The Life You’re Good At vs. The Life You Actually Want | Todd Malloy

What if the life you’ve become good at living isn’t the life you truly want? Sometimes the hardest change isn’t starting over. It’s giving yourself permission to become who you’ve always been underneath the expectations.

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Signature Quote

“At 42 years old, I gave myself permission to be who I wanted to be on the inside.”

Todd Malloy

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Why This Quote Matters

Todd’s words capture the heart of this conversation: the freedom that comes when we stop living according to inherited expectations and start making intentional choices about who we want to become.

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Episode Description

How much of the life you’re living today was actually chosen by you?

In this deeply reflective conversation, psychotherapist Todd Malloy joins Audley Stephenson to explore intentional living, self-awareness, identity, emotional neglect, the stories we inherit and the courage required to let go of what no longer serves us. Todd challenges us to examine the narratives underneath our choices and recognize that being successful on the outside doesn’t necessarily mean we’re fulfilled on the inside.

Drawing from his own journey from engineering to ministry to psychotherapy, Todd shares how he eventually gave himself permission to pursue the life he had wanted all along. Together, Todd and Audley unpack what it means to choose yourself, redefine success on your own terms and trust the next step even when you can’t yet see the entire bridge ahead.

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This Episode Is For You If...

You’ve built a life that looks successful but doesn’t completely feel like yours

You’re questioning old beliefs, expectations or stories that no longer serve you

You’re standing at a crossroads and struggling to trust your next move

You’re learning to choose yourself without guilt

You’re ready to define success on your own terms

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Guest Bio

Todd Malloy is a psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified sex therapist and certified sexuality educator whose work centers on helping people become more fully who they are. At the heart of his approach is intentionality: understanding yourself, examining the narratives shaping your life and making conscious choices about where you want to go.

Todd’s perspective is deeply personal. Raised in a single-parent household, he took on adult responsibilities at a young age before eventually building a successful career in engineering. Yet professional achievement couldn’t silence the realization that he wanted his work to directly impact people’s lives. His path eventually took him through seminary, seven years as a senior pastor and, at age 42, back to the calling he had felt years earlier: becoming a therapist.

Today, Todd brings those experiences together to help people better understand themselves, communicate more honestly and build lives and relationships rooted in authenticity, intention and self-awareness.

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Guest Links

ToddMalloy.com

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