Being Vulnerable AF w/ Tarriona "Tank" Ball

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot Im a production of I Heart Radio Friends, Friends, Friends is always so good When the line rings, it's an old school thing to do, like, oh, there's a phone in the background, would be well, there's a phone and there's a friend on the phone or on our zoom right now, this young woman, First of all, I have to use my baby voice for it because it is so cute to me, Like like every time I see the face, I actually want to bite her and it would be a pleasure. I just want to bite your face. Oh my god, Oh it's so pretty. All it's so so, so pretty, and her sing so good whatever kind of style you got to think is singing it. Okay, she's a brilliant poet. She is a band leader. Okay, now that's that's something that I love to see because one who's who's leading the band? Let me think brand new Heavies, India, Dave Report, you know Russian. Yes I'm talking. I'm talking about just being a band lead your own. I'm trying to think of she got that loosens, thank you, Yes, that rough kids. I don't want to fight Alabama shakes Alabama who love her? But I'm telling you, I love how from Tank and the Bangers they call her? Why why they call you first? Agree? I want to be your laying I'm not right. It's a nickname. My daddy gave it to me. I don't know why he gave it to me. It's very interesting. He died if I could ask him. But it's a family nickname. And now the world happens to know your family nickname, Tank and the Banger's baby. That's something that's some good old If you can't hear, this thing is straight out of new order and and and comforting. Talking about your voice, I know what they say, sound like a mal like what is it? It's like a nice little um, a little baked chicken, some kind of a's maybe macaroni and cheese with the brown on the top. Yeah, yeah, not a little, a little gravy. That voice is gravy. It's like the definitely had some gravy on it, for sure. My favorite meal is ross with gravy and rice and potato, saying like rebeans from my mama though, Yeah that sounds delicious. It's really good. The crawfish. I just want some color greens to some potato salad. Love some colleagues thing about them bitches, won't sheen? She love a colleague. I can eat them every day on my life. Well, I say this, I don't have. I don't have the top tier collar greens. They but you got something that's the talk alone time. I put that out married alone time. I love of way her husband looking at her time. I love it, looking at like I really like you and I think you're really smart. You want that. I could be staring at him like I could do marriage. I could do it because for these people I could do it. Do make it look possible. It's funny because I told him because take was like, um, I like the way you look at I said, this is what happened. They said you had told him. They said, you look at me like you like me? When I do, like yeah, And that's how he looked at you, he said, with the attitude like I said, well I do. Like. That's why she checking in where she's covering her mouth like a little kid, because she know that that I love me sexy. Did I tell you think I do? Oh yeah, that's called that. Okay, you gotta make sure you gotta take your bra off to do that. You don't need to take your bratty little circle. That's talent. I mean, I knew you was talented before, but you know, I appreciate that. But I love, I do love. That's all you did with Big Freedom, because that got that got me to understanding how to get my talk you could do. Just imagine surprised. I can do it. I can. I can only do these things in prime. Yes, he will not. He actually won't be surprised. The sad part. It's not sad. Not be surprised, that's the sad part. He would just right. He would just be making sure nobody is videotaping. He'd be like, please put your phones down, thank you very much, you put your phone down. Good night, Lord God. That's not that's a fear that we asked. We we over here giggling, were giggling. They ask Tank what we need to ask her? And what do we need to ask her? What's on your heart? What's on your heart? Boo boo? I don't know life? What let me see what's going on in our life right now? Oh, just got off a little book for her. That was that was really fighting a lot of fun. Hey, I think it's I think it's the one you stay, you know, it was a lot of fun, and it felt really good to get back to my poetry roots of just being in the club with one musician just playing behind me lightly and gently as I as I do my poems and I take my time and it's low and I oh, I love that there was everybody cried at the end of the night. I cried at the end of the night, and I just I love taking my time. I really thought I should go on tour by myself once every couple of years. It's special, it is, and the sound checks are so short. How about that? Can you hear that? I can hear too. Let's go yeah, because you spend forever doing them and then you get on stage and it's still different. Mm hmmm, it's still and just this is how you still got to push through, just so smiling down, turning around, person out your band maid like I loved him. But I enjoyed this too, because what what part of this part really opened you up? Like tell us about that part, Like you said you should do this once a year because of what what did it do for you? It's kind of like that moment where you know that she was born alone. M he was boring alone and that you have something special inside you and it don't take a lot to show it all. Even though I love the big sound, I love something, I could be tired as hell, but once I get on stage with the bankers, it's like somebody plugged me in the wall. I'm I'm alive, I'm not I'm not tying, I'm not thinking about the ride here because I don't even mind toll. I just hate to travel to get to where I'm going, like that's annoying. But when I get up there, I know I'm exactly what I'm supposed to be. I'm spiritually laid. But when I was up there by myself or just with one banker, just felt like I could I could do with them, and I needed to feed myself in that way and do what I want without about saying that's not the right nick. I'll make the melody like no my day. There's a There's a beautiful thing about balance, because something that you do could be really, really big, and a lot of people can come to that one thing, but then something else that you do can be just as big, but in a in a perfectly small way. It keeps you humble, and it keeps you balanced, and I think it inspires the fun and like like you said, it's a reminder of who you are, where you started. How important is the words for you, ma'am? The words, the words, it's not even so much, it's how important words are. It's important how I say the word. That's very important to me. Everybody could read the book and hit a song and it's great. That's really great, of course, because you want them sales. But when I read them, yeah, I bring life to him because it's my life. It's my life I'm reading from so I know where the pause, I know where to add extra breath there. I know that I'm about to send this line instead of just speaking to like a poem. It's about the way I say the words. You notice, you understand this, You all you understand what I mean. I'm kind of jealous that the rest of us I'm not gonna be able to experience. I don't. I'm just I'm just saying than just it was like a one in a lifetime thing. You're not going to take this to She said that there's something that she would do like every you know, a few years you can I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it every Yeah, I think it's um. I think especially when I loved when I was out there seeing everybody, I saw Asian them, and I saw p J. Martin, and I went to see til Live Quite and I saw Lord. I couldn't even much think of it. I just saw so many people on this little toy. It was so much fun. I couldn't kill chicken. I know, I was like, damn, what you went my time? Missing nice? We was outside, Yeah, what a couple of d ch The hotel lady found out who Asian you want? Hug all tight may Chicago though, that was Chicago, Chicago show that Chicago. Wait, Chicago was the only they were the only city that received this. Where else did you go? Chicago was off the chair. See, I gotta think. I went to Atlanta, and I wasn't gonna go to Texas, but all my fans kept saying, you must not like Texas book, so you know, they made sure we put some Texas dates up, and okay with do tastes do Atlanta, we do Philly, New York, Boston, Alexandria, Virginia. And it's was a surprise that I remember these places, yea, because I don't remember anything. It's a huge surprise that I'm like telling you the cities like I don't. I hate when the fan tells me you remember me, tank a fan would tell me you remember me. You you threw the peace sign up? Are you remember that I had on a yellow shirt and you threw the peace sign up seventeen years ago? You remember that, don't you. I'm Gloria, Gloria, Gloria, good to see you again. I just been smiling. If you ever preaching to a choir that smile, yeah, because they will hold you accountable. They will hold you accountable for the peace side I had. I had on a pink risk bad baby, and I waved back you and you did this. You don't remember you did the peace side that you don't remember that. What I love, though, is that there are moments when you actually really do remember somebody like oh shid, like job my memory enough, Like I just told you, I will, it will come back to remember. Make somebody's life. It's it's it's these days. It depends on the person. Sometimes they life Jim. Sometimes all you gotta do is have one special moment with somebody and they will remember it. They will apply to their life. I love to tell people how important they are. And I think because somebody took so long to tell me that was important special Because the moment somebody told me I was special, I begin to walk in my purpose. And I like to tell people that because you people don't be knowing, they think they ordinary people be thinking they ordinary knowing. Damn well, had perfectly happened just for you to be here, and it's definitely not my chance, I gotta tell I like to tell him, well, somebody told me so they could. Yeah. I remember the first time I met you was at Essence and my husband was already familiar with with the Bad. Yeah, he said, you know who that is? I said, no, I don't know who that is. He said, oh, yeah, that's taking the bangers like they from the ones, like they they they banging like they're good. They're good, they're good. And he was like, and so we had seen you before we met you, and then when you came and met us, it was like you was just so loving and so sweet and so like, I love y'all, I love what y'all do. And I personally was really hyping. You might not remember this, but D'Angelo was playing in the main room, and I remember that you stayed to watch our show when you could have gone to see D'Angelo, which I thought everybody on the planet would choose to see d at that point because he was coming back, but you didn't. And I was like, oh, that's so dope. And honestly, every time I've ever come in contact with you since you have been the exact same, mom beautiful, loving person since that day. And I was like, and everything that has happened to y'all to be able to stand back and see that, because you know, in an artist's life, you know, we come in contact with each other off and on, you know what I mean, like even you know what I'm saying this or that, you know, And I think that was really a beautiful thing to to see how things have blown up and grown for y'all, but that you, yourself, your energy has really stayed the same. You know that you really have just always been this person that just shine from the inside. So you know, again, it's hard for me to understand that. I mean, I look at my I look at you, and I'm like, oh my god, look at all that light. There's just a bright, sweet, beautiful person and I am. I am confused. How how you didn't know? I didn't know. I didn't know. I just didn't know. I think it's because you grow up with all these sisters. And I don't know if y'all notice or if y'all even experienced this, but black families don't really go crazy just because you gotta give, because everybody gotta gift in their family, everybody's family table. Oh yeah, she'd been signing Street Throw on the phone. I mean, I didn't have nobody pushing me in my family. I had friends later on to push me in life, but nobody around to just be like, you're you're really special because I was always writing, always singing, not like as well as my sisters, but always singing. So I just I just did not I just didn't know, not enough to walk in it. But I knew that I could, I could perform. I knew that we're gonna take a quick break and then we'll be right back. I always wanted to ask, because you signed so bright, and I always want to ask people who shine so bright how they maintain their life because because you signed so bright, and people around know this energy and go to you for this energy. Whether you're singing, it, you're speaking or whatever. Sometimes it and you know it has to be replenished at some point. So I'm just I'm so curious, especially in the last year and some change, how you've been replenishing yourself in that way. How have I been replenishing myself? First of all, just having conversation. I love when when Jill called me, like I love with my phone, I screenshot it every time. She don't notice, but I screenshot it. I'd be like, she calling and I just always make me so happy. And and I talked to her about some things, especially if I you know, if I meet anybody new, you know, or if if something's going on, you know, I like to get her advice on it. And my best friends are just they're the type of people that are really honest with you. Are very loving because I'm sensitive, so they know not to discourage me feeling. They know to encourage me. And if it's time to give me the real they'll She'll give me that too, without hurting my feelings. It's very careful about that because I'm so sensitive. You're not alone. It's say, oh my god, it's sad. It's really sad. I don't even know how you have a relationship being as sensitive as I am. It's crazy. I think I got a never to be sensitive. But but we'll tell you the truth without what's your What does that sign? What is that? I don't want to talk about it. You told me before, but I forgot. It sounds like a cancer. I didn't want to see a cancer. It's not a castle. It sounds like an aries to me. But I don't think it wass all like Arias but it's not. I like aeries, but I don't like how boss stop aggressive. I am virgo Virgo. I oh, I know this makes so much sense. Oh, this is why you as my whole baby. This is yeah, you like the Virgo. This is why I don't like what they sound like. The Virgo sound like harsh, critical old space. But you know what Virgos be knowing, and that's one thing. You got a good sense of people. And I trust a virgo's opinion. Virgo's opinion is almost a written law. They know what they're talking about, and that is that because they just do. I have virgo that I know, I trust. I trust what they have to say. I mean, you're not guess I gotta get into these signs like a really crazy but I'm thinking this is freaking how much it applies sometimes honestly, really like when I'm meeting somebody new, I go and check up our zodia competibility. You don't Maybe that was as know that, yeah, because if I would have known then what I knew now about my lass relationship, My zodier told me that it really wasn't gonna work out that well. I was like, uh, Leo, oh yes, too cool. No, that's too that's that's close. That's right there. I just think that, um, all the Leos in my life are very um, they're around the same, and I think that the personalities are very interesting of a leo, and it's it's could be difficult, but you love them very much. I love my interesting. That's that's what y'all. That's what y'all. Just friends child a child? Oh good, louve is it? Dear? Is Nina is next week? It's like the Leo thing. Is she kind of like like they say, um, strong minded, doesn't like to be wrong, loves to give advice, but not really take all those things. No, he's not like that. That's because he likes Yeah, that's because Huck got that magic, got that she got space. I'm going to say that I finally have that magic finally. It's it's interesting when you have something good to give, but you're just giving it to the wrong person. Like I just I want to encourage you to stay on course because I think that you're absolutely wonderful. I do. I do you to, like, yeah, stay on course. I'm just saying that it's it's it's not the love that you're giving, it's the who you're giving it to that that isn't working out just yet, but that love is beautiful. So told tight and we will and we do fight. We do fight, and I will fight. I will fight. I don't play that messing part my people with the big all r it's okay, then put these dudes, and my husband loves y'all. You know he will fight this. I love y'all, dude. I just know that. Well. I like what Jill said about who you're giving it to. And also after you get out these relationships, you also see where you went left or right. You know. Um A damn show was not perfect. But in the beginning, I don't even gonna lie. I thought I was because I was just so ready to love someone, not even someone, excuse me, I was ready to love him, and I zoned in, I'm gonna love you. I want to love you. Then after while, since he wasn't giving it to me so easily, and by the time he was ready to give me his love, my feelings were different because I I felt like I chased you so long. Should have been like, yeah, yeah, well, let me just say this. Fine as your ass be looking on the internet, upset your point. I'm in a different like it's about titties to be out now. It sounds a legs the show, it's time for weed, for the booty or any like. It's it's a different sign like now can we go to when can we go to the hand with Tank? We could go to New Orleans and hang with Tank. That thing has invited me to New Orleans, like I can't even tell you how many times. And I'm gonna say this, and every time I'm in her city, I call her and I've never been there. I'm never here, Mommy be working. I'm gonna say this that I would love to come to New Orleans, but um, I needed to not be the summer. Oh that part. I love it so I like JC, so I can handle the human asia. I'm from DC. That ship is another level. This summer wasn't that hot to me, but almost every day and that was that was kind of way. I'm gonna need to come in the winter, Okay, I need to know when you're on. No, that's not that's not at least like okay, but just not the summer like that I was. I don't like being swoothy like that with some citties. We don't like that sweat boobs. I can't underneath them no more. You got to get the organics you can. You can't even mess with regular the older I got he use a spray deolder and the older one't be a strong for me no more. Because here's a tip. Here's an old school tip. I don't know if you could find it, but tussy is that work right around the one that memorial the tussy around the busset. I want to go down the brothers smelling like the ordering on not my friends, just to put the older hell in the thighs. Me too, I did I did that too, yeah, especially in the when they let me. I know, it's a stupid question. I know it's a silly question below now, please don't nobody with me. Does certain deodorance cause cancer? Yeah? Aluminum aluminum, aluminum one one aluminum, And they tell you to stay away from the ones that say anti purse point the stops you from persepiring, then it can be difficult for you. And then you want something that that that helps you to stay fresh whilst sweaty right, don't stop my sweat? How you doing to stop the natural order of things? Or be prepared to wash? Several times in the course of the days on here? I wonder where he was here? I wonder what what do they thala? What are they? What are they saying? I had a right make it show making? Wen't only one? So for all of you are who are lost. Right now, we're making a reference to the hyenas and scar in. How many times you'll watched that ship? I didn't see it three times. I still don't know what y'all was talking. I've seen it more than fifty times in my life. Pushed inside out last night and it was just so good. You love it? Feelings having feels it is my favorite, is my favorite animated film ever made. I can't wait for Tank's new animated film. Uh yeah, sure, I appreciate you speaking of its existence. Yeah, that's what I'm doing. That's what i'm doing. You see that. You see I did that. I'm just saying, we'll be right back. It's a lot of things that this that this Tank thing can do. I listen when I when I really love you, I don't know, I just call you a thing. It's always been a thing that like people that I love, like, look at it, look at that, look at this thing. You know, I don't know. You send that to me in the comments of my Instagram the other day and I just gritted because I could hear your voice. I can't hear the baby voice saying it. I'm just so glad that people understand me a little bit when it comes to that, because they're like, I'm not a thing. I'm like, oh, it's over you, Like whatever, Sorry, I'm saying stuff different when I was in Indiana because when the storm head, when I can't Contraine in here and my family moved to Indianapolis and in the walls with somebody tell a joke or when they're funny, we'd be like, man, you're stupid. And there was not so I used to say that, and there's like, I'm not stupid. Same. Oh it's over, Yeah, it's it's over. It's over. And so enough, like you don't feel my you don't feel my vibe on that thing, Like I'm not trying to hurt you at all. You didn't get the tone, you didn't pick up on the tone, you didn't pick up in any of the context clues. Nothing, nothing like I'm smiling. I mean it's coming from the inside. Huh. Because you're so silly, right, not stupid? Right. They didn't say you're so stupid, they say you're so silly, right. Not experience in my life though, good experience, and didn't. Let's help me come out of my shell and know myself more because those New Orleans is the city west all freedom, be yourself. That's not easy to be yourself in New Orleans high schools, they talk about you, they'll rip you. They got you know, every class whom got their bullies. I hated bullies for real, for real. Still still I don't even understand how people honestly can go online and like unneed somebody picture just write like a real mean comment, especially when they like to do it just because you got a blue check as if you're not like a regular person. They just I'm like, wow, y'all, y'all really on one. So I don't like bullying. And even when I was a teacher, and is zero tolerance in my classroom for that, because I don't want nobody feeling small or weird. I'm making them feel awkward. I don't know what you teach like everything because all grades, because what happened was they instead of getting substitute teachers, they would let artists come into classrooms and make their own lessons plans. So it was really special and um, and so that means I was with all grades. Now what I like about the little kids. The little kids have burst of energy and they're not ashamed and they love you all day. But their attention span is really small. But with the older kids, they understand my lessons, but they're too cool for school. They really jump in. Yeah, I fIF guators are alive with where the state seven, So I don't really mess with the figuators. Did so my son teachers middle school right now, he is just like mom, he said. I don't mean no harm, he said, but middle school girls they think that they know ever and they mean, they mean. I didn't know that girls were mean and boys were sweet and sensitive and wanted affection and girls were mean. I didn't know that. Yeah, yeah, the boys own is tang, but get off me with your student child like and the girl's being class just just me, you know, Like I'm like, wow, I didn't know that boys got their heartbroken and then they got me and they are broken and they got sweet. I didn't that also happened when there's a cute female teacher today, like coming here, she comes getting all. You know, I used to come with the fly close. You heard me. We love no let me. I'm glad you brought that up because I love your style everything, with your hands, with your look, no fear. You don't have no fear. That's what I love about it. It's just like it's always one point. It's always pushing the AFLD like I love it, and I didn't know it was responsible. Pretty. I think my only fear is like, you know, like falling on stage and even then I'm gonna have to play at all to split. Yeah. I had been working out a lot and then what these badass shoes and I had managed to stay in the shoes the whole show, and I was geeked about them shoes. And for some reason, on my way out, on my way off the stage, my leg was like bitch, and it just it just down sheet up to humble. Remember did they see Oh yeah, oh yeah, I felt. I felt pretty good. And then all I could do was lift my legs in the air to show my shoes. That's why that's who I got a drum. I love it. I mean, you know, I didn't exactly fall, but one of those wibble wobbles that was so bad. I should have just felo drunk it was. It was one of as yes, it really does, and I should have just gone ahead and fell down, right. So that's what I told about that. That's what I told my mom about Beyonce. When Beyonce almost fell the Super Bowl, my mama said, y'all, this is this is my mama just showed me like the expectations of all the street. I can't believe my mama said this. When Beyonce almost felt, my mama said, and that quote, what was that like? She's supposed to be perfect, I said, mother. I said, first of all, she didn't fall. It's second of all, that's a human up their mother. My mama is Llari. And she still was like, I said what I said, that's the expecting. I know somebody saying that about her daughter somewhere, but I will say that I used to run around stage a lot, but when I did see Jail performed and let me know that I can stand still and it's all good. Wow. Yeah, I needed to to steady myself because I was running around so much. Heard a recording to myself and I just started crying because I was running around so much that nobody even heard my voice. Because I'm so busy trying to entertain you that you can't even hear the beauty of my own voice. It's a beautiful thing. Let me steady myself. You don't have to stay still. Yeah, but I remember somebody saying that about sand about how Shand would come out on stage and and literally stand in one space and people would lose their minds as if they was watching Michael Jackson do full on coreo, and that it was like, you know, she could come out there and she was standing there and it was like she would just do a little bone with her hid, you know, just move her body and the people would just go and it would be like and it was. It was like a masterclass on you know what you bring people to. You bring people in and when you first start performing and you first coming up, you're you're not confident, and so you feel you have to win over the audience instead of standing your but still like you said, and grounding yourself in your gift and bringing people into your gift. You know what I'm saying. And I identify with that. And Jill is very good at this. I ain never seen I never seen you, Doug Eyo. I never saw her do it. It's more of a twerk, but a little bit with the mic. You're not about to with Na, She's gonna make get you a little microphone. Listen. I'm smighter, guys. I'll tell you, I'll tell you million times. I'm a writer. First and then the singing just happened and I was like, Okay, y'all like that, Okay, you like it, Okay it is with this. I'm just so glad that people enjoy it. I'm like, oh great, let's do it again. And this is fun to me, feels so good. More real talk after the break. I want to ask both of you you sang as a question. I want to know if you're aware, because you know, y'all, since you're blow up and you're so good, you got your luck, and since I'm like, I don't think we're blowing up yet and whatever, whatever, do y'all think that y'all are already legends. I'm already you know. You know I don't think so. No, But you know, people I want to argue, I'm gonna let them say. Yeah, I'm gonna let them. You know. I like to think of it more of an O G G marks. I think O G works for me, and and then I would say also to legendary becomes a thing that always are so subjective and that anybody could argue down for a number of different things. And for me, I say, just for me and for the team, because we haven't reached that level to which it becomes like household name type of thing. Or it's like I tell my children, it means something to who it means something too. You know what I'm saying, And that to me has been the story of our career, is that we've come in contact with some people in which it needs something to them, like we've called okay, I thought, that's what I mean. But we've come to this point where it's like, yes, when you come in contact with somebody where it means something to them, then that's the magic. That's that moment where you understand, Okay, you did something that connected with a person's actual life and that that that's No one can take that from you. No one can extract that. Nobody can tell you you didn't sell enough records. Nobody can tell you you wasn't number one on the charts. Nobody can't tell you nothing. Because that part, that moment, that connection is that's legend. Like I made a difference, Mama, mama, because my mom would be like, why isn't yell? But when Walmart you just always get that question. Day. I mean, Tank doing her thank with her little gigs, little I don't ever say that to me again. This is my career, mom. That's cute, baby, That's what I'm mad. That's what I'm mean, baby, that's your little career. How's your little show going, little cute little career? Game? People nominations and a gig? Okay, it's not a game, honestly, Okay, here's here's my question as a as a non twerker uh in in public. My question is does that action actually translate to sex? Can do? It? Doesn't? Doesn't translate in a good way to say? I think I would like to ask somebody like that who was what we call the New Orleans a shaker. That's his girl in New Orleans that could really shake Donovans go we'll get on builders with Freed or she will climb up the wall. Seen I'm saying too. And she's really good at it. And I would love to know if she like brings that to her bear room, because why wouldn't you. I'm just saying that since you all do. I'm just asking does it doesn't? Does it translate? Because I have done it on the like, I definitely think it's a muscle memory thing. It may not be as as as intense, it's the muscle memory I think is there. But that's the only thing that has helped me out in a bedroom Romo. It's squats. Squats have made such a difference in my life that when I was training with my trainer both flip him in New Orleans and after these only that's that's his name, both flipping and as he and as he and after I was training in it for a while, and when I was having a moment in my life of sexual behavior, I was like, I start it laughing while I was doing it, because I was like, oh this is different. I can things I couldn't did before. And I just started laughing and I was just go ahead, squats. So I'm gonna give it. I go. I would give it to squats. I swear I think it's all about listening. Oh God, I swear. I swear it's like listening to what your body is saying and what that thing saying. And I swear it's about listening. Sorry, that's what I think I do. I don't like to laugh. Oh there you go. There you like that is So I'm gonna talk about these things. Do we like for a man to talk to us? Do you like a man talking? Do you like a man? Mo hands? They're depending on what's being said. The moan, yes, but the words not call me daddy, of course when I say you call me daddy. But how let me know how good it feels. How I'm a giggler. So if it makes you laugh, not doing the door, don't laugh you've been giggling door the door, something chanting? If something is said that is funny. Then I'm like, that's funny. That's ouse she don't get somebody see take the thing about Asia sex stories. She can't want to give us a little bit because we know we know him time. But that's not the only person that she has. You don't remember nobody else like you don't remember baby Nigga said a dick got glasses on it, just brind just before whatever was glasses just sunglasses. Girl with the with the mirrors on the frost. Is what happens when that man when you start talking about sex and penis, I know you get excited, Yes, we get excited that we're talking about I talking about this. I don't know. I want to I want to know. I want to know what y'all have to say, because I am you know, I'm very interesting. Well, I mean, I won't have to coach side what you'll said. There is a little bit of a conversation that is happening between two bodies. If you're listening, HALLELLEENJH. If you're stay in tune with the conversation, all will come out of the experience feeling extraordinary and and and it may not be a pretty move that you make. It may not be a gentle move that you make. But if you're listening, if nobody and tell you that I'm looking better way for the weekend, just send your thanking. Have I listened to the biological song like the vox like least you have? Because let mena say you something list the fruit, and the vagina says the fruit of that labor is something day, a very quiet or some good day. Sometimes the fruits we're talking about. Yes, yes, we're specific about what you want. Are you quiet and let him do it? Stay? Depends sometimes yes, sometimes now turned into another episode. This is a separate episode thanks to I'm here on the communication, me too. I'm here for it though, let's go now that's what I'm here for, like when it when it comes to sex, like I need to so would you say? Well, if you said that, then I'm gonna say this, And now we're now we're saying stuff. Take y'alla. I think I need some more things to say. Maybe you can teach your class because I find that I get him no pay and thanks to say do yeah, y'all should because I get lost in something the same three rotatings things Yeah yeah, I can't come on, y'all can embarrass him. I'm just saying. I mean, I say some of the same things. How good if it is yes, this ship is, this ship feels yes, all of that amazing, you know, like this thing like this is us? Right? Nothing else? What some things that he should not say during sex? What will completely turn you off? Oh? I know what? Anything anything with daddy in it, anything with daddy in it. Do Daddy's was there. That's why they turned you off so much. I didn't know that was a thing. I can't if your dad was there, you may not be all about saying daddy. But I've let that slip before. And that's also because my dad died before I could even call him dad number one and number two because he's kind of taken can right it? Ye, it's his hand right here that you know, like and so. But before that moment, I was like, it's like a SEPERVERTI ship is that you don't want to slip off your tongue. Now you know why? Now you know, well, maybe listen, maybe I just haven't had that one right, that one right in which it has it has. Look at Jill remember her daddy her daddy moment as you. I'll see you in your daddy moment. I don't let us slip once she let us. Probably did let us slip, but it's not a habit for me. I talk a lot of ship. I believe. I believe you can make a man orgasm. In fact, I know it's true by by what you say. Give me one line, just give her a work. Come on, just give us one. Come on, come on. I can't do that. Just come on, just I can't do in the sentence, y'all have y'all have to tell me that one thing that a male say in bad complete turn know. I had to. I had to do giggle once and I was like, I'm done. You couldn't do I didn't. I didn't appreciate that. I wouldn't like that. Don't you stare? Yeah, we're in here, but that's I think of the exact thing. I think. It was like maybe something that was corny. Yes, that was like it was corny. And I was like, I don't really like my thing. Beat I don't like. I like. I like to feel it like you can do it, but I'd rather you not tell me you're about to beat this ship? How bad you're about to beat it up. I don't like. But Tina and I have this joke about violent words and about how men always use words that are synonymous with violence when they're talking about what they feel to do or not they do it, Like we had this whole conversation. Ever since then, it's like a thing we laugh about. So yeah, it's absent from intimacy that I love that. I don't like if someone says something regarding children while we're doing that. What you mean, what it's like, let me get you pregnant? Uh something something like that, something like that, because when I think of that, that instantly makes me think about responsibility. Yeah, you might through you, right though, Like after this moment over like what response a kid pampa's life just for a little bit of fun, for a little bit of fun, I did. I can recall one moment that that I really did enjoy it. I said that I couldn't take it. I was like, I can't, I can't take it all right, Yeah, and since you're not take it because it was so good it was it was touching places that I didn't know to existed, Like you know that that that the blackout, the blackout, like you consistently blackout like you come back and then blackout again back. Never were like a death not I do your blind well? Who put my titty on the table right here? I I can't see you, guys. I can't see like y'all wall But I heard love take man, girl, I don't remember death, yo take. I still want to ask you a question, but I don't want to ask you to work. But I'm a whole fan, so I'm gonna just ask you and I'm never gonna I would never ask you to sing or anything like that because that would just be rude. But because you did not come to set up, it is. It is a set up. I don't jill hat just I don't care because I'm a FA and I'm I'm gonna do something because you did not come to my city, book whatever whichever. When I'm in Where's my Feeling l A? When you I mean, I wentn't there at the time d C came to Feeling and I came in the DMV area. L A is my town, l A. That's where I like, I don't know about it. We got to play to get there, Okay, That's what I'm saying. Is it is. I'm not I just curious about a certain poem in this book, any poems in this book that really pulled to your heart and may pull to your heart today, where you might want to read us something. I'm just asking. I don't know so long. The one I like is like, but but I can't do survival. Guys, do whatever, yes, please, whatever you feel like in your heart, please please, please please. Okay, I'm gonna do son and move folk. Yeah, that one is sweet. Okay, Um. I used to call you son and I your moon. We gave each other such important names so early in the day. Maybe I can see why you turned the clips. I never thought up at the names would become bigger than the sky that carried them. I guess you. I didn't want the responsibility of brightening my day in that way. I didn't know you never wanted to glean like that. But you should know I didn't call you son with the intent for such a responsibility. I called your son because when I saw you, I shot mm hmmm, I love. This is a very horny episode the heart. I'm kind of squiggling around in the journey. Y'all already know. If I got the phone with y'all do a little writing session. You know, may call somebody yelled, maybe it's wrighting. Yeah, well, Tank, you have to, you have to. Didn't fill me in on some things, my friends. I thought I did last time I was on the phone with you, but you know you had your baby on the speaker phone. I told you something you did, but I didn't know. You know, I didn't know that the transactions. Yes, you told me something very important, and I don't mind repeating it to nobody. She told me make sure you get an HRV test. Yes, I did, to make sure that if you get involved with anybody in any way that you're just protected and use know your status, they know their status, and I do think that's very important. So black so strong and we're so immune. We are not That slavery mentality of us believing we're stronger than everybody else is a freaking myth. We got the same, we opened everything. It's like everybody else. So I respected the advice, and I already even had it in my mind. That's good. Hope you got that COVID test on his way out to you might as well get they got that one. You get to get that wall grade to test up, test up, tot upest up, stop, stop to listen. I love y'all, but I'm hungry and my soul on for total levels. Yeah, I understand. I was away for the weekend. I did get a chance to see Usher perform in Vegas, and that was that was quite the avowal. He still looked like a baby. Listen what he does. He's like, call me a man. Yes, he looks good. He still looks like he looks good. Yeah. I like this. He's gotten a little man weight. He's got a little man on him. Now. I put a little man weight on you when he was real skinny. I like that. I like that. You can tell it's a it's a man weight on that. Now, that's real nice. Bless him. All right, I'm gonna go and be such a good kisser. I'll tell you later. Thank you everybody for listening to Jay dot Ilda podcast. It is always a pleasure. Thank you too. I love you. I love you'all. I'm so happy I talked to you all the day. Get it hi. If you have comments on something we said in this episode called eight six six, Hey Jill, if you want to add to this conversation, that's eight six six nine five four five five. Don't forget to tell us your name and the episode you're referring to. You might just hear your message on a future episode. 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