The Trifling Picnic Update: The Importance of Gathering

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In the latest episode of the “To Be and Do” podcast, host Phil Amerson takes us on a heartfelt journey about community, connection, and the simple yet profound joys of gathering. Drawing from years of tradition, Phil discusses the beloved “trifling picnic,” a playfully named event inspired by John Wesley, the founder of Methodism. While Wesley discouraged “triflingly employed” clergy, Phil and his community embraced the notion that sometimes, a bit of trifling—relaxing, laughing, and coming together—is what we need most.

This episode is a beautiful reminder that the simplest gatherings can have the deepest impacts. Here are three key takeaways from Phil’s message:

1. Community Matters More Than Tradition
For over a decade, the trifling picnic was a staple large gathering in Bloomington. But this year, Phil and the Belonging Exchange are changing things up. Instead of organizing one big picnic, they’re encouraging listeners to host their own smaller gatherings. The focus is not on size or tradition, but on fostering true connection—reminding us that community isn’t confined to familiar formats. Sometimes, scaling things down can open doors to more meaningful, intentional connections.

2. Make New Connections & Embrace Diversity
Phil challenges us to look beyond our established circles. He encourages inviting not just close friends and family, but also new people—especially those who may come from different backgrounds, races, or beliefs. As he puts it, the goal is to make these gatherings a “belonging exchange” where everyone has a seat at the table. In an increasingly divided world, these simple acts of inclusion can create ripples of understanding and unity.

3. Share Your Stories & Keep the Spirit Alive
Listeners are invited to send photos or short stories about their picnics—proof that these moments, no matter how trifling they seem, are worth celebrating and sharing. Phil mentions he’s already heard from several enthusiastic people ready to embrace the new format. By sharing our experiences, we inspire others to join in, and we reinforce a sense of broader community—even across great distances. Phil envisions trifling picnics happening all over the Midwest, and maybe even coast to coast.

At the heart of this episode is a call to action: let’s not underestimate the power of gathering, laughing, and belonging. Large or small, formal or casual, every picnic matters when it brings people together.

For more details about the trifling picnic tradition and how to host your own, be sure to visit belongingexchange.org. Whether you’re in Bloomington, Boston, or anywhere in between, you’re invited to participate in this celebration of connection…and maybe send a photo or story of your own!

Final Thought:
As we navigate busy, complex lives, Phil’s words are a refreshing nudge to slow down and remember that every act of gathering—no matter how small—is an act of encouragement and community building. Why not plan your own trifling picnic this year? The benefits, as Phil reminds us, are anything but trifling.