scott Presents Jay dot Il the Podcast. This podcast is hosted by Jill Scott, Layah st Clair and ag Graden Danceller. It's executive producers are Jill Scott, Shawn g and Brian Calhoun. 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