Oct. 24, 2023

A Show About Nothing—What Happens When You Interview Someone "Ordinary"?

Can a conversation with an “ordinary” person be as compelling as one with an expert or a well-known figure? I decided to find out.

In this episode, I abandon my usual format—no research, no preparation, no predetermined topic—and sit down with Bob Smith (not his real name), a 73-year-old man from Massachusetts who has never been on TV, written a book, or held any position of power. He’s not an expert on anything in particular. He’s just... Bob.

But here’s the thing: Bob is hilarious, kind, quick-witted, and deeply important to his family and friends. He’s lived seven decades of life, with all its mundane beauty and unexpected turns. I wondered, What happens when you treat an “ordinary” person like they’re worth a deep, unscripted conversation?

The idea for this episode was inspired by Susan Orlean’s 1992 Esquire profile, “The American Man, Age 10,” where she parachuted into the life of a completely un-famous 10-year-old boy named Colin Duffy and found something universal and moving in his everyday existence.

Full transparency, Bob is my brother’s father-in-law. We see each other a couple times a year at holidays and family gatherings. I’ve always enjoyed his company—his stories, his sense of humor, his perspective. So I asked him a simple question: Would you let me interview you about nothing in particular?

What emerged was a conversation about life, family, work, aging, regret, joy, and all the small moments that make up a human existence. No agenda. No big ideas. Just two people talking.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What it’s like to be 73 and looking back on a life

• The jobs Bob has held and what he learned from them

• Marriage, fatherhood, and watching kids become adults

• The difference between who you thought you’d be and who you became

• Retirement, purpose, and what fills your days when work doesn’t

• The small pleasures that matter more as you get older

• Why “ordinary” lives are actually anything but

This is an experiment in curiosity. A reminder that everyone, literally everyone, has a story worth hearing if you’re willing to listen.